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why are guys soo nice in the beginning, then assholes in the end (pg. 6)
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| Psy-T |
the truth is:
monogomy is not intended for the human race (Or for any other race)
and thats not my opinion, thats a fact
MONOGOMY = ILLUSION
just my 2 (million) cents
alon |
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| igottaknow |
* nods to Psy-T and quietly pockets his $.02
If I follow this guy around I'll be a millionaire in no time :p |
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| LordTranceaLaut |
| quote: | Originally posted by hangover
Why DO girls fall for movie stars? I can only speculate but my guess is that's because it shows more than just their looks. There is also interaction between the beloved movie star and other characters that provides insight on his personality, and of course the fact that he is the star usually makes the viewer (boy or girl) identify with him, so we feel like we know him (even though we don't).
Oh and btw, most movie stars ARE jerks, so your point is actually supporting the theory... |
the interaction and the shape his personality takes is becoz of the movie script in his hand and whayt that tells him to do blehhhhhh |
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| LordTranceaLaut |
| quote: | Originally posted by politcs_of_danc
its sad but true....amen to this |
what uve said above it makes it sound like women r doing it all to gain power...thats not what love n true companionship r all about.....first girls who go after guys who're jerks reek of a lack of personality or even knowing whats good 4 them....a sensible girl wiud never blindly go after a jerk just to tame him......sure winning ur loved one over is a conquest....but its not right to make a habit of it...a girl whos in it just to tame that jerk whos good looking and who shed feel proud being around is only gonna regret later on in life |
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| kr00t0n |
| quote: | Originally posted by igottaknow
* nods to Psy-T and quietly pockets his $.02
If I follow this guy around I'll be a millionaire in no time :p |
PMSL!!! :D
I think it has to do with people having higher hopes in life than are realistic.
I don't know your ages, so I may be wrong, but alot of people seem to think that they'll meet 'the one' by their mid-twenties and this rarely happens.
Your twenties are the final stage of your major development stage in your life, and most people still arent sure exactly what they want from life/love/etc and often question what they do have.
I'm only 20, and would love to think that I will meet my perfect match in the coming years (tho I believe I may have met her already *sigh*), but it's an ideal that I won't hold too close to my heart as it is unlikely.
That's not to say that we don't have meaningful relationships in our teens and twenties, but they tend to be more of a learning-curve most of the time.
Yeah, I suffer form nice-guy syndrome, and are by no means ugly, unconfident or shy, but I do put women through 'trial runs' as to assertain our compatibility, and this leads to the 'but I don't want to lose oyu as a friend' effect that so many of us have experienced.
I've just stopped looking really, coz everyone I know says it happens when you least expect it. :) |
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| Konijn Island |
two points:
first women will choose the stereotypical "" over the stereotypical "nice" guy because the nice guy is simply ing boring and more importantly, dishonest with himself and others. "Nice" guys wallow in self pity about losing girls to "s" not because they long to 'improve' some woman's life, but because they are jealous that they're not the ones getting any ass--as if their "niceness" (often a synonym for unimaginative or boring) obligates women to date and screw them.
Second, a lot of relationships fail because we go into them not knowing (or being uncertain) about a few things. One, is what exactly we're looking for in a partner--not a long list of specifics, but just a bare list of essentials that we ourselves prize.
Also, we go into relationships not sure about how to deal with our partner's faults (and we all got 'em)--that's why you should get to know a person (through a trial period) before you seriously commit. This is where you decide what irksome habits of the other person you're willing to live with--and these can range from simple tardyness to infidelity. It's all about what you are willing to accept and what your personal boundaries are. Guys (and girls) don't suddenly become s when they get some ass or whatever--they always were but we simply overlooked some of the -like behavior during the honeymoon period of the relationship.
And of course, even when you do your darndest to make work, life (and relationships) has a habit of throwing many curveballs your way which often negates even the best intentions.
I write all this as a guy who's been in loads of failed relationships in the past, but who's been in a pretty good one for the past 6 years (i'm 25 but in dating years i'm a lot older...)
My advice is to just keep it simple--always be honest and respectful and always demand it in return. |
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| Orbax |
| quote: | Originally posted by Psy-T
the truth is:
monogomy is not intended for the human race (Or for any other race)
and thats not my opinion, thats a fact
MONOGOMY = ILLUSION
just my 2 (million) cents
alon |
were you TRYING to make the stupidest post ever, or did it just kind of come to you? |
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| kr00t0n |
And yet again, my heart gets snapped in two :(
Friend of mine that I've been spending lots of time with and kinda fallen for just told me how happy she is that her ex is coming over to the UK, coz they gonna get back together and stuff... *sigh*
I give up on befriending women, coz that just makes you friends and leaves you heart-sore in the end.
Bleh. |
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| politcs_of_danc |
| quote: | Originally posted by kr00t0n
And yet again, my heart gets snapped in two :(
Friend of mine that I've been spending lots of time with and kinda fallen for just told me how happy she is that her ex is coming over to the UK, coz they gonna get back together and stuff... *sigh*
I give up on befriending women, coz that just makes you friends and leaves you heart-sore in the end.
Bleh. |
:( sorry to hear that, why were you waisting your time and didnt tell her how you really feel???? see you lost your chance |
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| kr00t0n |
It's all very complicated.
She went out with one of my life-long (literally) friends for like 3 years. The broke up beginning of this year, she came over to the UK shortly after.
I was spending loads of time with her, and we really click, and i started falling for her.
Seeing as she was out of a long relationship, and not wanting to rush things, I gave her time.
Now her and her ex have been texting eachother from other sides of the planet (he's still in South Africa) and he's coming over now, and they gonna get back together.
She's still unaware of my feelings for her, and I dont wanna stab one of my longest friends in the back either. :( |
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| politcs_of_danc |
| quote: | Originally posted by kr00t0n
It's all very complicated.
She went out with one of my life-long (literally) friends for like 3 years. The broke up beginning of this year, she came over to the UK shortly after.
I was spending loads of time with her, and we really click, and i started falling for her.
Seeing as she was out of a long relationship, and not wanting to rush things, I gave her time.
Now her and her ex have been texting eachother from other sides of the planet (he's still in South Africa) and he's coming over now, and they gonna get back together.
She's still unaware of my feelings for her, and I dont wanna stab one of my longest friends in the back either. :( |
errrrr dayum, your in a bad situation...yeah you really cant stab your best bud....sigh wish i can help, but the only thing i can tell you is wait, hopefully she will realize someway, somehow her and your best bud are not working out, then YOU GO FOR THE KILL ;) ..if its really meant to be , it will happen...THATS THE WAY I LOOK AT RELATIONSHIPS NOW :rolleyes: |
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| Vlad |
| All I gotta say about this is, I probably fit the non-model guy 99.9% of the way. Im a guy that .1% is hard to get around. But there isnt a single soul that I havent met that said I was too nice or it will be hard for me to get a girl being the way I am. I am completely self-sufficent, which most guys arent (I might get bashed for that comment, but you, its true). My friends keep tellin me how nice guys finish last, I say oh well to that. Girls complain about how 'the right' guys are hard to find, I say bull to that, you just overlook us. |
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