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Did I Fuck Up? [another girl advice thread] (pg. 2)
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| butterfly |
| quote: | Originally posted by Echo of Silence
wow, that last paragraph is almost offensive to me. What does the fact that she's from another country have to do with anything? And why does her reaction to your lack of follow-up make you think that she "needs a serious relationship so bad?"
I'm from another country and I don't "need" anything.
However, if I spent a lot of time becoming intimate with you (talking, sharing, touching, kissing, hugging, going out, making out) and the intimacy evolved into sex, I imagine that I would be pissed if you didn't call for 2 days. Just seems a little inconsiderate? I guess the only time I would find it acceptable for you not to call for two days is during finals week.
I'm 18 by the way. Maybe I would respond differently if I were older?
So yeah, you blew it with your little "foreigner." :rolleyes: Move on, its easier. Don't bother to apologize for being a slightly insensitive dick. IMO, she's better off without you. Next time, if you're actually interested in continuing what you've started, call and be more attentive after the big moment. :) |
omg you are a girl?!
and i agree with you, just maybe not with as much passion. |
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| butterfly |
| quote: | Originally posted by whiskers
let's stereotype a little
most girls think that all guys want is sex. there are 2 stereotypes in the previous sentence.
the last time i heard the statement that "all guys want is sex" from a girl, she went on to bang her friend's boyfriend while having a 'thing' with another guy 'at the same time' (not an threesome, just cheating). but of course, she could be lying just like that chick in American Beauty.
so yeah. i'd stay away from those girls who think that all guys want is sex. they still have quite a lot to learn in life. relationships are all good unless they're totally based on making out and sex, then they kinda tend to fall apart, you know. :rolleyes: |
i used to think that too. then i dated a guy for a year and a half who wanted sex like once a month. it was excruitiating. that is when i learned that women very often have a bigger sex drive than men. |
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| nic01445 |
| quote: | Originally posted by Echo of Silence
However, if I spent a lot of time becoming intimate with you (talking, sharing, touching, kissing, hugging, going out, making out) and the intimacy evolved into sex, I imagine that I would be pissed if you didn't call for 2 days. Just seems a little inconsiderate? I guess the only time I would find it acceptable for you not to call for two days is during finals week. |
no, it is not inconsiderate.
why didnt she call? how inconsiderate of her.
idiot. |
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| Trancealot |
why did you not call her for two days.
I had to explain to my GF why I would never talk to her on AIM and that was a whole big situation but I told she could call me anytime 24/7. When its your GF calling her anytime is not considered stalking her. Don't ever hold out calling her because of so called nonwritten rules. I think you should of called her during those 2 open days just because you wanted to talk.
My point is don't ever hold yourself back from talking or beign with your GF unless for reasons beyond your control. Then she will understand. Its prob not about the sex but a bigger thing because sometimes even girls don't know what the hell they are doing. What I call a bitch. |
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| raek |
| lets make love butterfly |
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| whiskers |
| quote: | Originally posted by nic01445
idiot. |
who are you calling an idiot? |
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| ahlamalek |
why did it take you 2 days to call her back if you care that much about her?!?!?
anyways man, the ball is in your camp. |
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| raek |
| "the ball is in your court" |
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| whiskers |
| quote: | Originally posted by raek
"the ball is in your court" |
lol, raKE, you biznitch, where you been? banned? :D |
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| raek |
| reality my friend, reality |
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| Shad0wmaster |
| quote: | Originally posted by DJMikeyP
Ok so in a nutshell me and this girl are getting along very well. We spend alot of time kissing, hugging, going out places, spending all night talking in the car. A few times the making out gets a little heavy and obviously I started it.
So anyways cut to our first night together in a hotel. Cool night, then the next morning everything *seems* good. We kiss, run our seperate ways (off to class)... I see her in our mutual class, shes nice to me, she calls me at home that day to say hi...
Then I call her about 2 frikkin days later, she doesn't answer my call. I see her at school 3 days later, she is pissed-looking at me. After class is out, she says she wants to break up because I 'only think about sex'. Thats it - thats her only reason. We've had sex 1 time, and the other dates we went on were so NOT about sex until the end when we made out a little, and even then I only started up the heavy petting sessions a couple of times. She said the main reason was because the next morning she was sniffling a little, and I mentioned it was too bad we didn't wake up earlier or we could have had sex again before class. She said this proved to her that I only think about my dick and am not interested in her.
I just don't get it. If I didn't think she was too sniffly for sex, that doesn't mean I don't care about her - it just means I wanted some. Its not like she TOLD me she was too sick for it and I argued. Is this for real? What did I do wrong? My friend says its because I waited 2 days to call her after sex and broke some kind of 'golden rule', which I can accept... But does that sound right to you?
Thanks for any advice peeps. By the way I don't want her back, this seems too whacked to deal with. Just wondering so I can avoid the same 'mistake' in the future.
Mike |
welcome to a classic case of girls being their usual psychotic selves. the advice others gave is good, but if there's nothing you can say or do that convinces her that you're not using her for sex, dump her and move on. |
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