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Did I Fuck Up? [another girl advice thread] (pg. 7)
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| Slylee |
| im just trying to spread the love....i don't feel good today:o |
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| Orbax |
| quote: | Originally posted by Slylee
im just trying to spread the love....i don't feel good today:o |
I hope you get better...so you can get off my ASS
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| UWM |
| quote: | Originally posted by Orbax
hehe I did and it said "Save your money for a supercharger, itll be more reliable and itll be more fun"
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My car is one of the few things I DO have affection for...ever see that SNL skit with the car called the Mistress? ;) |
My thinking would be (IF I wanted a supercharger for my car that I don't have)
"Wow spend two bucks on a rubber and have some fun with a good looking girl. And I can still afford that supercharger later. And not come off looking wierd!"
But that's just me. |
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| Orbax |
| well there is also that whole thing about morals too lol |
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| DigiNut |
I kind of see Orbax's point. For some people, it's hard to make love to a girl you don't love. And in this day and age, it seems like all kinds of people just expect the love to come after the sex, like we're just gonna do it and then suddenly we'll have feelings for each other. Well it doesn't work that way for all of us.
People here are so sexually obsessed. By all means, if it's someone I'm attracted to and care about and she wants it, I'll give it to her, any time, any place. But the situation suddenly becomes uncomfortable when sex is supposed to be the stepping stone into the relationship. It's like these girls are just using sex as a tool to force a guy into a relationship and to give himself over emotionally - and many of the ones that don't do that consciously, do it unconsciously. Sex becomes some sort of validation for them, an act of desperation rather than an act of love.
I have guy friends that just go out for sex, no strings attached. After the sex, the girl suddenly refers to him as her boyfriend (and yes, guys may do this to girls too). That's crap, it says that the person was just using sex to gain something - perhaps to gain something intangible, but that's not the point. It's almost whorish. And it sets a foundation for a relationship that will ultimately not last very long, because as soon as the sex diminishes, so does the love.
Maybe I'm idealistic... I don't care. I agree, people shouldn't put out so damn easily. It's weird. Take your time. Let things develop. Don't try to push it so hard. That's just my opinion, though. |
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| Orbax |
| quote: | Originally posted by DigiNut
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Basically hehe. There is *no* way I would be a virgin right now if those girls had been more attractive to me. I have morals, but...yeah...when they are hot: uNF
and im a huge fan of developing relationships over periods of time. Im not buying into this "wait until the 3rd date to " rule that people hail as the model of restraint. I dont like dates, i dont like dating. I like hanging out and hiking and playing X box and drinkin, and talking until 4 am. One of those nights something usually starts to kick in and you know whats going on.
I think the "game" of love these days is pretty twisted. and people try to meld their physical attractions into emotional ones when it should be a 180 of that. Then again im old fashioned. |
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| UWM |
Well, it's not like I'm going out and trying to sleep with some new girl every time I go out. Not even close. My standards are MUCH too high (which I suppose is good and bad).
But I wouldn't have a problem if I was intersted in a girl and we were both having fun with each other and it ended up coming to that. It's nothing I would EVER push or make an issue unless the girl felt comfortable first, and that's how it will always be.
But if she's hot and wants to party, game on. |
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| Orbax |
| quote: | Originally posted by UWM
But if she's hot and wants to party, game on. |
yep. my standards are insanely high as well. Too many people settle for less and end up miserable. Cute girls dont exist in my reality at the moment though. Im not going to school, im not 21, and I work at an electronics super store.
Europe was interesting though :eyespop: but my morality wouldnt allow the ive known you for 1 hour but lets before you go thing.
in 3 months I turn 21 and move into my apartment in Seattle as I start my Pre-Law classes. Did you know that 80% of people in law school and prelaw are women? *insane laughter* |
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| UWM |
| quote: | Originally posted by Orbax
in 3 months I turn 21 and move into my apartment in Seattle as I start my Pre-Law classes. Did you know that 80% of people in law school and prelaw are women? *insane laughter* |
Well when you are hooking up with 0% of them it doesn't really matter what % is female now does it?
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| Orbax |
| quote: | Originally posted by UWM
Well when you are hooking up with 0% of them it doesn't really matter what % is female now does it?
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0 can also represent infinite :P
edit* and I have to say that I am very happy where I am relationship wise. I mean itd be great to find a girl who can hike and run, likes working out, is smart, attractive, and is going somewhere in life, but Im not going to settle for someone who cant fit into my lifestyle. And I refuse to limit myself. When I was 19 I was able to buy a $24,000 by myself because I had saved my money instead of blowing it on stupid . Im getting myself an apartment in a few months. Too many people end up in dorms or student loans riding the bus because theyve dropped untold thousands on various clubs, bars, drinks, and women, and ended up with nothing to show for it.
Not to be getting all serious of course, but I look back on the opportunities I have had and I would not change a single thing that I did. But I gotta go to work. More on this later. |
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| UWM |
Well, lim x->0 1/x can represent infinity, but not zero.
Do not pass go, do not collect $200. |
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| DigiNut |
| quote: | Originally posted by Orbax
Basically hehe. There is *no* way I would be a virgin right now if those girls had been more attractive to me. I have morals, but...yeah...when they are hot: uNF
and im a huge fan of developing relationships over periods of time. Im not buying into this "wait until the 3rd date to " rule that people hail as the model of restraint. I dont like dates, i dont like dating. I like hanging out and hiking and playing X box and drinkin, and talking until 4 am. One of those nights something usually starts to kick in and you know whats going on.
I think the "game" of love these days is pretty twisted. and people try to meld their physical attractions into emotional ones when it should be a 180 of that. Then again im old fashioned. |
Yes, this is exactly what I'm talking about.
The trick is finding a cute girl who understands it too!
I don't disagree with UWM or anyone else either - I mean, everybody can view relationships how they want, it's a personal thing - I just don't think people like us should be bashed because we're old-fashioned/idealistic/whatever. |
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