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| Aristronica |
| quote: | Originally posted by butterfly
sane now, yes. but i was a total headcase after that guy did that to me. so learn from it. you dont want to be responsible for sending a girl to the therapist do you? |
ok let me tell a little story
3 months into the relationship, she said that I wasn't treating her like i used to etc etc went and did with another guy, then she was like we need to talk, so i met her and she told me she did this and said that she wanted to break up so I was like fine, go ahead and break up, then she was like i'm not sure, i'm like do what you want, but my feelings are strong for you and you pull this kind of it'll be pretty hard for me to let you back, but i'm a strong believer in second chances so whatever, i looked past it and for the next 3 months it's been awesome, but then this happens and no to be ing ghey about it but she had her second chance, granted she didn't like cheat on me but it's pretty ty when i get ed for taking a weekend off for myself and just doing things i like, on top of everything else i didn't cheat on her, and ohh believe me when i say i could have, easily, and of course she had every right to be jealous, but pulling the whole "i give up on you" bull is well... bull
i really just don't know what to do with her, i don't want these pleasant surprises every 3 months |
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| JM |
| quote: | Originally posted by torontotrance
PWNED!!!!!!
with that being said, back to talking to my friend's best friend. My friend said we'd be great together, sounds good so far :). |
now thats the way to meet a new girl! go get her!
>JM< |
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| butterfly |
| quote: | Originally posted by Aristronica
i really just don't know what to do with her, i don't want these pleasant surprises every 3 months |
actually in my current relationship for the first year or so we had big fights about that often. a few times it looked like it was over but we used that communication thing and worked out our issues. the big issues got less frequent as our relationship developed and real trust and caring took the place of the initial excitement.
it will never work if you dont make the effort. you have to decide if the girl is worth making the effort for or not. |
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| JM |
| quote: | Originally posted by Aristronica
i really just don't know what to do with her, i don't want these pleasant surprises every 3 months |
dude, 3 months seems to be the cycle time for girls to reflect and bitch. i had to deal with it just about every 3 months with my girl, and we're together now for 1 year (tomorrow)... so learn to communicate, be firm with her, and let her know how you feel. but also, don't do her wrong. if you want it to work out, you'll put forth the effort and so will she.
>JM< |
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| goodgreefgirl |
there are fall outs in relationships (big ones and small ones) and whether they happen every 2 weeks or every 4 months (sometimes stuff just gets built up and pms might come around and everything crashes)..DOESN'T MEAN YOU GIVE UP ON THE RELATIONSHIP.. because ..guess what... its like that everywhere, with all girls.... and IF YOU took the other way out and RESORTED TO GUYS, u'd have the same thing with guys too
its just life, and how things roll.. build up of anger/jealousy/caring for you... sometimes brings out the worst of us. we try to be the good girlfriends but sometimes we cant even control what we say or do. later, after the anger has passed, we realize that we were in the wrong and we might admit it or might not, but guys do it all the time too so why is this any different?
if you say you love her, then be with her. she's good to you and just because youve had 2 bigger fall outs doesnt mean its the end of the world.
if you dont love her, and you dont think you ever can...then end it right now. but just to let you know... you probably wont get much better than u have it. |
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| lücid |
| quote: | Originally posted by Aristronica
ok let me tell a little story
3 months into the relationship, she said that I wasn't treating her like i used to etc etc went and did with another guy, then she was like we need to talk, so i met her and she told me she did this and said that she wanted to break up so I was like fine, go ahead and break up, then she was like i'm not sure, i'm like do what you want, but my feelings are strong for you and you pull this kind of it'll be pretty hard for me to let you back, but i'm a strong believer in second chances so whatever, i looked past it and for the next 3 months it's been awesome, but then this happens and no to be ing ghey about it but she had her second chance, granted she didn't like cheat on me but it's pretty ty when i get ed for taking a weekend off for myself and just doing things i like, on top of everything else i didn't cheat on her, and ohh believe me when i say i could have, easily, and of course she had every right to be jealous, but pulling the whole "i give up on you" bull is well... bull
i really just don't know what to do with her, i don't want these pleasant surprises every 3 months |
honestly, it sounds like neither of you are really ready to handle a serious relationship.
i'd like to point out that it might be a positive thing though, because both of you will most likely learn from the mistakes you have made. if you can't work it out between each other, then you will probably go into your next relationship with more understanding and compassion for how relationships work. so just look at it as a learning experience, no matter how tough things may get.
good luck to both of you. |
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| Slylee |
oh god, u sound like a typical immature, self centered guy. let her move on and find someone who will treat her better. you're not ready for a relationship. trust me.
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k just read more of the thread. like lucid said...neither of you are ready. |
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| Aristronica |
i am pretty self-centered, i'll admit it, but immature i don't think so, say what you will tho, that's what this is for.
i'm just trying to absorb what people have to say before i talk to her tonight about it, so far it's pretty good i'm starting to get a little less confused
btw, butterfly has the best advice out of any of you |
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| LoCa |
| quote: | Originally posted by Aristronica
ok let me tell a little story
3 months into the relationship, she said that I wasn't treating her like i used to etc etc went and did with another guy, then she was like we need to talk, so i met her and she told me she did this and said that she wanted to break up so I was like fine, go ahead and break up, then she was like i'm not sure, i'm like do what you want, but my feelings are strong for you and you pull this kind of it'll be pretty hard for me to let you back, but i'm a strong believer in second chances so whatever, i looked past it and for the next 3 months it's been awesome, but then this happens and no to be ing ghey about it but she had her second chance, granted she didn't like cheat on me but it's pretty ty when i get ed for taking a weekend off for myself and just doing things i like, on top of everything else i didn't cheat on her, and ohh believe me when i say i could have, easily, and of course she had every right to be jealous, but pulling the whole "i give up on you" bull is well... bull
i really just don't know what to do with her, i don't want these pleasant surprises every 3 months |
Yeah... somehow i have trouble believing this whole 'she cheated on me before' story. It's coming out now that you got told by a bunch of people that you were a bad 'boyfriend' (i wouldn't even call you that).
And for your information i don't necessarily stick to the 'vagina's' side. I take sides according to the story i see, and in this one, until the little sob story about cheating came out, you seemed, and still do seem, like the bad guy. |
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| butterfly |
| so are you going to break up with her or work it out? |
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| Aristronica |
work it out, what else, giving up would just be an easy way out of it
maybe there's something she wants from me that i'm not doing right, i guess i'll just talk it over with her and see where that leads us
i'm having a great time with her and everyone's right - to quit because something like this scares me off would be idiotic, especially since she wants to be together, i just need to find out why she feels the need to threaten our relationship at times |
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| Aristronica |
| quote: | Originally posted by LoCa
Yeah... somehow i have trouble believing this whole 'she cheated on me before' story. It's coming out now that you got told by a bunch of people that you were a bad 'boyfriend' (i wouldn't even call you that).
And for your information i don't necessarily stick to the 'vagina's' side. I take sides according to the story i see, and in this one, until the little sob story about cheating came out, you seemed, and still do seem, like the bad guy. |
and i think you're just full of , but hey, that's what COR is for right??? |
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