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You gotta love yourself before you can love someone else ... explanation? (pg. 2)
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| Tordan |
| In relation to men I think this statement has to do with confidence. Ask any girl what qualities they look for in a man and confidence is way up on the list. But this quality doesn't come easy. I know it's contradictory but if you love yourself you should be willing to put yourself at risk to find what you want. If you get hurt, learn from it, try again and that's how you build confidence. |
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| starsearcher |
| quote: | Originally posted by StereoPrincess
the saying is "you have to love yourself before someone else can love you". |
:haha: :stongue: Yeah that's the one...when I read the first one something seemed fishy :p
The real question is - do you WANT a relationship? ;) maybe on some subcounscious level you are rejecting it ;) |
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| dEsidEL |
i deem this thread.. a TAesque thread!
tha TOTA manfest must every now and then cry on each other's shoulders.. keep tha Unity! :D
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| Tordan |
| quote: | Originally posted by dEsidEL
i deem this thread.. a TAesque thread!
tha TOTA manfest must every now and then cry on each other's shoulders.. keep tha Unity! :D
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So you're lending us a shoulder? :toothless
{dEsidEL think to himself} More palm tress dammit !!! |
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| Nabs |
| quote: | Originally posted by Tordan
So you're lending us a shoulder? :toothless
{dEsidEL think to himself} More palm tress dammit !!! |
haha good stuff
ya magnetonium its true. THink about it this way.
If you can't love yourself or be satisfied with your own personality, life, appearance, whatever, then you can't satisfy another person. You will try and project that image unto them subconsiously, and it will all turn sour. No good. Got to be satisfied with yourself. |
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| Skipper |
| quote: | Originally posted by kamil
Its bull, seriously, youll find someone eventually that accepts you for who you are. Anyone that ever tells this ing is an idiot and has problems of their own. |
How old are you?? Are you serious?
I have always said this, and from past relationships I have found it to be true.
It means that you need to be your own person, be independent and self sufficient before you can truly love anyone else. You need to be happy being alone before you can be truly happy with someone else. You need to have a life outside of a relationship, and be satisfied with that life, before you can invite someone in. Otherwise, your intention in that relationship won't JUST be to be with that person, but also to not be alone. That shouldn't be part of your motivation to be involved with someone. (although this is a very sub-conscious motivation, not often recognized by the individual, but always obvious to close friends)
I have several girlfriends who MUST have a boyfriend. They cannot exist on their own! They are not happy being alone, they base their self worth on a relationship. They have been in a sequence of relationships for so long that they don't even know what they are like as a single entity anymore - they are always half of something. I just ended a relationship mostly because of this issue.
Before you can fully love and appreciate someone else, you need a good sense of self, of independence - this is what it means to love yourself. You have to love yourself before you truly love anyone else. |
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| amb_ |
| quote: | Originally posted by Skipper
How old are you?? Are you serious?
I have always said this, and from past relationships I have found it to be true.
It means that you need to be your own person, be independent and self sufficient before you can truly love anyone else. You need to be happy being alone before you can be truly happy with someone else. You need to have a life outside of a relationship, and be satisfied with that life, before you can invite someone in. Otherwise, your intention in that relationship won't JUST be to be with that person, but also to not be alone. That shouldn't be part of your motivation to be involved with someone. (although this is a very sub-conscious motivation, not often recognized by the individual, but always obvious to close friends)
I have several girlfriends who MUST have a boyfriend. They cannot exist on their own! They are not happy being alone, they base their self worth on a relationship. They have been in a sequence of relationships for so long that they don't even know what they are like as a single entity anymore - they are always half of something. I just ended a relationship mostly because of this issue.
Before you can fully love and appreciate someone else, you need a good sense of self, of independence - this is what it means to love yourself. You have to love yourself before you truly love anyone else. |
Well said. |
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| DigiNut |
| Also, you should take lots of E. |
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| amb_ |
| quote: | Originally posted by DigiNut
Also, you should take lots of E. |
This thread is quickly becoming a fountain of wisdom this afternoon... |
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| DigiNut |
| quote: | Originally posted by amb_
This thread is quickly becoming a fountain of wisdom this afternoon... |
Hey, would you honestly say that I'm wrong? |
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| amb_ |
| quote: | Originally posted by DigiNut
Hey, would you honestly say that I'm wrong? |
No, probably not. :) |
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| Magnetonium |
Wow .... thanks guys!
I've been told more and better info with regards to this quote here than on all the times I asked people this question ...
Except maybe for the 'E' part :stongue: .
And honestly, yes, I think I am suffering from this not-loving-myself-enough syndrome ... it's not an easy thing to build confidence on, especially when I get a rejection after a rejection ... but I'll try! :D |
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