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TA girls: Would you take the last name of your husband? (pg. 8)
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| PartEgurl |
| quote: | Originally posted by tatgirl
That is a dilemma right there! LOL!
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Heh, yes a little dilemma !! If we did get married we would live on his property which is on Lindsay Lane, so I would be Linzie Lindsay that lives on Lindsay Lane, woooohhooo !
Defintily an exception here.... |
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| High on PSI |
| quote: | Originally posted by Cosmopolitan82
I'm an old fashioned girl.. definitely take my husbands name.
Roger's last name sounds perfect with my first name
Heather Helmy.. nice ring to it ;) |
Like you ever had a choice :D |
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| Jem_hadar |
Hmmm, in Canada can it even be an option for the guy to take the chick's last name :conf:
Would anyone here even consider that an option ??
Whut are some of yalls (guys) opinions of this? im really curious... |
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| starsearcher |
| quote: | Originally posted by Jem_hadar
Hmmm, in Canada can it even be an option for the guy to take the chick's last name :conf:
Would anyone here even consider that an option ??
Whut are some of yalls (guys) opinions of this? im really curious... |
Depends on the name of course but I wouldn't have a problem with that...but that's considering I don't really like my own otherwise I'm not sure if I would...I don't have a problem if she wouldn't want to but that doesn't mean i'll take hers ;) |
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| Jayx1 |
| quote: | Originally posted by Jem_hadar
Hmmm, in Canada can it even be an option for the guy to take the chick's last name :conf:
Would anyone here even consider that an option ??
Whut are some of yalls (guys) opinions of this? im really curious... |
hell no...
I think someone said it best earlier. Whats next? The man wears the wedding dress and the woman wears the tux?
As for linsay lindsay.. yeah that would be an issue. But id still want the kids to carry on the family name even if you didnt |
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| starsearcher |
| quote: | Originally posted by Jayx1
hell no...
I think someone said it best earlier. Whats next? The man wears the wedding dress and the woman wears the tux?
As for linsay lindsay.. yeah that would be an issue. But id still want the kids to carry on the family name even if you didnt |
Family name...meaning...YOUR name... ;) Just cause someone decided ages ago that a man's name is the family name doesn't mean it's true... :stongue: |
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| Jayx1 |
| quote: | Originally posted by starsearcher
Family name...meaning...YOUR name... ;) Just cause someone decided ages ago that a man's name is the family name doesn't mean it's true... :stongue: |
yes it does. Its called tradition. its the reason we celebrate christmas. Its the reason we drive on the right hand side. Its the reason we do many things the way we do them. Being modern doesnt mean having to forsake tradition. |
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| starsearcher |
| quote: | Originally posted by Jayx1
yes it does. Its called tradition. its the reason we celebrate christmas. Its the reason we drive on the right hand side. Its the reason we do many things the way we do them. Being modern doesnt mean having to forsake tradition. |
Ah ok well that's a different story :) so you just want to remain traditional...that's ok then :) |
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| charmscars |
| quote: | Originally posted by lipstick
id keep my last, i dont want kids so that answers that question. hypothetically speaking,,,, if i did have a kid,, the last name would depend, i think i have a pretty good last name... but if the person i marry has a nicer one then,, theyd get that one. |
Kennedy girls 4 Life (whon whon) |
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| charmscars |
on a serious note:
I have no problem w/ women or men deciding to take a spouse's name, that's a personal choice. I think the best arument for having the same name, is having a family with one name, one unit.
That said, I think it's worth taking a look at the historical circumstances that surround this practice. I've mentioned this in other threads: marriage originated as a western practice for men to be able to keep property among their family lines. When men and women married, all of her possesions became his property and thus she became his property. So in that circumstance it totally made sense to take the man's last name- the woman came under his care.
Now, men and women can own their own property and have the capacity to be equals in a relationship. If me and my partner are contributing equally to a family why should I be changing my name and identity? we are taking care of eachother, he is not taking care of me alone. If anything, I am honouring my parents who DID take care of me and raise me to be a self-sufficient adult by keeping their last name. To me, taking a spouse's name is anachronstic, and under no circumstances will I ever do it. |
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| EvilTree |
| quote: | Originally posted by charmscars
on a serious note:
I have no problem w/ women or men deciding to take a spouse's name, that's a personal choice. I think the best arument for having the same name, is having a family with one name, one unit.
That said, I think it's worth taking a look at the historical circumstances that surround this practice. I've mentioned this in other threads: marriage originated as a western practice for men to be able to keep property among their family lines. When men and women married, all of her possesions became his property and thus she became his property. So in that circumstance it totally made sense to take the man's last name- the woman came under his care.
Now, men and women can own their own property and have the capacity to be equals in a relationship. If me and my partner are contributing equally to a family why should I be changing my name and identity? we are taking care of eachother, he is not taking care of me alone. If anything, I am honouring my parents who DID take care of me and raise me to be a self-sufficient adult by keeping their last name. To me, taking a spouse's name is anachronstic, and under no circumstances will I ever do it. |
There's also this kinda weird concept that by wife taking husband's last name, this two become one sort of notion happens. (Or is that just an excuse...)
On more interesting note, Babe Ruth's mom's name was Mrs. Ruth Ruth. :D |
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| misticat |
[QUOTE]Originally posted by EvilTree
Pretty much my opinion.
Actually in some cultures, (I know in Korean culture) wives keep their maiden name. I don't know why some cultures put tremendous importance on wives taking their husbands' names. After all, it is the love that is most imporant, no? :)
And those of you who said depends on whether the name sounds nice or not, do you not think that's kinda shallow? Are you going to be a cooler person because you have a cool sounding last name? [/QUOTE
I'm afraid I havr to concur with evil tree on the shallow part. But above all this is the importance of keeping the family name in existance which goes back to my earlier comment about my last child having both names. eg Tara Shana Gold- Raunelli. The mothers name frist and then the dads. They dont have to use the name but its there to keep the name going! Theres always a pausitive solution to everything!:tongue3 |
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