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Do women tend to look for the "next one" before getting rid of the current one (pg. 2)
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| Spunky Girl |
| quote: | Originally posted by sandstorm03
sometimes though girls seem to get stuck in their own little games with themselves that they dont even remember what they want any more. So in the end imo this doesn't even help. |
I agree 100%, im done with games, i want a long term meaningful relationship. |
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| ZzZ The Goddess |
| Well in my case if I am even looking for potential runners up its a sign to myself that I am not happy with who I am with so I normally analyze the relationship at that point and let him go. In most cases I dont really go looking to begin with. I am very big on natural chemistry. Sometimes you meet the right person and they come to you and things just flow. |
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| M@t |
| quote: | Originally posted by sandstorm03
But i think to call this just a female thing, is kinda wrong because I know guys that just do the same thing. Like they will go out with this girl for certin reasons. And once in a relationship will look for a "better girl." And do it again and again. Like jamie said you have to grow out of that phase, cause not many people are "perfect" :) . |
Well that was gonna be my next question; whether guys are the same.
I think some probably are, but for different reasons to girls maybe, i.e sex on tap. While a girl might do it for security and comfort etc.
Thus far it seems all women do it :p |
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| Slylee |
| quote: | Originally posted by M@t
Well that was gonna be my next question; whether guys are the same.
I think some probably are, but for different reasons to girls maybe, i.e sex on tap. While a girl might do it for security and comfort etc.
Thus far it seems all women do it :p |
hmmm, it has been my observation that men do it more...like just keep some chick around because she's pretty and good in the sack, yet they are always looking over their shoulder at the club for someone better...at least when females do it, it's for a better reason other than just "oh he's a great lay". lol but i know there are women out there who will keep a guy around for ridiculous and selfish reasons as well.
and by the way, this game boils down to one thing only, insecurity. |
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| Moral Hazard |
| quote: | Originally posted by M@t
Well that was gonna be my next question; whether guys are the same.
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I think that in general men are not the same. Usually when a man has reached the point that he wants out of a relationship he has begun to view said relationship as a burdon. If one views something as a burdon then one will want to rid themselves of it as quickly as possible. I know that this is always how I have acted. |
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| Spunky Girl |
| Well iv never been with a guy for security, its been like ' hey wanna get 2gether? Yeah y not?' Maybe i dont come across as a proper gf... whatever that is. |
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| Slylee |
| quote: | Originally posted by Spunky Girl
Well iv never been with a guy for security, its been like ' hey wanna get 2gether? Yeah y not?' Maybe i dont come across as a proper gf... whatever that is. |
maybe you have intimacy problems then...do you get uncomfortable "letting people in" type of thing? |
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| Moral Hazard |
| quote: | Originally posted by Slylee
maybe you have intimacy problems then...do you get uncomfortable "letting people in" type of thing? |
It sounds to me as though she has no trouble "letting people in" |
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| Spunky Girl |
| quote: | Originally posted by Slylee
maybe you have intimacy problems then...do you get uncomfortable "letting people in" type of thing? |
I'll let people in if they waan get 2 know me, lol my dad is a marraige counselar so iv heard this b4. |
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| Slylee |
u've heard it before, meaning, your dad tells you that? u seem to have all the signs of someone like that...i'm not saying it's bad, but i mean, just be honest with yourself...so many people have distorted self images and are in denial...sorry don't mean to sound like i'm picking on you, but i'm just reading your posts and observing.
it's ok i'm in denial too...(see sig) :p |
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| Spunky Girl |
| quote: | Originally posted by Moral Hazard
It sounds to me as though she has no trouble "letting people in" |
oh haha! im not like that. |
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| Spunky Girl |
| quote: | Originally posted by Slylee
it's ok i'm in denial too...(see sig) :p |
ok, but ull need a denial partner, and although im not in denial we can b in denial 2gether. |
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