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My girlfriend is a whore... (pg. 11)
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| DigiNut |
| quote: | Originally posted by d!abolic
As far as the alcohol goes - i forbid her to drink if i'm not around. Period. As far as i know, she hasn't. |
So we've now established that you're also a control freak in addition to a narcissist, a and a heartless jerk. Gee, I can't imagine why you'd ever run into relationship problems.
Keep diggin' that hole, man... you picked a strange place to come for sympathy after all the smack you've talked here. |
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| d!abolic |
| Anyway, to give you guys an update here. The original post was made after she called me from the subway station, crying her eyes out and telling me about what happened. I told her to take the last train down here so that we can talk in person, and shortly after writing the post, drove off to pick her up. I was pretty cold with her. Didn't let her in the house and talked to her outside for over an hour. Basically told her that i don't want her to be my girlfriend anymore. After we were finished talking, it was almost 4AM, so i took her in and let her sleep in my bed. The last thing i remember is her crying and asking for a second chance, and me saying that i'll think about it in the morning. Yea, she was crying the entire time. I had no idea someone could cry that much. From the time she called me at around midnight, all the way until i fell asleep. I woke up to use the washroom at 6AM, and she was still crying. Apparently, she barely slept. I went back to sleep, and finally woke up again when my alarm clock rang. You guessed it, her cheeks were still wet. Yea, she was sorry alright. I had a meeting in the morning, so i took her with me in the car. She waited for me for two hours in 30-degree heat without AC. In the meantime, she wrote out a couple of pages with her thoughts and the things she would have to change about herself to make herself worthy of getting a second chance, which is pretty much all we talked about until i dropped her off at her place during lunch. In a nutshell, she accepted full responsibility and admitted that she has a problem that will ruin her chances at happiness with me or anyone, until it is dealt with. We identified her problem as low self-esteem, apparently because she was raised in a family where the mother was often abused and cheated on. Her whole image of men, relationships and love is horribly skewed, as is her sense of self-esteem. As a result, she feels she needs to be desired by men in order to feel good about herself, which of course leads to situations like this. She agreed to start working on herself immediately and not stop until she becomes worthy of being my girlfriend, at which point i'll consider taking her back. I gave her a month to show me some serious progress and helped her work out a plan to reprogram her subconscious and redesign her beliefs from the ground up. Basically, it involves her writing out in great detail about the kind of person she really wants to be, and then working on herself until she becomes that person. She has to read the description when she wakes up and think about it during the day, then read it again just before falling asleep and analyze her actions to make sure they're consistent. I taught her to evaluate every thought and action in terms of whether it's moving her to or away from being that person. So that's pretty much it for now. I told her that if in a month, she's as damn close as being a near-perfect girlfriend as a girl can possibly be, i'll take her back. She promised to make it happen, and really sounded sincere. For the time being, we'll continue seeing eachother, even though we're officially not a couple. Of course, she still has to act like an amazing girlfriend this entire time (and every day thereafter) or lose me. I still care about her a lot, and to be honest with you, i really hope she pulls through. |
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| d!abolic |
| quote: | Originally posted by Tordan
Was that her with you at Systems last year when we ran into each other? OK, she's hot... I'd prolly be pissed too. |
That's her. She's a lot hotter now too. I told her that i wanted her to have a perfect body, so she's been eating right and exercising like crazy. I saw her doing cardio once and i swear to god, i've never seen someone punish themselves like that. To be fair, i'm doing the same to myself to return the favor. But yea, it's not really the looks. Hot chicks are a dime a dozen, but a chick you really care about... there's usually just one. |
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| d!abolic |
| quote: | Originally posted by VERTiG0
Are you kidding me? I'd never do that to my girlfriend. |
When the incident i talked about earlier took place, she was surrounded by her closest "friends." They did nothing to help her, so obviously they're not real friends. She agrees. Because she either drinks with me or with them, and drinking with them is clearly no longer an option, she's now limited to drinking only with me. Actually, i think this was her own suggestion and i agreed because it does make a lot of sense. If you can't handle your alcohol, you shouldn't drink. |
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| VERTiG0 |
| quote: | Originally posted by d!abolic
Anyway, to give you guys an update here. The original post was made after she called me from the subway station, crying her eyes out and telling me about what happened. I told her to take the last train down here so that we can talk in person, and shortly after writing the post, drove off to pick her up. I was pretty cold with her. Didn't let her in the house and talked to her outside for over an hour. Basically told her that i don't want her to be my girlfriend anymore. After we were finished talking, it was almost 4AM, so i took her in and let her sleep in my bed. The last thing i remember is her crying and asking for a second chance, and me saying that i'll think about it in the morning. Yea, she was crying the entire time. I had no idea someone could cry that much. From the time she called me at around midnight, all the way until i fell asleep. I woke up to use the washroom at 6AM, and she was still crying. Apparently, she barely slept. I went back to sleep, and finally woke up again when my alarm clock rang. You guessed it, her cheeks were still wet. Yea, she was sorry alright. I had a meeting in the morning, so i took her with me in the car. She waited for me for two hours in 30-degree heat without AC. In the meantime, she wrote out a couple of pages with her thoughts and the things she would have to change about herself to make herself worthy of getting a second chance, which is pretty much all we talked about until i dropped her off at her place during lunch. In a nutshell, she accepted full responsibility and admitted that she has a problem that will ruin her chances at happiness with me or anyone, until it is dealt with. We identified her problem as low self-esteem, apparently because she was raised in a family where the mother was often abused and cheated on. Her whole image of men, relationships and love is horribly skewed, as is her sense of self-esteem. As a result, she feels she needs to be desired by men in order to feel good about herself, which of course leads to situations like this. She agreed to start working on herself immediately and not stop until she becomes worthy of being my girlfriend, at which point i'll consider taking her back. I gave her a month to show me some serious progress and helped her work out a plan to reprogram her subconscious and redesign her beliefs from the ground up. Basically, it involves her writing out in great detail about the kind of person she really wants to be, and then working on herself until she becomes that person. She has to read the description when she wakes up and think about it during the day, then read it again just before falling asleep and analyze her actions to make sure they're consistent. I taught her to evaluate every thought and action in terms of whether it's moving her to or away from being that person. So that's pretty much it for now. I told her that if in a month, she's as damn close as being a near-perfect girlfriend as a girl can possibly be, i'll take her back. She promised to make it happen, and really sounded sincere. For the time being, we'll continue seeing eachother, even though we're officially not a couple. Of course, she still has to act like an amazing girlfriend this entire time (and every day thereafter) or lose me. I still care about her a lot, and to be honest with you, i really hope she pulls through. |
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| Vivid Boy |
| id still hate her and try to impregnate her just to see the look of disbelief on ur face. |
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| mushyflowa |
to be quite honest with u.. i dont really think u shud still be with her..
u said she needs to be admired by guys in order for her to feel good.. but she had u.. and if u werent enough for her then funk it..
imo.. i think a month is nothing.. if u really think she has problems the best u can do i be her friend.. as she doesnt deserve u as a bf.. dont wait til she does something worst.. if u feel soemthing for her.. dont wait til she hurts u again.. if u do wanna help her start now..
i think if u let her get away with her excuse.. she will always use it..
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| starsearcher |
oh man that's long...I'll read it later...if it hurts you so much just do the same to her and dump her ass...
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Clearly since she called you crying she cares about you...aaaanyway |
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| Cosmopolitan82 |
| quote: | Originally posted by d!abolic
I told her that i wanted her to have a perfect body, so she's been eating right and exercising like crazy. |
... If i had a bf like you, I would cheat on you too..
But then again, if she is exercising and eating right purely to satisfy you're desires.. then shes not too bright to begin with. |
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| Vivid Boy |
| quote: | Originally posted by Cosmopolitan82
... If i had a bf like you, I would cheat on you too..
But then again, if she is exercising and eating right purely to satisfy you're desires.. then shes not too bright to begin with. |
i like this girl :D |
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| mushyflowa |
| quote: | Originally posted by Cosmopolitan82
... If i had a bf like you, I would cheat on you too..
But then again, if she is exercising and eating right purely to satisfy you're desires.. then shes not too bright to begin with. |
:haha: ditto |
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| d!abolic |
| quote: | Originally posted by Cosmopolitan82
... If i had a bf like you |
you won't |
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