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how come i have trouble with girls in the states? (pg. 4)
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| Zombie0729 |
bro...
it's because you don't come at the situation as if a women as just entered your 'reality'. go look at my PM |
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| davemolina |
I'm just very untrusting of most women in general. In San Antonio all I see is Girl Gone Wild wannabes that offer nothing but some ass if you have enough money to afford them.
I've given up on club wimmenz on the whole. It really depends on the type of woman you want though bro. If you want club girls and no strings...know they can be VERY judgemental.
I prefer to let them come to me or snag some ass from the Bingo Hall :) |
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| Floorfiller |
| quote: | Originally posted by samiotis
floorfiller i agree with you i know what you mean. i know the wheelchair plays a huge roll too, people try to tell me it doesnt matter but i know it does. i'm not really looking for a girlfriend either, but when i was in greece i met a girl from texas weho is greek, we ended up dating for 3 weeks and she told me she loves taking care of me i told her shed get sick of it and she still said she wouldn't she was great. but i ened up breaking up with her because we were both getting too attached and we were both on vacation and we didnt want a serious relationship. she's only 20. anyways we talk now just bout everyday since were both home. before my accident i didnt goto bars since i wasnt 21 yet i just went to house parties and raves. |
well when i was reading a lot of the responses in this thread so far i could sense that a lot of people were basically holding back what i said because i think it's very true and people didn't want to discourage you and all. i'm glad this isn't a permanent situation for you and i think you'll have a lot more luck once you get done with physical therapy and get out of the chair. :p
and actually if you could get the confidence to approach women even while in the chair...and then let them in on what happened and then they'd know it wasn't a permanent thing...then you probably would have less problems now aswell...
but eh...i'd stay away from club/bar girls...i personally don't really find them that great for dating... |
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| samiotis |
| i dont have much confidence approaching but once a girl approaches me i have no problem after that. when a girl approaches me then i know she doesnt have a problem with my disability, i have no clue if i approache a woman what she thinks of me |
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| Slylee |
| I think meeting people out at bars/night clubs is UNDERrated. It’s like everyone and their mom swears it’s the worst place to meet someone, but are you forgetting that YOU are there?? and are you such a bad person? lol seriously, what’s so bad about going out to a club to see your favorite DJ and u see some cute guy/girl dancing their ass off to the same thing you are and just generally enjoying themselves and wanting to approach them? Seriously, every couple I meet that seems to be generally happy together (and together for a while, like over a year) tell me they met at a bar. I think it’s cute. I met my ex at a bar and we were together for 2 years. I’m currently dating this f’n awesome hottie who approached me at a lounge in south beach when I was there with my girlfriend and this guy is seriously marriage material. I just think it’s a more comfortable situation since alcohol is consumed and there’s music and everyone there is generally in a good mood and there to have fun…as opposed to studying at the book store or grocery shopping at the grocery store. I think approaching someone in that situation is more weird. |
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| Moral Hazard |
| quote: | Originally posted by Slylee
I think meeting people out at bars/night clubs is UNDERrated. It’s like everyone and their mom swears it’s the worst place to meet someone, but are you forgetting that YOU are there?? and are you such a bad person? |
Um.... yes, I am a bad person and I would never date anyone even remotely of the same ilk. |
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| Floorfiller |
| quote: | Originally posted by Slylee
I think meeting people out at bars/night clubs is UNDERrated. It’s like everyone and their mom swears it’s the worst place to meet someone, but are you forgetting that YOU are there?? and are you such a bad person? lol seriously, what’s so bad about going out to a club to see your favorite DJ and u see some cute guy/girl dancing their ass off to the same thing you are and just generally enjoying themselves and wanting to approach them? Seriously, every couple I meet that seems to be generally happy together (and together for a while, like over a year) tell me they met at a bar. I think it’s cute. I met my ex at a bar and we were together for 2 years. I’m currently dating this f’n awesome hottie who approached me at a lounge in south beach when I was there with my girlfriend and this guy is seriously marriage material. I just think it’s a more comfortable situation since alcohol is consumed and there’s music and everyone there is generally in a good mood and there to have fun…as opposed to studying at the book store or grocery shopping at the grocery store. I think approaching someone in that situation is more weird. |
uh oh...jamie used the "m" word :nervous:
:p
no that's really cool that you met someone awesome jamie :)
i guess maybe i just feel wierd approaching people at bars and usually when i'm out, i'm just with a big group of friends and not really looking to meet girls and stuff...i dunno though...i think you're right to a certain extent about it being easier to meet people out at clubs and bars, but i dunno... |
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| Slylee |
| quote: | Originally posted by Floorfiller
uh oh...jamie used the "m" word :nervous:
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no that's really cool that you met someone awesome jamie :)
i guess maybe i just feel wierd approaching people at bars and usually when i'm out, i'm just with a big group of friends and not really looking to meet girls and stuff...i dunno though...i think you're right to a certain extent about it being easier to meet people out at clubs and bars, but i dunno... |
Thanks! I guess I should have mentioned that he has only been living in south FL for a year, so he hasn't be corrupted yet. Hahaha that's why he's so damn sweet. And he's the hottest damn thing I've ever laid eyes on too! I'm reeeeallly digging him, but I'm being smart and not putting a label on us just yet even though I can tell he wants to be exclusive. I just need my space and I have like a gazillion things going on right now. But if it's meant to be, it will work out. |
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| dj tek |
| quote: | Originally posted by Slylee
Thanks! I guess I should have mentioned that he has only been living in south FL for a year, so he hasn't be corrupted yet. Hahaha that's why he's so damn sweet. And he's the hottest damn thing I've ever laid eyes on too! I'm reeeeallly digging him, but I'm being smart and not putting a label on us just yet even though I can tell he wants to be exclusive. I just need my space and I have like a gazillion things going on right now. But if it's meant to be, it will work out. |
he has dreamy eyes ~~ |
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| Slylee |
he sooo does, too! :D
If I had to describe from head to toe what my type (physically) is, he would be the perfect example. And he’s sensitive and sweet and not macho and he’s very metro, which I know I usually make fun of, but it’s so adorable with him.
:crazy: :crazy: :crazy: |
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| DaveSZ |
Maybe bling out your chair a bit? :conf:
Put some gold rims on there and some hydraulics and the chicas will be flocking to you!
:D
All kidding aside, (and I hope I didn't offend) It's hard finding a good woman dude. The last time I really "clicked" with a woman was like 6 months ago, so don't be too hard on yourself.
I have never been to Europe so I can't really compare how things are over there to how they are over here.
I hope to take a vacation there within the next year though. |
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| DaveSZ |
| quote: | Originally posted by HardTranceProd
Maybe the solution is to move out of Dumbf*ck, Ohio, to a big(ger) city like NYC, LA, San Fran, Philly, or - now get this - Toronto. In Canada girls are more European. |
I'm sure Ohio is part of the problem too. |
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