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I seriously need some serious advice!
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| MzEargazm |
Here's the deal...7 wonderful years ago, I had the pleasure of introducing one of the closest people to me in my life, my first cousin, to our extraordinary scene. She quickly fell in love with the vibe, the culture, and undoubtly, the music. Unforunately, she also fell in love with the drugs, and "partying" for her eventually became more about the drugs than everything else. We were both guilty of crossing the line a few times, and sometimes, we found ourselves somewhat sucked up into the negative people and aspects of the scene. Personally, I don't party anywhere remotely close to the extent of my wild party past, and when I do, I know my limits. However, she is still going in full force. Her life has now come to the point where it revolves around the next party, and unfortunately, the next high. She is doing large amounts of almost any drug available, preferabbly G. Because of this risky lifestyle, she has been in some f'ed up situations, and is lucky to have come out of them alive. She is not the same person she used to be. She doesn't make any sense most of the time when she talks, and a lot of people notice it. She says things and then shortly after, she doesn't remember what she said. She dates the most emotionally unstable, jealous, possesive, abusive, juiced up crackers she can find. She has become very self-destructive, and has come to the point where she is really losing grip on reality, in my opinion. The worst part about all of this is that my family and I can't seem to get through to her. It tears me up inside to have to witness her going through this. I have never seen her this bad before, and as of recently the situation is getting really bad, really quickly. I don't know what else I can do (that I haven't already done) to help her get some serious help.
I am sorry that this is such a depressing thread, and I don't mean to bring anyone down, but I really need some outside opinions from you guys. I am willing to do whatever I have to do to get my cousin back! Please, if you can think of some suggestions, I am really desperate right now, and I am really scared.
Just a word of advice from a girl who's been there and done that...there is big difference bewteen use and ab-use.
PLEASE PARTY SAFE! |
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| VERTiG0 |
The only thing you can do really is to talk it over with her, but then again she sounds so far gone that nothing can be done that way. Rehab is what's in store for her!
Oh drugs, what won't you do! |
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| niveole |
sober fun = pure fun!
Say NO to Drugs! |
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| Cosmic Fur |
| quote: | Originally posted by niveole
sober fun = pure fun!
Say NO to Drugs! |
I found that kinda funny coming from you.
Anyway
If she's that deep into the hole, there's not much you can do except to try to get her into rehab. Try to make her realise what has happened to her life, don't just try to tell her to stop doing drugs, as that's likely to do no good. |
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| tatgirl |
Time for an intervention.
Do her parents know what she's up to? |
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| Cosmic Fur |
| quote: | Originally posted by Rodrico
Is she hot? |
At this point, I doubt it. |
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| Rodrico |
| quote: | Originally posted by Cosmic Fur
At this point, I doubt it. |
*nod's sagely* |
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| MzEargazm |
| Her parent's (my aunt and uncle) know most of the situation, but I don't know if they really believe exactly what types of drugs she is doing, or exactly how often. I have spoke with them, and I let them know the real deal, but it seems like they are kind of in denial. She is depending on the drugs for an escape to a world where she is "Queen of the Scene" and where she doesn't have to think about where her life is headed. I have stuck by her unconditionally thought this, even though she still tries to push me away; I have told her I will go to rehab with her; I have tried to invite her out to do things that don't invovle partying; I have talked to her and her family; I have tried to make her see what affect this is having on her body and her relationships with the people closest to her, and nothing has worked. |
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| *~LiSa-LoO~* |
http://www.kelcom.igs.net/~sophrosyne/
This is in Windsor, On...I volunteer here. It's a good place...takes women 16+ and is strictly a group home for WOMEN and its free. If you're willing to pay a certain amount of money they have beds saved each intake for them. This is for when you need to get into the home immediatly. There's a waiting list...so I would recommend calling ASAP to get on the wait list. The last time I worked...the next intake was January 2. The intake worker works only on Monday's and Friday's, but you can leave msgs. It seems like it's a very good program to me.
If you have any questions, feel free to PM me. |
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| TheVrk |
It's admirable that you've done so much to try to help
your cousin. Don't get discouraged. With the situation
being this serious, the main thing is to NEVER stop
trying. Press as long as you have to, just don't give up....
All i can do is pray for you and your cousin and wish you all the best:) |
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| DigiNut |
| quote: | Originally posted by tatgirl
Time for an intervention.
Do her parents know what she's up to? |
That was my thought as well.
Really sorry to hear that this has happened to someone close to you - although I have to say that you're very accurately describing a huge proportion of women and men in this scene. Some may not be as far gone as others, but for many, their lives revolve around the next party and the parties themselves revolve around drugs; drug addiction is the next logical step and it kind of sneaks up on people that way.
I think the only options left at that point are interventions or rehab. It's clear that she doesn't *want* to stop, so there's nothing else you can do to make her. |
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