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Being aroused vs. being affectionate (pg. 3)
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| Keo_Nade |
| quote: | Originally posted by lücid
2) find a nice girl who s like a whore
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Find a small quite asian girl. They are sweet, kind, and kinky as all hell. Atleast in my experience. That may satisfy both your desires. But dude, if your not finding yourself physicaly attracted to teh women you are dating, then 1.) you may actually be gay 2.) you might consider dating a mean girl 3.) tell the girl your dating that you are die-hard catholic and cant have sex till marrige, then get a raunchy chick to on the side. |
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| Keo_Nade |
| or stop dating ugly hags. |
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| Floorfiller |
| quote: | Originally posted by HardTranceProd
Thanks for the well-thought-out response.
You are correct except one thing. I don't even want the physical stuff with these "real" girlfriends, because I don't feel lust for them. I only crave physical stuff with sluts, strippers, and one-night stands. That's my problem: I'm aroused by illicit and slutty women, as opposed to "normal" dating situations with "nice" girls.
But perhaps this has to do with everyone's early experiences. My early experiences were all with girls who were very slutty, i.e. no real relationships. |
ok i see what you're saying now...
i guess everyone experiences attraction based off of different things. i mean pedophiles are attracted to children...they can't help it. it obviously has something to do with your psycology that you are only attracted to slutty women. what is it that you are attracted to by these kind of women? do you like dominanting them? |
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| enferno |
| quote: | Originally posted by UWM
Nou? |
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| HardTranceProd |
| quote: | Originally posted by Floorfiller
ok i see what you're saying now...
i guess everyone experiences attraction based off of different things. i mean pedophiles are attracted to children...they can't help it. it obviously has something to do with your psycology that you are only attracted to slutty women. what is it that you are attracted to by these kind of women? do you like dominanting them? |
Well I don't think it's weird or unusual. How many times have you heard about girls that drop you like a rock after you tell them how much you like them and can't stop thinking about them? They lose interest after they've "won" you over. They want a challenge.
So why can't guys experience this same phenomenon? I'm not saying that's necessarily what I'm experiencing, but why isn't it possible, in theory? |
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| HardTranceProd |
| quote: | Originally posted by josh4
click the link smart guy |
it takes me to Google, and that laddertheory.com website is for women, not men. |
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| SVGmethod |
| quote: | Originally posted by HardTranceProd
Okay here's my problem:
When I'm dating a girl and we go out or spend time together, and she obviously likes me and we call each other on the phone, it's like she becomes a "littler sister" and even though it feels "warm and fuzzy", I don't feel any lust. I only feel lust and sexual feelings in "dirty", naughty contexts, like with strippers, at parties, in clubs, one-night stands, etc.
Has anyone else experienced this? |
try stopping masterbation before you do out on a date with them. stop masterbation completely and see if this helps the problem... |
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| igottaknow |
| i guess i'm the only one who understands you. i mean it doesnt effect me to the extent your talking about, but the type of women who'd i like to have dirty sex with aren't the same as the ones who'd i'd like to hang out with and have a serious relationship. women do the same thing, its called the bad boy syndrome. |
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| JoJoJo |
I cant help but think you just aren't going out with girls who are right for you. When you meet someone who drives you nuts in the bedroom and you care for them and respect them too it can be pure magic.
Unless you have a problem in the way you view women. Like you view women in two categories either a whore or the mother of your children. I've heard of some men who cannot really be themselves sexually with their wives or partners because they feel they can't do the really dirty stuff with a woman they love/care for, I think its an actual syndrome that has a proper name but I dont know what it is. Im not saying you have this either.. I just think you haven't met anyone who really makes you tick yet
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| Arbiter |
| quote: | Originally posted by HardTranceProd
So why can't guys experience this same phenomenon? I'm not saying that's necessarily what I'm experiencing, but why isn't it possible, in theory? |
You can. It just means that you're more like a girl than a guy. So if you're okay with that... |
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| HardTranceProd |
UPDATE: It's been some months since I started this thread. At the time, nobody could really provide any interesting answers.
But I've just found out that this phenomenon is not only extremely common, but it actually has a name!!
And the name is: Madonna/whore complex.
Psychologists claim that for most women, love and sex are a package, but in the male mind, these two are often separate and exclusive. Sex, which is naughty or dirty, is associated with "dirty" girls and naughty situations, whereas a girlfriend or a wife is someone that you put on a pedestal, a totally different concept that doesn't mix with fun sex. |
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