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Being aroused vs. being affectionate
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| HardTranceProd |
Okay here's my problem:
When I'm dating a girl and we go out or spend time together, and she obviously likes me and we call each other on the phone, it's like she becomes a "littler sister" and even though it feels "warm and fuzzy", I don't feel any lust. I only feel lust and sexual feelings in "dirty", naughty contexts, like with strippers, at parties, in clubs, one-night stands, etc.
Has anyone else experienced this? |
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| Rostros |
| Your thinking to much dude, just have a few beer's , and take it easy. Sex & Love are very close together sure your mind is screwed but what does it matter when your nude in bed together ! |
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| DOOMBOT |
| I think it is tougher when you are laying in bed with the girl. You want to be just affectionate but at the same time you just wanna... well, you know. :) |
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| HardTranceProd |
| quote: | Originally posted by Rostros
Sex & Love are very close together |
I strongly disagree... In my experience they're completely separate. Being horny is a completely different emotion than being loving and caring. |
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| UWM |
| Maybe you just like the idea of spending time with a woman but you actually fancy men sexually? |
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| lücid |
if you can't screw your little sister, who can you screw?
wait... :wtf: |
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| HardTranceProd |
| quote: | Originally posted by UWM
Maybe you just like the idea of spending time with a woman but you actually fancy men sexually? |
I knew somebody would bring it up :p
Answer: No, and never have. So let's put this to rest. I am 100% straight. :) |
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| jonSun |
Your Gay :gsmile:
BTW how old r u.? |
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| UWM |
| quote: | Originally posted by lücid
if you can't screw your little sister, who can you screw?
wait... :wtf: |
Nou? |
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| lücid |
| quote: | Originally posted by HardTranceProd
I strongly disagree... In my experience they're completely separate. Being horny is a completely different emotion than being loving and caring. |
well there's your problem right there - believing that love and lust cannot be combined. it sounds like you're just fiending for some hot & dirty no-strings-attached hair-pulling monkey buttsex, without having to worry about being loving and caring to your partner. truth is, love + lust is a wicked combination... and by that i mean wicked good. there's nothing better than having some hot sex and then cuddling and laughing afterwards...
my advice - lighten up, don't think about sex so much, find a girl who you really dig (in my experience, most relationship problems occur because people aren't dating the right person), and let things progress from there.
or you can hire a hooker. |
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| HardTranceProd |
| quote: | Originally posted by lücid
truth is, love + lust is a wicked combination... and by that i mean wicked good. there's nothing better than having some hot sex and then cuddling and laughing afterwards...
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yeah I'm sure that's how it is for most women, but what about us men? You already have some evidence from DOOMBOT's reply above that it can be a little different for us men.
Anyway, most men admit that they want sex to be "dirty" and that they fantasize about strippers, whores, etc. |
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| Floorfiller |
to be honest, i think you're just too immature for a real relationship.
based on what you said...
you don't take relationships seriously because you are dating people that you aren't really into like lucid suggested. you like physical stuff, but when it comes to other aspects of the relationship, you don't want them because it's a burden to you because you aren't into the girl. |
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