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Being aroused vs. being affectionate (pg. 4)
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| Lira |
| quote: | Originally posted by HardTranceProd
UPDATE: It's been some months since I started this thread. At the time, nobody could really provide any interesting answers.
But I've just found out that this phenomenon is not only extremely common, but it actually has a name!!
And the name is: Madonna/whore complex.
Psychologists claim that for most women, love and sex are a package, but in the male mind, these two are often separate and exclusive. Hence the term. |
Reading material please.
Sounds like a cultural phenomenom rather than a biological one. |
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| Silky Johnson |
| quote: | Originally posted by Lira
Reading material please.
Sounds like a cultural phenomenom rather than a biological one. |
I think it has to do with early developmental stages when the child learns to relate to the father, and distuingish his sexuality is different than that of his mother's. It always comes back to the relationship with the mother, lol. |
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| jdat |
I think you're a dirty whore.
That is all :p
Oh and on the subject of not feeling lust each time you're with that special one means you're not treating her like an object so that sounds like a good thing in my book. |
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| HardTranceProd |
| quote: | Originally posted by jdat
Oh and on the subject of not feeling lust each time you're with that special one means you're not treating her like an object so that sounds like a good thing in my book. |
From my dating experience (I've had 4 girlfriends) it seems like sex is a necessary prerequisite to feeling romantic and affectionate. Sex always comes first! Everything else develops later.
That romance or love can precede sex is a common myth that has nothing to do with real-world relationships. |
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| jdat |
| quote: | Originally posted by HardTranceProd
From my dating experience (I've had 4 girlfriends) it seems like sex is a necessary prerequisite to feeling romantic and affectionate. Sex always comes first! Everything else develops later.
That romance or love can precede sex is a common myth that has nothing to do with real-world relationships. |
Well then I must be weird ( awaits some stupid comments from others ) cause when I have been in commited relationships sex wasn't my ultimate goal on a daily basis.
In my mind the best way to truly connecting with someone and having them as your called soul mate isn't through physical touch but through mental embrace, a real connection of both minds, where you can be in a situation and finish each others phrases, where every minute of night and day you wish you were with that special one, where no matter what you do you both click.
Healthy, long lasting and ultimately most pleasant and rewarding relationships should not be based exclusively on sex which is only a temporary thing of the moment. |
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| Lira |
Will you provide us the source of that complex you mentioned, HardTranceProd?
| quote: | Originally posted by jdat
Well then I must be weird ( awaits some stupid comments from others ) cause when I have been in commited relationships sex wasn't my ultimate goal on a daily basis.
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Agreed. |
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| zokissima |
| quote: | Originally posted by JoJoJo
I cant help but think you just aren't going out with girls who are right for you. When you meet someone who drives you nuts in the bedroom and you care for them and respect them too it can be pure magic.
Unless you have a problem in the way you view women. Like you view women in two categories either a whore or the mother of your children. I've heard of some men who cannot really be themselves sexually with their wives or partners because they feel they can't do the really dirty stuff with a woman they love/care for, I think its an actual syndrome that has a proper name but I dont know what it is. Im not saying you have this either.. I just think you haven't met anyone who really makes you tick yet
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Very well put. First reply in thread kind of hit it. Maybe you're overly critical, or you're too quick to jump to interpretations on how you feel, or what you should feel. |
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| HardTranceProd |
| quote: | Originally posted by jdat
Healthy, long lasting and ultimately most pleasant and rewarding relationships should not be based exclusively on sex which is only a temporary thing of the moment. |
Sex is a "temporary thing of the moment"??!
What planet do you live on????
P.S. Yes I will provide some articles, hold on please |
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| jdat |
| quote: | Originally posted by HardTranceProd
Sex is a "temporary thing of the moment"??!
What planet do you live on????
P.S. Yes I will provide some articles, hold on please |
It's called an orgasm, hitting the Gspot, shooting your load, or whatever you wanna call it, but once all that is done, the moment is OVER.
So yes it's a temporary thing.
If sex is the only thing by which you can base a relationship on .... well it must be a very ackward one cause it's purely physical and physical you can do with anyone.
I bet your gf or whatever has the same idea and has other special physical partners .... at least that's the way it could be as you don't think there's anything else in a relationship then sex. |
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| HardTranceProd |
Well, here's a general synopsis of this complex.
http://divorcesupport.about.com/od/...s/a/madonna.htm
Some key quotes from that article:
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..many men separate love from sex, and 'good' women from 'bad' women.
For most women, even the most inexperienced, sex and love are a package.
In some cultures it is not uncommon for husbands and wives to lose interest in sex with each other, their marriages becoming fairly asexual, once the children are born. The behavior may be as a result of societal influence, but it has mother-madonna roots.
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| ZeJayMan |
| If lust is a black silk stocking, then love is a tartan slipper. |
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| Slylee |
i wonder how madonna feels about this.
actually, my ex was good friends with this pretty boy (fratboy) growing up who married his high school sweetheart. he was very good looking and she was very average plain looking and he cheated on her ALL the time. with hookers, random chicks at clubs, friends of hers, you name it. she had no clue. she lost her virginity to him too and had never been with another guy. i bet he had this complex or syndrome now that i think about it. |
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