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how to break up...tastefully? (pg. 2)
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| Stunade |
| quote: | Originally posted by beats and beeps
If the only reason you want him to leave is that he has alot of anger and hatred, maybe you shouldn't leave him.
Maybe he needs someone to help him change. |
He does carry a lot, and I can understand a bit, like my discontent over stupidity and ignorance but, his goes beyond that. I'm not usually one for change...but this WOULD be for the better. |
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| RapidFire |
| quote: | Originally posted by Stunade
Forget I said anything...thanks :whip: |
dont ever try and get any serious advice from the c0r. we lack compassion |
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| Stunade |
| That's really disgusting salegon, and I'll thank you not to do that again :wtf: |
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| Stunade |
| Thank you b&b and I don't want "compassion" just tidbits of advice. |
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| Salegon |
| quote: | Originally posted by Stunade
That's really disgusting salegon, and I'll thank you not to do that again :wtf: |
mmkay. just as you like. |
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| kid nyce |
Ok i'll offer serious advice...
perhaps try taking a break from each other, and by that i don't mean you sleep at your house tonight instead of his or vice versa. ease up on the talking say once every 2-3days, spread the time out and see how things are. from there it will give you the space and time to unattach yourself from the every day comfort of being with someone. this will allow you to approach your situation and give you the opportunity to be open and honest with the way you feel. have him understand that and encourage that you continue keeping communication for the sake of caring for each other. you can be friends about it, just not right away. you and him will need alot of time away from each other to consider having a healthy friendship.
i wish you luck and it ain't an easy thing to do. |
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| Mr. Pink |
there never is an easy way to let go of someone.
you just have to be blunt and honest.
i feel that leaving no questions...i.e.. not bullting him is the best approach
just explain it.
he might offer to change.
maybe pose an ultimatum of some sort.:conf: |
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| Stunade |
Well, I work with him so I'm extra screwed. Guess it's time for my vacation...
I've become friends with almost all my exes, so I know how possible it is. We have lots planned for the next 2-3 months so do I ride it out, talk to him about a possible slight change, or just snip it? |
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| beats and beeps |
| quote: | Originally posted by Stunade
Well, I work with him so I'm extra screwed. Guess it's time for my vacation...
I've become friends with almost all my exes, so I know how possible it is. We have lots planned for the next 2-3 months so do I ride it out, talk to him about a possible slight change, or just snip it? |
how long have you been together? |
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| Sunsnail |
| quote: | Originally posted by Stunade
Well, I work with him so I'm extra screwed. Guess it's time for my vacation...
I've become friends with almost all my exes, so I know how possible it is. We have lots planned for the next 2-3 months so do I ride it out, talk to him about a possible slight change, or just snip it? |
the next time he's hateful just say something about it. |
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| Orbax |
First, your name should have been Tsunade.
And just say "Im a hippy, why are you dating me? That doesnt make sense. I shouldnt be in a relationship right now, im really really immature" |
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| Konijn |
your reasons for staying with him stem partially from your own insecurities (he adores you so much, etc.) so breaking up right now is best for both you.
be honest - but not too honest: talk about drifting apart, going in different directions and stuff like that. keep to the message and keep it all platitudinal. telling him he's fat, negative, and holds abhorrent social views burns bridges and makes things nasty (many people prefer that type of break, but i'm not one of them).
it sucks, but the sooner you do it the better -- clean breaks and no "friends" (at least, not yet).
good luck. |
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