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Sticky situations at work (pg. 4)
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| *~LiSa-LoO~* |
| quote: | Originally posted by VERTiG0
Yes :( |
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| preppie chick |
thanks for the advice guys.
So i documented everything that has happened and talked to my manager. She seemed really concerned about it, i said that I would like her to report it to our broker and in the case of something like this happening again, i would not hesitate in filing a complaint with the OHRC. Let's hope this nonsense will stop now.
I also found out that there have been complaints about this same guy at the other company he used to work for. Not such a nice guy after all. |
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| *~LiSa-LoO~* |
| quote: | Originally posted by preppie chick
thanks for the advice guys.
So i documented everything that has happened and talked to my manager. She seemed really concerned about it, i said that I would like her to report it to our broker and in the case of something like this happening again, i would not hesitate in filing a complaint with the OHRC. Let's hope this nonsense will stop now.
I also found out that there have been complaints about this same guy at the other company he used to work for. Not such a nice guy after all. |
Good for you Lars. That behaviour should not be tolerated.
I hope things start to get better. |
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| shanny |
| And if nothing still works see if Kris will lend you her heels. |
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| dallastar |
| quote: | Originally posted by preppie chick
Something happened at work today and i'm not sure how to deal with it.
I was standing by the fax machine which is right across from one of the agent's office and as i waited for the fax to go through I strechted my back for maybe 2 seconds when the agent said to me from his office "Hold that pose"... At first i just thought it was one of his jokes but when i started thinking about it, I realized how much it bothered me. He always tells me dirty jokes although i've expressed that i'm not okay with it, not only is he my dad's age but he also has a daughter who happens to be my age. I never really made a big deal out of it before because i do think that he's a good person afterall, but his comment today really was unecessary and made me feel uncomfortable.
Then as I was leaving work while having a smoke with one of my coworkers, she asked me if he was still in the office, and when i asked why, she told me that she feels uncomfortable when he's around because he keeps on asking her out for lunch and saying stuff like how he likes her. She also told me that she has told our office administrator about it.
I don't really know whether i should tell the office administrator or approach him and say that i really don't appreciate his jokes/comments. I also wouldn't want him to get fired but i'd like him to stop making us feel umcomfortable.
Has anyone else dealt with a situation similar to this at work? thanks in advance. |
well.... u shoudl just bring it to the attention of your administrator, or else if you personally approach him he may be mean to you or bother you more? I dunno. i have like that happen to me at work all the time - i complain - still nothing ever get's done.
ar eyou on a contract or working through an agency? if so you should contact them. taking this all on your own shoulders is a lil' hectic! just send him that pic of you fromthe weekend and I am sure he will be ahppy - ahhaha |
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| yankeeBaby |
| quote: | Originally posted by preppie chick
thanks for the advice guys.
So i documented everything that has happened and talked to my manager. She seemed really concerned about it, i said that I would like her to report it to our broker and in the case of something like this happening again, i would not hesitate in filing a complaint with the OHRC. Let's hope this nonsense will stop now.
I also found out that there have been complaints about this same guy at the other company he used to work for. Not such a nice guy after all. |
Hunny, I am sooo gald that you did something about this, because before I read this response, I was going to write that usually people who act like this in the work place are doing it to several others. Sometimes at past workplaces, and often in the same workplace.
The problem with these guys are that no one says anything about it, or if they do, they verbally try to handle it with their boss or the person himself. When the situations are not documented, they will not follow the guy (or girl) to the next job, and thus the cycle continues! :mad:
I hope that you are able to continue your job and feel comfortable while being there! It unfortunate that this bull happens. |
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| muzzybear |
My old boss was a creepy bastard who had a fetish for pregnant women. He would handle their bellies without their permission and take pictures of them. He'd even ask them if they wanted to expose their bellies.
Unless you complain nothing will change! It's not appropriate to be made uncomfortable by your boss. You will probably have to meet with HR and him to tell him. Be brave. Make change. |
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| preppie chick |
ok so another comment was made. He asked me for a file and asked if he could get it and when i said "don't touch my files", he replied with "don't touch your files? but everything else is okay, haha!"
I really don't know what to do, i know i need to tell the broker at my company but i honestly don't even know how to go about doing that.
I'm afraid he might think i'm overeacting and ending up looking like the bad person...
anyways i'm thinking about writing a letter, as i don't think i could tell my broker... this ing sucks. :( |
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| *~LiSa-LoO~* |
| quote: | Originally posted by preppie chick
ok so another comment was made. He asked me for a file and asked if he could get it and when i said "don't touch my files", he replied with "don't touch your files? but everything else is okay, haha!"
I really don't know what to do, i know i need to tell the broker at my company but i honestly don't even know how to go about doing that.
I'm afraid he might think i'm overeacting and ending up looking like the bad person...
anyways i'm thinking about writing a letter, as i don't think i could tell my broker... this ing sucks. :( |
Well you said you already filed a complaint. maybe you should follow up on it and see if this guy was told that a complaint was made against him and he needs to stop his beahviour. If it hasn't happened tell them you want it to happen b/c he has just acted again.
Also, tell the guy yourself, when he says something like that - tell him that you've filed a complaint against him b/c he is acting very inappropriately and it could cost him his job - WHICH IT SHOULD! Especially for continued behaviour like that.
Lars don't be afraid of making this guy look bad...go to whoever you can - the highest power. B/c this is not right. And you know he's not doing it to just you either. This guy SHOULD be fired. |
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| TJB |
| quote: | Originally posted by *~LiSa-LoO~*
Well you said you already filed a complaint. maybe you should follow up on it and see if this guy was told that a complaint was made against him and he needs to stop his beahviour. If it hasn't happened tell them you want it to happen b/c he has just acted again.
Also, tell the guy yourself, when he says something like that - tell him that you've filed a complaint against him b/c he is acting very inappropriately and it could cost him his job - WHICH IT SHOULD! Especially for continued behaviour like that.
Lars don't be afraid of making this guy look bad...go to whoever you can - the highest power. B/c this is not right. And you know he's not doing it to just you either. This guy SHOULD be fired. |
I just said almost the same thing to her over msn...
Lars you need to do something about this. No one should make you uncomfortable at work. You shouldn't feel bad either, you are the one being mistreated. |
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| DigitalMP |
will your coworker who also feels this way about him say something?
i would never recommend to let this go, but you do have to realize that you may look like the problem in someone's eyes. based on that, you should decide if getting fired wrongly is worth it. it most likely is, but if your budget is tight, it may not be at this point.
it does help that your boss is female. does she also know about his problems at previous places of employment?
also, keep in mind that if someone else says they feel the same way about him and will stand by your side, there's a very good chance that they'll choose to stay out of the spotlight when game time arrives. |
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| Jem_hadar |
| quote: | Originally posted by DigitalMP
will your coworker who also feels this way about him say something?
i would never recommend to let this go, but you do have to realize that you may look like the problem in someone's eyes. based on that, you should decide if getting fired wrongly is worth it. it most likely is, but if your budget is tight, it may not be at this point.
it does help that your boss is female. does she also know about his problems at previous places of employment?
also, keep in mind that if someone else says they feel the same way about him and will stand by your side, there's a very good chance that they'll choose to stay out of the spotlight when game time arrives. |
Sage advice to be aware of in deciding how you proceed.
You should have this behavior stopped, but dont be blind to potential outcomes or results, no matter how unjustified it may be.
Office politics suck, and are never usually fair, but we gotta realise it exists! :( Thats the field in which we play ball in, so hopefully nothing negative will go against u in this matter if its pursued.
Sucks that this is happening to you Lars! :(
I hope you can resolve this at work! |
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