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Another thought-provoking thread by slylee (pg. 2)
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| stren |
| quote: | Originally posted by Slylee
ok but i just got out of a serious relationship and this guy knows this and i've straight up told him that i'm "devistated" and stuff like that, so he knows that i was crushed and that i'm just not interested, but he still tries to get me to go out with him all the time...like alone. i'll go out with him if it's like a group thing because i actually have a good time with him, but it's just not there.
and we've kissed before, while i was wasted at a club...we both were. he took a picture and was like, "let's kiss" and so he sent me this picture of us making out and he was like, "hotness" and i was like, "oh " i didn't even remember doing that. i haven't hung out with him since then but he emails me every day, inviting me out to places and to his house so he can cook for me and stuff. should i just tell him that i like him as a friend but i'm not interested in anything else? |
yes, you gotta end this fast. Its gonna get tougher if you don't set the record straight |
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| Akridrot |
| She said she dropped "Major Hints", so if he doesn't get it, it's not her fault. |
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| _Ocean_Drive_ |
| quote: | Originally posted by Slylee
Do you guys thinks it’s wrong or “ed up” to continue to hang out with a person who likes you as more than a friend, and probably thinks he/she might have a chance in the future?
I mean if you genuinely have a good time with that person (when you go out to a club as a group), but you've dropped major hints that it's just friendly, yet they still keep trying to sucker you in for dates, should you just cut them off? |
If you think he's crowding you, tell him to back off. He's probably liking the fact that you're devestated etc so he can 'support' you and then blur the boundaries until he gets what he wants.
Tell him nothing's ever going to happen :) Good luck :) |
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| kid nyce |
| quote: | Originally posted by Slylee
ok but i just got out of a serious relationship and this guy knows this and i've straight up told him that i'm "devistated" and stuff like that, so he knows that i was crushed and that i'm just not interested, but he still tries to get me to go out with him all the time...like alone. i'll go out with him if it's like a group thing because i actually have a good time with him, but it's just not there.
and we've kissed before, while i was wasted at a club...we both were. he took a picture and was like, "let's kiss" and so he sent me this picture of us making out and he was like, "hotness" and i was like, "oh " i didn't even remember doing that. i haven't hung out with him since then but he emails me every day, inviting me out to places and to his house so he can cook for me and stuff. should i just tell him that i like him as a friend but i'm not interested in anything else? |
Yes, you should just meet up with him one day for a bite to eat and be straight up with him. the more you let this drag on the more hope he has the harder it will be for you to hang out together, even in a large group setting.
Also, telling a guy you was devastated can be misinterpretted big time, especially if you just got out of a relationship. Most guys are thinking rebound rebound rebound - easy ass - and if that is completely not what your intentions are, I think you need to make sure he understands that and get that sorted properly. It could turn ugly and you might be forced out of situations because you are uncomfortable. |
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| igottaknow |
| Lead him on, the insuing drama should be entertaining for at least us. |
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| Salegon |
Just allow him to buttsekz you once. After this, everthing will be allright. You will see.  |
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| Akridrot |
| quote: | Originally posted by igottaknow
Lead him on, the insuing drama should be entertaining for at least us. |
Until someone ends up hog-tied in the back of a car? |
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| igottaknow |
| he probably has his bedroom wall covered with enlargements of those glamore shots jamie took of herself. :stongue: |
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| Slylee |
It’s funny if you think about the whole "hard to get" game working. It’s so true. I mean, I really don’t like him as anything more than a friend, so it’s just natural that I don’t call him back all the time, or respond to his emails, and he is like up my ass. He’s very persistent.
Oh and he’s actually kinda cute and very sweet, but I’m just not interested. He is actually the guy in that recent photo I posted. Anyway, he’s not a scum bag at all. He’s not the type to get angry or mean. He doesn’t have a mean bone in his body.
I know I shouldn’t have kissed him but I’m human and I messed up. And I know better than to hang out with him alone. I’ve been avoiding that like the plague. He invited me to a party at a friend’s house and I was like, “can I bring a friend?” haha but then I said that I can’t make it because of car trouble (which is true) and he was like, “well I don’t mind driving to Ft. Lauderdale, I’m just waiting for an invite” I was like, “JESUS! This guy won’t give up”
I think I’m just going to tell him that I’m sorry if I’ve lead him on, but that I’m really only interested in his friendship and that he needs to back off a little with trying to get me to hang out in date-like atmospheres. |
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| dj_bas |
| quote: | Originally posted by igottaknow
he probably has his bedroom wall covered with enlargement of those glamore shots jamie took of herself. :stongue: |
What's glamore? Is it anything like glamour? |
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| dj tek |
on the real, i mean, it seems like you dig this guy more than a little. i dont know maybe this guy just purely wants to be your friend ? i kinda doubt that tho.. he probably feels your positive enegery which is why he tries to communicate with you frequently, even if its completely on a 'freind' level.
either you'll get sick of him or your interest will grow, since he's not the one you HAVE[like your current bf] ppl are intrigued by mystery and the 'what if' factor all the time.
what i can say is follow your heart, if your feelings are really strong for this individual, it can only lead to hurting your bf. at the end of the day, YOU'll know what to do. ;) |
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