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Another thought-provoking thread by slylee (pg. 4)
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| Boomer187 |
| quote: | Originally posted by Slylee
Do you guys thinks it’s wrong or “ed up” to continue to hang out with a person who likes you as more than a friend, and probably thinks he/she might have a chance in the future?
I mean if you genuinely have a good time with that person (when you go out to a club as a group), but you've dropped major hints that it's just friendly, yet they still keep trying to sucker you in for dates, should you just cut them off? |
SHUT THE HELL UP!!! |
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| Slylee |
^:stongue:
ok, so i'm just going to be honest with him and tell him i'm not interested in anything more than a friend, and if he continues to try to bang me, then i'll cut him off. |
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| Ygrene |
I'll tell you what you should...drop teh zero and get with the HERO!
*points at self*
Yeah! |
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| Boomer187 |
| quote: | Originally posted by Ygrene
I'll tell you what you should...drop teh zero and get with the HERO!
*points at self*
Yeah! |
you got it!! energyhaX! you are MINE! |
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| Slylee |
And btw thank you akridot!
The way I see it is, he’s clearly not an idiot, yet he is chosing to be. He wants to me, plain and simple. I’m confident that he likes my personality too and would probably like to date me seriously, but the bottom line is that he thinks that he has a chance of scoring with me. I have made it CRYSTAL clear to him that I’m depressed about my breakup and whatnot. I don’t really call him back, I’m always declining dates with him… So I see it as he’s a big boy and he needs to smarten up and take a hint. But you men can’t do that. You’re always thinking with your penises and trying to get in our pants. And while he’s a nice guy, he also has a penis, so I don’t feel THAT bad for him. But I will still give him the respect of some straight-forwardness since I did kiss him that one night while drunk. I admit to that being stupid. I’m gonna lay it out for him in an email. I’m not going to have a bite to eat with him to tell him this because I don’t owe him anything face to face. I’m not breaking up with the guy, I’m just letting him know I’m not available for anything other than friendship and he can take that or leave it. |
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| fitom tiel |
| you know yourself. |
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| Slylee |
| quote: | Originally posted by fitom tiel
you know yourself. |
meaning... ? |
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| igottaknow |
| I'd say play it safe and get a ghey or eunuch friend :gsmile: |
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| Boomer187 |
| wait, you are single? |
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| Moral Hazard |
| Jamie, you've really exacerbated the situation by making out with the guy that one night. He's clearly very interested in you and has romantic intentions. You really need to address this now in order to minimize the damage. You have to tell him that you do not have any interest in HIM..... be clear on this, don't say you "not ready to date" or you "need to be alone for a while" or use any other cliche to say no without hurting his feelings.... if you have no interest in him he needs to know that it isn't just a situational thing and it isn't going to change in the foreseeable future. Especially considering this guy is a friend of a close friend and it is likely you will have ongoing contact it is essential that you neither lead him on or allow him to delude himself into thinking there is anything more between you then a friendship based on proximity. |
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| Boomer187 |
| quote: | Originally posted by Moral Hazard
Jamie, you've really exacerbated the situation by making out with the guy that one night. |
man I should read more threads. Jamie, you are obligated to go down on this dude. sorry, no way around it. |
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| lücid |
is he really your friend?
i mean... it's one thing if you have a close male friend who you've known for a while that out of the blue admits they have a crush on you. but to me, it seems like this guy has never really seen you as a friend. he's only seen you as a possible girlfriend or possible hook-up. especially since you two kissed, and you get flirty with him... that probably gave him the impression that you're interested in him.
even if you stay "friends" with him, he's always going to be chasing after you, which imo does not make for a healthy friendship. after a while things might chill out and he'll have moved on to chasing someone else, but you never know.
i've been thru so many friendships with guys where like this was going on. it sucks sometimes because i have lost really good friends because of it. but on the other hand, i've met guys who initially had a crush on me, and i made it VERY clear that i was not interested in them, and after the crush faded and they got over it, we stayed close friends for a long time.
then there's those peculiar friends who have a crush on you and you have a crush on them and you end up dumping your boyfriend for your best friend...
:thepirate |
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