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| Theresa |
BTW upon further reflection, I realized that a lot of people here are idiots and are going to say "But Theresa, you want to adopt... blah blah blah".
Yes. I want to adopt.
Why? Because I am aware of the consequences of what will happen to those children if they aren't adopted. Seeing a child suffer because their parents were negligent fools is something I have a hard time with, so I want to help. There is no better gift that you can give than love. Offering an unwanted person love, a home, and a place that they belong is, in my opinion, one of the most amazing things a person can do for another. |
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| jdat |
| so you adopting is ok but if other people do it they're going to f*ck up the poor kid who was the product of rape? |
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| Theresa |
| quote: | Originally posted by jdat
so you adopting is ok but if other people do it they're going to f*ck up the poor kid who was the product of rape? |
I never said that.
I said that allowing a pregnancy to go on when you know it is the product of rape, and are intending to abandon it after birth is what is ed up.
People who will accept a person who is the product of rape, and adopt them are very special... in a good way! |
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| Demoted |
| quote: | Originally posted by Tholius
she has an iq in the negatives sometimes, leave her be. |
I like watching her trying to think critically. It's like doing cocaine with James Brown, you know you'd love to see it happen, but it just never will. |
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| spitty |
| quote: | Originally posted by Theresa
I never said that.
I said that allowing a pregnancy to go on when you know it is the product of rape, and are intending to abandon it after birth is what is ed up.
People who will accept a person who is the product of rape, and adopt them are very special... in a good way! |
so anyone who gives a child up for adoption is despicable?
as for the story above, she said her brother was born with fetal alcohol syndrome and with attention deficit disorder which would have nothing to do with the child being a product of rape. furthermore, why is it even necessary to tell the child he was a product of rape? if he didn't know, and you treated him like you would any other child, why would it be an issue
i don't think how you and i can see eye to eye on this. this is probably b/c we drastically disagree on what is a life. from your perspective it would come from when the child is natural forced out of the mothers body, correct?
for me, it happens much sooner. also, i'd prefer to be at least given the chance to live my life, than have it decided for me. many children are adopted into loving homes, and lead lives they enjoy very much (my two best friends were adopted. my mothers best friend ran a foster home and ended up adopting several of them, including two brothers with FAS, both of whom are in post-secondary colleges right now)
to dismiss a life by saying it MIGHT not live up to your standards is selfish and snobbish at best. who are you to decide that they would prefer to die, all things considered??
(theresa, first time i've ever disagreed with you, and its a nasty one :P) |
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| Demoted |
| quote: | Originally posted by spitty
so anyone who gives a child up for adoption is despicable?
as for the story above, she said her brother was born with fetal alcohol syndrome and with attention deficit disorder which would have nothing to do with the child being a product of rape. furthermore, why is it even necessary to tell the child he was a product of rape? if he didn't know, and you treated him like you would any other child, why would it be an issue
i don't think how you and i can see eye to eye on this. this is probably b/c we drastically disagree on what is a life. from your perspective it would come from when the child is natural forced out of the mothers body, correct?
for me, it happens much sooner. also, i'd prefer to be at least given the chance to live my life, than have it decided for me. many children are adopted into loving homes, and lead lives they enjoy very much (my two best friends were adopted. my mothers best friend ran a foster home and ended up adopting several of them, including two brothers with FAS, both of whom are in post-secondary colleges right now)
to dismiss a life by saying it MIGHT not live up to your standards is selfish and snobbish at best. who are you to decide that they would prefer to die, all things considered??
(theresa, first time i've ever disagreed with you, and its a nasty one :P) |
Eh, I'll agree with you on the initial argument against Theresa on the fact that not all parents who put their kids up for adoption are despicable. Other than that I don't necessarily agree with you since I'm pro-choice and you seem to be pro-life. But with this comes a lengthy debate of which you already stated the base disagreement which cannot be altered even through debate: our fundamental difference of opinion on what constitutes life. And since I just recently made an abortion thread, I'd say we not delve too far into that :wtf:
Also, I wouldn't tell the kid for a while that it was adopted, but I think it's genuine courtesy to eventually let them know once they're old enough to handle it. |
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| Inconspicuous |
| quote: | Originally posted by Demoted
I'm pro-choice and you seem to be pro-life |
Worst two terms ever created. The only purpose of each is to make the other side sound insane & fanatical.
"What, you don't think women should be able to make choices?"
"Oh, so you don't care if innocent people die?" |
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| Demoted |
| quote: | Originally posted by Inconspicuous
Worst two terms ever created. The only purpose of each is to make the other side sound insane & fanatical.
"What, you don't think women should be able to make choices?"
"Oh, so you don't care if innocent people die?" |
Meh, I don't really like the terms either, but there aren't any other great ones, and those are the most widely accepted. |
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| Nostrum |
| quote: | spitty
lady dutch
Registered: Nov 2002
Location: i belong on balanzat
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Originally posted by Theresa
Wow... it appalls me that there are women out there that would even CONSIDER carrying a baby conceived from rape to full term.
It is ONLY a clump of cells in the beginning. You aren't killing anything, you just aren't sustaining it so that it can become something.
Like picking a booger out of your nose. If you would just leave it there, it will grow and become a nice big slimy infection, with a perogative to take over your immune system... OR you could get rid of it, and simply put a stop to that potential.
Do you feel bad for picking your boogers?
I don't.
Therefore... I say abortion.
I totally lolled at my own analogy!
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i'm shocked at your answer! i would totally understand why someone would. this is a possible life, and you can hardly say, just b/c it was conceived of rape, therefore automatically you shouldn't have it. part of the pro-choice perspective is just that - the choice to decide if you would want to bring this fetus to term. and if anyone is able to separate how the child was conceived from the human being it becomes, or is able to turn a horrific event into the gift of a child, then I'd commend them, for having the strength most of us wouldn't |
I don't know. I was sitting here wondering why I should/wanted to post in this thread. Maybe I decided to because I thought that I don't have a physical reference nor a natural fear attached.
On a social level I think that it is totally acceptable to abort. Being the worst traumatic assault a woman can endure and conversely, the worst a man can inflict. (Excluding children of course) These facts alone, the hundreds that stem from them not withstanding, are valid reasons to not band aid the situation and spend the remainder of two lifetimes minimum, protecting and patching and pretending it didn't happen.
When people have children for selfish reasons it never ever works out the way they were intended. You never have the chance to ask the child of course but when you haven't even had the chance to ask yourself because a criminal has stolen that from you, who can make wise decisions at that point? It doesn't matter how much love a mother throws at the child, the stigma will always persist. With all of those complications who knows what altered and unpredictable ways will mom take in her approach to raising the kid? Never mind the time bomb of the child finding this all out. That's not a maybe, it a guarantee. At least as far as making the decision anyway.
Then what about the genes? It was a mighty evil breed that just insidiously ruined your life. Do you really want to spin the wheel on making another? Stem cell development won't be there for that one in your fertile years.
Chances are you weren't banking on having a kid right at that point in your life so now your single, broke, likely no job any time soon that's for sure because even after any maternity leave, it's known that the cost of daycare = the average female yearly salary. So as ed up as you and the child are going to be just on face value, you, the child and the whopping $1000/mo. welfare cheque are stuck in "Compton" for the rest of your life.
I'm sure there is way more but why???
Then again there's always that horror show of the getting out in 2-3 years and beginning his custody preceding. Yeah!!!
Maybe if your lucky the poor demented little person decides (and yes, they start making decisions. Most of them you hate) that they finally want a dad and go out trying to find the fukcer. Next thing you know, your looking around for the dullest screwdriver you can find so that you can just cram it in your neck, right then and there.
Bahhh! I guess when I look at it there are enough mistakes of this sort and they, as a rule, are tragic stories. "pro choice" or not that is reality. Brutal? Of course, has to be. 100 times worse then the way with which it would be procreated. Anything that starts off that bad....? C'mon, no brainer, isn't it?
I know that this all sounds easy to say or "ya, but that's a mans point of view" or that it's just so cold and calculated. But the fact that remains is that it's hard enough when a loving couple have everything going for them. It has to be a decision and not a feeling that makes the call here. Looking at the big picture of a lifetime, it's successful because of good decisions and the love part colors it all in.:nervous: |
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| Taranis |
| It's kind of hard to figure out how I'd react, being a guy, but since I'm not the type who has any moral qualms about abortion I'd probably go down that path, both for the sake of myself and the potential child. I just couldn't feel right about bringing someone into the world from such a messed up situation, knowing that it'd probably create a massive amount of hardships for the both of us they'd have to be raised through. |
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| UWM |
| quote: | Originally posted by dallastar
rape is a terrible thing and hypothetically I would rather not think about it. take fukkin self defence classes and kick that muthafukker's ass to the curb! you would have so much anger against this mother fukker that you would want to pull that curb move that's in American History X! seriously, this is not a hypothetical question ~ it's a serious question! |
Are you capable of an intelligent contribution to a thread or do you relish living disconnected from the real world? |
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| Ed G |
One friend of mine knocked up another friend of mine during a casual hookup. The chick was going through a pretty wreckless period in her life where she had been partying and sleeping around a lot. The dude made it clear from the start that he had zero interest in being a father and that he would pay for all of the costs of an abortion. He's a good person and he would have also supported her through the difficult emotional aspect.
She decided to have the child. I think she did it because her life was going nowhere and she was lonely. Bad reasons. The short version is that the kid has serious behavioral problems and the chick told me that if she could do it over she would have had the abortion.
As odd as it sounds these decisions shouldn't be made from a totally emotional perspective. |
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