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"I Love You!"
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| Aristronica |
Term of endearment and sign of dedication to the person you say it to.
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A sure fire way to get in her pants.
(Basically a question for the guys...)
But ladies, have you ever uttered it without meaning it, just something cutsey to throw out there in a relationship. Maybe get the envy of all yours friends when you say it on the phone, etc.
For me, there's realistically only been three girls that I've said and meant it to. The third one still makes me feel a little strange, but in a good way, because when I say it I know I mean it but the circumstances under which we've met and are currently communicating under would make it seem strange to some that I would actually be in love with that person.
Pt. 2 - With all respect to people who believe crap like that, I don't believe in love at first sight. To me love is a lot like respect. It is earned and can be lost. "I will always love you." in my vocabulary means "I will love you till goes astray and then I'll care for you but it'll never be the same."
What's your take on all this? |
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| Orbax |
Depends on how many definitions of love you know
Eros, Stergos, Agape, philio
Then there is the generic "love is wishing the best for the other person" kind of thing which should always be true.
Try summing up your feelings in less of a confusing word :s English has 600,000 words, pick a few thatll be clear :D |
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| Nrg2Nfinit |
| true love is havin sex with the girl when she's on her period |
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| tribu |
I love alot of people, but I've only been in love twice if you want to use that cliche.
Its a word that gets thrown around alot so I always take it with a grain of salt |
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| Aristronica |
ok well here's a generic situation.
you're dating a girl for 2-5 months, whatever, and you're exclusive, etc. Then you throw out "I Love You."
3-5 months later you break up with a girl, cuz she cheated on you. Do you still love the person? Does she even deserve your love? Or do you go on caring about them in respect for the "special" times that you've shared, but don't love her anymore because (in a way) she lost your love due to her actions... and vice versa. |
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| Aristronica |
And be honest - who's is in a relationship right now and throws around 'i love you' but do not really mean it. and give us a reason for why use it, etc.
...i'm thinking of making this topic a chapter of my book so i need some good discussion people come on. |
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| CranberryJuice |
perceptions about loving someone can change with time and growing up and experiences .....
Like now i can say i thought i was in love when finally 2 years after i realize it was clearly not love but passion....so i would say generally speaking it's hard to define what is love but i think u can feel it when u love someone ....without the need to express it and as well u can feel when someone is loving you even if he or she wont tell it first
love is a beautiful and great feeling but at the same time i fear it because once you love someone and u are involved with someone even if he or she loves you as well , you feel more vulnerable and the more you open yourself to the other one , even if it's great you feel like if tomorrow's everything is over .....
you wont be able to pretend you dont care and that it doesnt matter |
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| SuspicionVandit |
| quote: | Originally posted by Aristronica
you're dating a girl for 2-5 months, whatever, and you're exclusive, etc. Then you throw out "I Love You." |
it means you are insensitive. 2 months of wanking to a porn star probably evokes the same response from you.
did you ever have sex with her on her period? |
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| wienerschnitzel |
| eli still claims he loved me at first sight but i think he might be confusing love with "OMG i wanna lay down the butth4x", i said 'i love you too' to a guy who i dated and i really didn't feel that way at all but he was really manipulative and it was awkward. I should have just been honest with him. In any other circumstance i was very careful about throwing that phrase around. |
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| Slylee |
There is no such thing as love at first sight. True love requires dedication, time, understanding, respect, loyalty, compassion, trust, etc… none of those can be demonstrated to a stranger. The biggest misconception about love in today’s society is that when the “honeymoon phase” dies down, the love has died down. This is false. You have to make an active decision to love. The honeymoon phase is basically out of your control. Raging hormones taking over your every move and thought…you aren’t really yourself during that time period. When all of that starts to fizzle and you make a strong commitment (let’s say living together), that’s when it starts to take work. That’s when you make the choice to continue loving that person and making the relationship work.
Just wanted to get that out of the way.
As far as the L word…I use it pretty loosely with friends and family. I think everyone should. I have a lot of love to give and have no problem telling my friends and family I love them.
As far as when I’m seriously dating someone…when I feel like I might love them, it just depends on the person and situation as far as when and how I tell them, but I generally don't have a problem communicating this. I have said it before in my past and didn’t mean it. I think we all have maybe at some point. I have had about 5 serious relationships so far and only seriously loved 3.
Don’t see myself falling any time soon. Too busy and kind of loved-out for now. It takes so much time and energy and emotion. I used to live for that , but now it’s just annoying and kind of scares me. I never thought I'd be that kind of person, but here I am...scared of committment and somewhat bitter. Oh well. I'm pretty happy now and that's all that matters:) |
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| wienerschnitzel |
| quote: | Originally posted by Slylee
There is no such thing as love at first sight. True love requires dedication, time, understanding, respect, loyalty, compassion, trust, etc… none of those can be demonstrated to a stranger. |
true story.. love is a en CHORE sometimes. |
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| Slylee |
| quote: | Originally posted by Aristronica
ok well here's a generic situation.
you're dating a girl for 2-5 months, whatever, and you're exclusive, etc. Then you throw out "I Love You."
3-5 months later you break up with a girl, cuz she cheated on you. Do you still love the person? Does she even deserve your love? Or do you go on caring about them in respect for the "special" times that you've shared, but don't love her anymore because (in a way) she lost your love due to her actions... and vice versa. |
that's pretty much my relationship with my ex from a few years ago. horrible relationship, but crazy good times together...lots of bonding in ways that i'll probably never do with someone else. i love him to pieces and we're close, but he treated me like for a majority of the relationship, but not really intentionally. sounds dumb i know. there were a lot of other factors contributing to his and my behavior like drugs, alcohol, steriods, etc...lol
i still love him and care about him. it's just who he is, and sadly enough, at the age of 31, he has no clue what love is or what love takes, and he probably never will. but he's a great buddy to have and i'm glad we're still cool. it's a strange thing and i know i sound like an idiot when explaining it, like, "How in god's name do you still talk to him?" but only i understand it and i guess that's all that matters. i don't have any hard feelings towards him at all and we talk on pretty much a daily basis. i also have absolutely no desire to be with him again in any sort of way.
a lot of what happened between us has shaped who i am right now so i have no regrets with him. |
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