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Getting married (pg. 7)
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| Moral Hazard |
| quote: | Originally posted by gehzumteufel
not true. if they are spending a healthy amount of time with their so/fiancee/wife then it will not be a problem. also if it is a healthy marriage it wont be a problem as they talk to each other and also let each other know what is bothering them. if your getting jealous then there is a communication problem. and we all know communication is key to a healthy marriage. |
I have to agree... Mrs. Hazard and I spend a respectable amount of time apart from each other. This is a good thing, as it affords us much in the way of conversation material. The key is to ensure neither party feels as though they are receiving insufficient attention from the other. As long as both persons want time apart and the time apart does not overshadow the time together then all will be well. |
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| Slylee |
it depends on the people i think, but yea having time apart and separate hobbies is a pretty good thing. my last relationship was like that. it ended for other reasons, but as far as the topic being discussed here, i had no problem going out with my group of friends while he went out with his group of friends and i honestly wouldn't give him a thought the entire night. i actually went out and was able to have fun and do my own thing because i completely trusted him and knew he was behaving, as was i. i think when couples can't do that, it's because of trust issues.
but we were also perfectly content spending an entire weekend together attached at the hip without ever bickering or arguing. my partner has to be my best friend before anything. i never understood couples, or actually men who insist on keeping their wife or girlfriend separate from their other life or separate from their friends. it's like, why are u guys together and spening your life together if u can't even have the same crew of friends or the same interests, etc...?
it's healthy to have girls and guys night out or even separate vacations and stuff, but there should be a happy medium. |
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| gehzumteufel |
| quote: | Originally posted by Moral Hazard
I have to agree... Mrs. Hazard and I spend a respectable amount of time apart from each other. This is a good thing, as it affords us much in the way of conversation material. The key is to ensure neither party feels as though they are receiving insufficient attention from the other. As long as both persons want time apart and the time apart does not overshadow the time together then all will be well. |
exactly my point.
| quote: | Originally posted by Slylee
it depends on the people i think, but yea having time apart and separate hobbies is a pretty good thing. my last relationship was like that. it ended for other reasons, but as far as the topic being discussed here, i had no problem going out with my group of friends while he went out with his group of friends and i honestly wouldn't give him a thought the entire night. i actually went out and was able to have fun and do my own thing because i completely trusted him and knew he was behaving, as was i. i think when couples can't do that, it's because of trust issues.
but we were also perfectly content spending an entire weekend together attached at the hip without ever bickering or arguing. my partner has to be my best friend before anything. i never understood couples, or actually men who insist on keeping their wife or girlfriend separate from their other life or separate from their friends. it's like, why are u guys together and spening your life together if u can't even have the same crew of friends or the same interests, etc...?
it's healthy to have girls and guys night out or even separate vacations and stuff, but there should be a happy medium. |
yeah trust is a HUGE thing in a relationship. once lost it will never be the same and more often than not that trust issue breaks up the relationship/engagement/marriage. trust is another key to a healthy marriage. without it you have nothing but fear and that causes all sorts of problems. |
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| fmodena369 |
| enjoy rest of your life with 1 |
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| Slylee |
| quote: | Originally posted by gehzumteufel
exactly my point.
yeah trust is a HUGE thing in a relationship. once lost it will never be the same and more often than not that trust issue breaks up the relationship/engagement/marriage. trust is another key to a healthy marriage. without it you have nothing but fear and that causes all sorts of problems. |
yea i agree. trust and communication are the most important things to me. and once you're in a relationship where there is solid trust, you can never go back to not trusting someone. it's the worst feeling in the world and i've been in several relationships where i didn't trust them, but i kept trying to work on it and thought it was me, and bla bla bla. if i feel like i can't trust a guy, i'm instantly less attracted to him. like even if i'm just dating a guy or interested in him and i feel like he's full of or whatever, it's like, "next" lol |
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| Slylee |
| quote: | Originally posted by fmodena369
enjoy rest of your life with 1 |
lol |
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| Zoso |
| quote: | Originally posted by fmodena369
enjoy rest of your life with 1 |
You get when you are married?! Holy !
*phones the wife* |
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| Slylee |
| quote: | Originally posted by Zoso
You get when you are married?! Holy !
*phones the wife* |
:stongue:
the longer i'm with a guy, the better the sex gets for me. but then again, my longest relationship was shy of 3 years, so i really can't talk i guess. haha that's like nothing compared to married couples who have been together for 5+ years. but to me, once the honeymoon phase is gone, it's gone...so once it's gone, u might as well have been together for 5+ years, even if it's only 2.
right? |
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| Silky Johnson |
I don't think the honeymoon phase ever really goes away...it just changes. I still get butterflies, but they're because of warmer, deeper, more genuine feelings...and it's an awesome way to feel.
*le sigh* |
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| Slylee |
| quote: | Originally posted by jennypie
I don't think the honeymoon phase ever really goes away...it just changes. I still get butterflies, but they're because of warmer, deeper, more genuine feelings...and it's an awesome way to feel.
*le sigh* |
well i mean the honeymoon phase in the dating part...that definitely goes away.
but yea, i've always been really big on "keeping the flame". u can't let things get boring...especially in the sack. men are like little babies...when u take away their toy, they either cry or just find another toy. lol |
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| Zoso |
| quote: | Originally posted by Slylee
:stongue:
the longer i'm with a guy, the better the sex gets for me. but then again, my longest relationship was shy of 3 years, so i really can't talk i guess. haha that's like nothing compared to married couples who have been together for 5+ years. but to me, once the honeymoon phase is gone, it's gone...so once it's gone, u might as well have been together for 5+ years, even if it's only 2.
right? |
I'm pretty sure you are right. I think. Hell, I'm just intrigued by the idea of married + . But yes. You are correct. However, in defense of ill women, it does not help when your wife has fibromyalgia and bad heart valves. Such is life, no? |
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| Silky Johnson |
| quote: | Originally posted by Slylee
well i mean the honeymoon phase in the dating part...that definitely goes away.
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I guess. I know what you mean...but it IS possible to still have that giddy feeling years on into a relationship. Everyone's different, but I would agree that for the majority of people, the "honeymoon phase" goes away. |
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