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Getting married (pg. 9)
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| igottaknow |
| quote: | | Originally posted by emc^2 |
i feel sorry for you. if there is one thing i can't stand more is religious ppl, especially the born again types. its like they're making up for lost time. |
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| Slylee |
| quote: | Originally posted by gehzumteufel
amen to that. with FRIENDS i am like ok if they cant talk to me when there is a problem or whatever i just let them go. i dont invest in them anymore. i cant imagine being with a girl that cant talk to me. id let her go sooo quickly!
im the same way but because that connection gets deeper. you get to know them so well and you are really excited to be able to please them. at least thats the way it is with me anyways. |
for me it's the comfort level. the more comfortable and trusting i am w/ a guy, the freakier i get in bed. |
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| trewqy |
| this thread makes me wish I was 5 again. F*** I hate growing old. |
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| HardTranceProd |
| emc^2, that was the most depressing post i've read in a while :( |
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| Allied Nations |
| quote: | Originally posted by igottaknow
she's afraid you'll be a kid in the candy store with all those japanese women
this is what marriage is like
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marriage is like psy-t in a cage? |
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| igottaknow |
| quote: | Originally posted by Slylee
for me it's the comfort level. the more comfortable and trusting i am w/ a guy, the freakier i get in bed. |
we know, this is like the hundredth time you've told us *sigh* |
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| emc^2 |
| quote: | Originally posted by lücid
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Ha! :stongue: So you were paying attention!!!! LOL. I keed I keed.
besides you got so much more!! a family that tokes up together... or you both love pu$$y... the furry variety!!! erm, I mean the MEOW koshka variety... and your DJ duo sounds like fancy pizza cheese - c'mon TURNER & ROMANO has a certain ring to it. Like "I'd like a pizza with extra Turner & Romano cheese"
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| dj tek |
| quote: | Originally posted by igottaknow
we know, this is like the hundredth time you've told us *sigh* |
i vaguely remember as well..:gsmile: |
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| fitom tiel |
| Hay there, do joo trust me? |
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| lücid |
| quote: | Originally posted by jennypie
I think marriage means a lot to people who understand and appreciate what REAL love is. It's obvious from looking at divorce rates that a lot of people have no clue what that means.
Personally, I think that marriage is a declaration to your partner, and everyone else, that you understand what it means to truly love somebody. That you've chosen this person as your team-mate for all the ups and downs of the rest of your life, and that nobody else could ever possibly come close to filling their shoes.
If you really do love somebody, it doesn't matter when you get married (edit: or if you get married at all) because the commitment will always exist. However, marriage (to me) is the ultimate symbol of that commitment. |
that's pretty much exactly how i feel about it...
honestly i don't really expect much to change after RJT and i get married. even before we started dating, we had an amazing connection, and our commitment towards each other has been incredibly strong from the very beginning. our feelings have only grown stronger over the last 2 years, and i truly feel that they will continue to grow like that for the rest of our lives.
basically... it's not the act of getting married that makes you more committed and more in love. that kind of stuff happens naturally over time, and getting married is just one way to celebrate it. |
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| gehzumteufel |
| quote: | Originally posted by emc^2
Dunno. it's a mixed bag. definitely a lot of work. of course, each person's "mileage" may varry quite substantially. Some creatures are made to live in captivity, others are liberal minds.
I am married for 7 years. First 6 years have been a rocky ride but mostly wonderful even with its ups, downs, getting adjusted to each other, etc. However, nothing prepared me for "snakes on the plane" - e.g. my wife FINDING JESUS. and I don't mean our gardener. And not your standard variety of Jesus. She happened to fancy the one from "Jews for Jesus" strain. Her being Christian, me being a Jew was already a fun mix. I'm not a religious person but I CAN'T TAKE PROLYTHESIZING (sp?) in any shape or form. With JFJ being not only offensive to my Jewish origins and traditions and beliefs but also being ONE OF THE MOST CULT-LIKE religions in existence, I was immediately without any warning under severe pressure. The quickness and depth with which situation spiraled out of control was mind-boggling.
This additional friction point created too many issues to list. We now fight almost on weekly basis about religious views and how I don't want to hear that sh!t and how my child should not be brainwashed since he's too young to understand the reasons or even meaning.
I must admit that person I loved very much has turned into someone I just accept for the sake of preserving a family. Our life is slowly turning to sh!t - which can be considered what many marriage are like. With a second child on the way, I'm a hostage of this situation. I would have never married my wife if I had known that she'd become such a religious zealot. So, in my eyes - this was definite "bait and switch".
My advise: try living together for several years before you tie the not. Besides, just because you exchange wows doesn't mean that your relationship is less meaningful as it is right now. Many of our friends chose live-in relationship over "formal" marriage. I think it also keeps your sub-conscious at least feeling like it's free - which I think can actually help your relationship at times.
Dunno. your mileage would definitely varry. Don't rush into it for all the wrong reasons - e.g. "she wants to have a wedding" or "we are both in love with tranceaddict.com and are active C0r whores" ;) |
wow dude that sucks! i hope something can be done to fix whats wrong but i also know its not always possible.
and thanks again for the vodka! im going to open it next weekend! :)
and the word spelling is proselytizing. i had to look it up though haha. |
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| Slylee |
| quote: | Originally posted by igottaknow
we know, this is like the hundredth time you've told us *sigh* |
lol
my bad! sheesh. it's not like i just said it out of nowhere. we were on the subject...again :o
*edit* ok now i gotta go read that long post of emc's lol |
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