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a topic that really needs to be covered... (pg. 3)
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| elFreak |
| quote: | Originally posted by Ania_xox
Sorry if this offends anyone:
"Open relationships" are for cowards and/or sluts.
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you are a ing idiot. |
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| ChemEnhanced |
| quote: | Originally posted by Ania_xox
When two people decide that they would rather spend their time with their respective mate than with anyone else AND voice this commitment - THAT imo is a relationship.
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you can still love someone to death and want to spend the rest of your life with them....doesn't mean you can't have sex with others....now...if you are married that is an entirely different story. Love and sex don't always have to go hand in hand. |
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| Intangible |
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Agreed.
Love, sex, and relationships do not necessarly go hand in hand (for everyone).
They are all related but do not depend on each other. |
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| Intangible |
| I really don't think that there is an answer to the original question... It all depends on your personal lifestyle and values. |
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| Djsketchbag |
| quote: | Originally posted by Ania_xox
WHAT?!
LOL Tara go back to sleep baby... or clarify
If my bf went off to sleep with another chick and then came home to me - he would be greeted with a punch in the nose and a "good-bye jerk!"
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Agreed if you have the need to be other ppl you are not in the relationship your just ing someone on a regular baisis. When in a relationship with one person and one person only you don't have the urge to be with other ppl. IF you have the need to be with other ppl you obviously don't have a clue what you want and your just hurting the other person. I en hate cheats and sluts./ end mini rant :toothless |
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| kaniz |
| wow, some people here are rather close-minded and judgmental. Oh-no, someone has a style of relationship that fits outside of my concept of normal - lets bust out the pitchforks! |
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| elFreak |
| quote: | Originally posted by kaniz
wow, some people here are rather close-minded and judgmental. Oh-no, someone has a style of relationship that fits outside of my concept of normal - lets bust out the pitchforks! |
it is called being scorned/lonely/15 and think sex is love. |
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| kaniz |
To me, some of the aspects that make a relationship a relationship, more-so than having sex is:
- Shared values and goals that you want to build towards / work towards as a couple
- A desire to share your life together
- A desire to build a life together
- A commitment to staying together, even when things may get rough
- Being supportive, loving, caring of each other
- Building a family together, and bringing both sides of the family together
At the end of the day - being sexually exclusive with your partner is a decision that they both need to make / agree to.
However, just because one couple is open and another couple is monog, does not make the monog couple more or less serious than the other.
I know a few people that have had very long-lasting relationships that also happen to be open. I've seen them range from the 'total open free for all' (which now and then, does leave me scratching my head at times - but its working for them, so I wont judge), to others that have more rules / boundaries established.
The one couple has been together for over 15 years, own a house together - their relationship has varied between very-closed, to completely open, and now rests somewhere in between - the 'rules' are continually negotiated to fit whats going on at the time.
They have built a life together and share it, they are part of each others families (ie: go to family events/functions together) and share a large circle of common friends.
While now and then they may have some extra-marital activities on the side, they are not bringing their -buddies to the family Christmas dinner either.
Yes, sex is important, however it boggles my mind that so many people get caught up on the notion of "if you are not sexually exclusive, then you are not a relationship" - while that might be the case for YOU and YOUR relationship, it's not always the same for everyone else. |
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| knacker |
| quote: | Originally posted by Ania_xox
"Open relationships" are for cowards and/or sluts.
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wow, what the gives you the right to make this judgment call? Stop being so closed minded.
I have been in a relationship with my woman for 5 years, and for the past 2 it's been open. This was both of our decision as we can separate sex and love -- mind you I don't think most couples can handle this. It takes discussion and confidence in the relationship and each other.
We are both very open and sexual people, and because she is bi, she has certain needs that I can't complete. I personally believe that most men and women are not meant to have only one sexual partner, but if I were as judgmental as you, I should be calling you a hick or something worse for being in a 'traditional' relationship.
To be honest, I would be hard pressed to find another couple that love each other and are as committed to each other as much as me and my partner are. We gave our hearts to each other for life. - the fact that as 2 adults we can be free to explore our sexuality openly, proves just how secure we are in this relationship.
Jealousy is a useless emotion that only causes harm. |
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| Irishaddict |
| being in a relationship means you value someone else just as much as you value yourself - and act accordingly |
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| samhouse |
boyfriend = friend who is a boy
girlfriend = friend who is a girl
i don't think there has to be any sexual or romantic involvement. |
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| Vivid Boy |
| I will have an open relationship with all of you laides |
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