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a topic that really needs to be covered... (pg. 4)
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| FunkyCrew |
| quote: | Originally posted by Vivid Boy
I will have an open relationship with all of you laides |
get in the line, here's your number, you'll be called in :tongue2 |
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| The Highroller |
| quote: | Originally posted by Ania_xox
Sorry if this offends anyone:
"Open relationships" are for cowards and/or sluts. |
Open relationships have never worked for me either, but a statement like this is judgemental, extremely closed minded, and even ignorant. Just because something doesn't work for you, doesn't make it intrinsically bad. It is quite possible to conduct an open relationship without hurting anybody. |
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| Vivid Boy |
| quote: | Originally posted by The Highroller
Open relationships have never worked for me either, but a statement like this is judgemental, extremely closed minded, and even ignorant. Just because something doesn't work for you, doesn't make it intrinsically bad. It is quite possible to conduct an open relationship without hurting anybody. |
black ppl always seem to pull it off |
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| Dr. Z |
So do open relationships not consider the players bf/gf? But just friends or buddies?
So then most people do not have a bf or gf, until their last year of exclusivity until they get married, which may be at >29?? |
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| barbina |
| quote: | Originally posted by Ania_xox
Sorry if this offends anyone:
"Open relationships" are for cowards and/or sluts. |
ouch. a bit harsh ania. not everyone wants to be in a full committed relationship 24/7.. i like having people in my life but i dont want to be tied down. makes sense to me |
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| Dr. Z |
| quote: | Originally posted by barbina
ouch. a bit harsh ania. not everyone wants to be in a full committed relationship 24/7.. i like having people in my life but i dont want to be tied down. makes sense to me |
why not? |
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| DigiNut |
| quote: | Originally posted by Ania_xox
Sorry if this offends anyone:
"Open relationships" are for cowards and/or sluts.
When two people decide to spend time together because they enjoy eachother's company - that is called being friends. (this does not qualify as a romantic/serious relationship)
When two people decide to have sex with one another because they are attracted to eachother - that is called being " friends", if you will. (this ALSO does not qualify as a relationship)
When two people decide that they would rather spend their time with their respective mate than with anyone else AND voice this commitment - THAT imo is a relationship.
BF/GF just feels real. Sounds corny but you just know. If you're not sure - you're not there yet. |
Ah, the quaint little naiveté of someone who's never been burned in a relationship. I wish I could go back to the days when I thought I "just knew".
Sex is not love, love is not commitment, and commitment is not necessarily even friendship. And even if you were to say that the "____friend" terminology implies all of these things together, you'll notice that none of the terms have very clear definitions, and there's the rub: for some people, love is just codependency, and for other people, a "commitment" could be seeing each other once a month with no other strings attached.
I've got a nice shiny penny for anyone who knows where this quote comes from (no cheating on Google):
| quote: | Love is patient and kind; love is not jealous or boastful; it is not arrogant or rude
Love does not insist on its own way; it is not irritable or resentful;
it does not rejoice at wrong, but rejoices in the right |
That's the only definition that's ever made sense to me. If it doesn't make sense to you, then you're probably confusing it with infatuation. |
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| kaniz |
| quote: | Originally posted by barbina
ouch. a bit harsh ania. not everyone wants to be in a full committed relationship 24/7.. i like having people in my life but i dont want to be tied down. makes sense to me |
and open relationships are not fully committed relationships? |
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| samhouse |
| i have a few friends in open relationships. They have been so for a few years and it is working just fine. Plus they love each other more than ever before. It takes a lot of commitment and understanding to pull it off right. Definately not for everyone. |
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| evil_cookie |
| quote: | Originally posted by DigiNut
I've got a nice shiny penny for anyone who knows where this quote comes from (no cheating on Google): |
trash.
I despise this excerpt - and I vomit everytime I hear it in corny ass films. And unfortunately the preaching is not exclusive to lame films. |
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| jsibilin |
open relationships allows you to give in to your sluttastic urges while keeping a "saftey net" around in the event that you're unable to hook up with anything hotter.
i have an open relationship with myself :stongue: |
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| Dr. Z |
| quote: | Originally posted by jsibilin
open relationships allows you to give in to your sluttastic urges while keeping a "saftey net" around in the event that you're unable to hook up with anything hotter.
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people are so lost these days |
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