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Feeling guilty (pg. 2)
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| Ania_xox |
Your bf ultimately makes the decision on his own - just remember that.
Yes we are influenced highly by the people we love, but assuming your man has a strong head on his shoulders, he must have already been leaning in this direction.
PS. Good on you ... my boyfriend has friends that I think are ing cracked out idiots and I never have the balls to say anything negative about them because I don't want to him to lose faith in friends he has had since he was a kid, because I know that can be very upsetting. |
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| Slylee |
| quote: | Originally posted by david.michael
I didn't mean to imply that you had an agenda. But when you have a guy who is easily taken advantage of due to his kindness/fairness... the influence of someone you are close to or love is quite strong, even without intent. I say this because, at heart, I am this guy. My girlfriend is an absolutely wonderful and understanding person who would never think of pushing her agenda on me as far as not seeing people she doesn't like... but when I know she doesn't, I definitely find myself starting to see it the way she does. I just can't help it. I was just wondering if that's what you thought might be happening. |
yea pretty much. |
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| david.michael |
Well, then. Way to be a total bitch.
(Kidding.) :) |
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| Slylee |
:stongue:
thanks for all the responses. i was just feeling worried and thinking that maybe my bf will regret writing this guy off type of thing that's all.
maybe i'll have a talk with him about it? i can just tell him that i hope his decision is his own and not just because i dont like the guy. |
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| Teezdalien |
| Your bf will see you have good intentions. |
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| david.michael |
| quote: | Originally posted by Slylee
maybe i'll have a talk with him about it? i can just tell him that i hope his decision is his own and not just because i dont like the guy. |
Definitely. Communication is key, and this is a simple enough thing to talk about, methinks.
| quote: | Originally posted by Teezdalien
Your bf will see you have good intentions. |
This. :) |
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| ChemEnhanced |
| maybe this guy truly is better then everyone else and he knows it.....nothing wrong with that |
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| The17sss |
| quote: | Originally posted by Slylee
and i would also like to add that this has a really sweet girlfriend of 3+ years that he almost lost recently because she was fed up with him and she moved out and everything and went to canada for a month and this guy was flipping out. he would be nothing without her. their house and their lexus and jetski are ALL in her name and it was so funny to see this guy like almost falling apart and begging her to go back to him.
she went back to him because my boyfriend took her out for lunch and had a really long talk with her about how much loves her and that he really wants to change, etc... she listens to my boyfriend and basically they are back together because of my bf.
u think ever gave him a ing thank you? nope. he's right back to parading around like he's the and he's better than everyone, etc... |
wow... can't believe Patrick went out of his way like that for the . If he is back to his old self in his relationship, it's only a matter of time before that girl moves out again.
As for the first post in this thread about the situation, don't feel guilty. Perhaps the guilt is really stemming from the fact that you feel like you're costing Patrick some income... because if the guy was not involved in business with Patrick at all, and just some random friend he knew, would it honestly be that difficult to dissolve the "friendship" with someone that was a pompous ? No way. It's a tough call when it comes to business- there are some people I work with now that I don't care for, but I tolerate it because it's guaranteed money. But there are also others I simply can't stand and have said, " it- the money just isn't worth it." Depends on how big of an they are I guess.... |
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| Lira |
| quote: | Originally posted by ChemEnhanced
maybe this guy truly is better then everyone else and he knows it.....nothing wrong with that |
Nonsense. Saying a person is better than everyone else is just like saying blue is best colour. |
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| Slylee |
| quote: | Originally posted by The17sss
wow... can't believe Patrick went out of his way like that for the . If he is back to his old self in his relationship, it's only a matter of time before that girl moves out again.
As for the first post in this thread about the situation, don't feel guilty. Perhaps the guilt is really stemming from the fact that you feel like you're costing Patrick some income... because if the guy was not involved in business with Patrick at all, and just some random friend he knew, would it honestly be that difficult to dissolve the "friendship" with someone that was a pompous ? No way. It's a tough call when it comes to business- there are some people I work with now that I don't care for, but I tolerate it because it's guaranteed money. But there are also others I simply can't stand and have said, " it- the money just isn't worth it." Depends on how big of an they are I guess.... |
yea it's like couch potato said money v. dignity. i think pat will be ok without this guy, financially. he's got plenty of jobs lined up for the next month that have nothing to do with this guy.
it was so funny to see how nice he was when the girl left him. i see right through him, he's one of those guys who is most likely really insecure on the inside and compensates by acting full of himself and looking down on others. he has to prove himself a lot.
and leave my spelling alone woscar lol |
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| lenazi |
i'm not trying to flame here, but you should feel guilty.
patrick is a big boy, and if he thinks that working with someone that he does not like gets him ahead, he should continue the business relationship regardless of what you think.
welcome to the real world. If you think you will like everyone you work with or agree with how they are, think again. At the end of the day, a guy that brings your boyfriend business is a hell of a lot more valuable and rare than someone he likes.
The food that he puts on the table, the bills that he pays, that jet ski that he loves, all cost money. Now it would seem like you are costing him some.
Business is business and unless you are working with him and have an investment in the company, you should most likely stick to being a gf at home, and let the guy get as much $$$ as he can even if it means sometime getting treated as a non equal. This happens in almost every job jamie.
i mean this all in the nicest possible way too. |
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