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Musings for the sausagefest (pg. 8)
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| Lews |
| quote: | Originally posted by Ania_xox
It's true.
I just want to make him food and clean his den so that he'll me senseless at the end of the day.
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| tubularbills |
| i once came home after a long stressful couple of days of work to an empty, clean house and a note that said, "dinner is done; it's in the fridge". i microwaved it, ate it, jerked it, and went to bed. awesome night. |
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| Halcyon+On+On |
| Goddamn, Max is a good dog. |
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| tubularbills |
| quote: | Originally posted by Halcyon+On+On
Goddamn, Max is a good dog. |
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| igottaknow |
| quote: | Originally posted by Fledz
Hehe I know, it was tongue in cheek :p :gsmile:
Also, wtf at IGK saying they should break up!? :wtf: So when you're going through a rough patch, you're meant to lose the people closest to you? That's just ing retarded IGK you ing moron. I hate when people randomly hate on you for stupid reasons but you deserve all the abuse and hate you're getting in this particular thread you monkey. |
you mad.
I wouldn't be happy in the relationship she describes and would find someone else. She's the one with the problem asking for advice. Could it be she's angry because I'm direct and close to the truth. Most people aren't interested in a solution to their problems they either want sympathy, temporary relief or a quick fix that doesn't involve them having to change.
I'm not in any way angry or offended. I'm ok with my opinion whether you agree with it or not. |
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| Halcyon+On+On |
So in a 2 year+ relationship, when it comes to fight or flight, you are urging her to fly away?
IGK, do you have a girlfriend? |
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| EddieZilker |
| quote: | Originally posted by Halcyon+On+On
So in a 2 year+ relationship, when it comes to fight or flight, you are urging her to fly away?
IGK, do you have a girlfriend? |
I'm guessing he's reading between the lines, observing that after two+ years, there's some underlying problems in their relationship if she doesn't know how to handle a simple dilemma and has to come to the CoR with the issue. |
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| Lilith |
| At the risk of giving a serious answer... Ania needs to become a little less clingy while things are being sorted out and her boyfriend needs to either deal with his work-life stress and possibly sacrifice some of it for time with her and his own health. Its one thing to become involved with work, but he needs to leave it at work. |
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| Renzo |
| This thread is now clearly about Fledz unleashing his rage upon the internets once again. |
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| igottaknow |
| quote: | Originally posted by Ania_xox
My significant other in life has been very bummed lately; he's working a helluva lot and he's very deeply invested in both jobs so a leave of absence is not an option.
This will go on til the end of June and stretches beyond the scope of our relationship so it's nothing that I have to analyze or "fix"
Both of his jobs are intense and emotionally draining and I'm just trying to be there for him and he tells me I'm being great but I want to do more. He gets a bit introverted when he's stressed about his work so I don't want to push him about it when we do have the odd hour or two together. |
| quote: | Originally posted by Ania_xox
We've been together for 2 years and the lines of communication have always been open and excellent; yet right now I feel like I'm single and playing games with my own boyfriend. |
| quote: | Originally posted by Ania_xox
When I'm not dedicating my free time to him, I'm not overly busy.
When I'm not busy, I fill up my schedule with social things.
So several times this week I have peaced the out and gone to another city to spend time with old friends, hung out with my girlfriends, gone to some conferences, worked a lot on my summer research, plus I work like 3 times a week.
I just don't want him to feel that I'm living my life without him.
Again, I would love to talk to him about this and see how he feels about all of it, but I'm not going to because he really doesn't need a deep, reflective conversation right now. |
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| Halcyon+On+On |
No, he's Dr. Philling her. Oh shi- don't. Just don't.
But really? Wow, intermittent time management issues in a relationship? You don't ing say. Sounds like every long-term relationship, ever. You either find ways to cope with things the best you can, or you don't. That's the game everyone plays when they become close to someone else. Sometimes consulting the peanut gallery is what it is, but sometimes hearing everyone's perspectives will help you realize what your own really is. It's obviously up to her and she is not saying 'hey cor, decide my future for me', she is just putting herself out there so that maybe someone will step up and relate their own experience to which she might be able to draw upon.
If he's worth it, Ania, don't give up on him. That's obvious. Everyone goes through their rough patches, but you can probably trust that things will change at some point, perhaps by your doing and perhaps not, but if you trust him and love him, you are already prepared to deal with this in the best possible way. Vague guidance, I know, but trust is the crux - and the gamble - we all take, when we love somebody. If your response to change is to run away, well, that speaks volumes about your ability to be with someone when the romance takes a turn. |
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