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Asexuality (pg. 3)
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| Lira |
| quote: | Originally posted by zyklon-jay
don't paint "all blokes" with the same brush lira. if you have enough experience in social situations with the opposite sex, you can usually tell within a few seconds if they are attracted and interested by body language and how they listen or communicate. |
That's precisely what I'm trying to avoid. I can now spot the hints myself, and I don't doubt for a second that you're probably better than me at it, but from my experience there's a bit of a difference between the genders with "body-illiterate" girls being way less common than "body-illiterate" guys (in the sense that they can't read body language). |
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| Silky Johnson |
| quote: | Originally posted by Vector A
Actually, I am hyper-conscious of my non-verbal communication. My problem is in figuring out what "vibes" another person is trying to send, not in projecting my own. At least, it seems that way.
Maybe I am just self-absorbed. |
Or maybe the problem isn't your interpretation, but that - again - people just aren't personally aware?
For example, I was talking to this dude the other night and he asked how old I was. I told him, and in return asked his age. He told me he was 34, but looked downwards and away from me when he said it - indicating to me that he was ashamed of how old he was. So I called him on it and he was all like "NUH UH I DON'T CARE ABOUT MY AGE!" But then I pointed out what his non-verbal communication said and he was like "Well ok, maybe a little."
I'm generally an optimist about people, but really so many people have no congruence between what they say and what they project...and they truly have no idea.
I dunno, when doesn't add up I just call people on it, lol. I'm not usually wrong. :o |
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| Silky Johnson |
| quote: | Originally posted by zyklon-jay
you guys are really that oblivious to subtle sexual signals? maybe it is because I'm horny all of the time, but it isn't rocket science. do you guys just wait for "let's "? seems to me that body language gives it away every time when a woman wants her pipes clean. don't paint "all blokes" with the same brush lira. if you have enough experience in social situations with the opposite sex, you can usually tell within a few seconds if they are attracted and interested by body language and how they listen or communicate. |
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| Vector A |
| quote: | Originally posted by zyklon-jay
you guys are really that oblivious to subtle sexual signals? |
Yeah, pretty much. Women are inscrutable to me! Then again, maybe I have little practice reading those signals because they are not sent very often. I am not very attractive.
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| Silky Johnson |
| BUNCH OF SOCIAL LEPERS. ALL OF YOU. |
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| zyklon-jay |
| quote: | Originally posted by Lira
That's precisely what I'm trying to avoid. I can now spot the hints myself, and I don't doubt for a second that you're probably better than me at it, but from my experience there's a bit of a difference between the genders with "body-illiterate" girls being way less common than "body-illiterate" guys (in the sense that they can't read body language). |
it isn't a skill, just pay attention. I look like a paki, chicks just dig me because I'm tall:p |
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| Vector A |
| quote: | Originally posted by Miss Pie
BUNCH OF SOCIAL LEPERS. ALL OF YOU. |
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| EddieZilker |
| quote: | Originally posted by Miss Pie
BUNCH OF SOCIAL LEPERS. ALL OF YOU. |
You're this astoundingly clairvoyant sexual psychic! The cross between Dr. Ruth and John Edward. I'm sensing a consonant with an eee sound, like P, D, C, or V. |
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| Halcyon+On+On |
Laboratory reasoning. People are an amalgam of different faces that they project to different people in different circumstances. You cannot empathize with mere verbal cues (which can obviously be telling, don't get me wrong) and then surmise such a powerful emotion of self-esteem; that's incongruent.
So-called "sexual intelligence" is a powerful tool of confirmation bias; You expect confirmation, and this runs laterally with the correlation between confidence and sexual promiscuity/prowess.
Did you read a psychology book? |
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| Silky Johnson |
| What the , where in any of my posts did I indicate it was a special skill or had anything to do with psychic intuition? It's all stuff that is right in front of your ing face, that ANY moron can and should be able to pick up on. All you need is your five ing senses for 's sake. |
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| Halcyon+On+On |
YOU SAID IT RIGHT ING HERE:
| quote: | Originally posted by Miss Pie
Tuning into people isn't some special trick. |
SEE HOW YOU USED THE WORDS "SPECIAL TRICK". , PAY ATTENTION! |
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| Silky Johnson |
| You're an idiot Hal. Really. |
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