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Talking to girls.. (pg. 5)
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| mathieu |
just don't give a . sure, it stings getting rejected but really it only stings for 5 minutes. And keep talking until you kinda get in a ''groove'' (lol) and don't have to ask questions anymore to keep a conversation going. And don't put the pressure all on yourself, I think that that's what s up most guys. Even if you say dead end sometimes, if a girl is interested shell try and keep it going too.
I dunno dont act like shes a prize and you cant do any faux pas, act like she's someone normal that you can say too, if you say something stupid and she blows you off then fuk dat bitch man!!
Then again im a 19 year old I might not know jack about this subject and older girls might be a whole different ballpark :p
One thing I know for sure tho, mos if not all the thoughts we have in the back of our heads when we do this is irrationnal crap. |
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| raveed |
| quote: | Originally posted by meriter
What is the best way to approach females without coming off as creepy? I've never been very good at it and I rarely approach women in the wild. It's awkward at clubs BECAUSE YOU HAVE TO TALK REALLY LOUD basically scream in her ear and I never know what to say anyway. It's not worth the effort if you've got nothing to say (or nothing meaningful beyond superficial comments about her appearance). Pickup lines are just embarrassing for everyone but I've heard of a few that might work. So what methods do you guys use? Any of you alphas out there have any advice? |
Rule #1 of Negotiation: 'Never fall in love with what you are negotiating for'. It will make you look too eager and you'l almost always come out the loser. Same concept applies with women. If you appear over enthusiastic to talk to her, it can be interpreted as 'low self esteem'.
Which brings up the next point 'Confidence'. When you approach a woman, you have to have the self confidence to accept the fact that you may fail, but you are prepared to do so. Think of yourself as a 'brand' - one that is not affordable to many, but is wanted by all. Just like everything else, women (and men for that matter) like to think of their partner as someone who they are lucky to have closed the deal with as he or she could have gotten anyone else. Its a confidence booster.
Be nice to her friends - even the cynical ones who keep trying to pull her away from you. In fact you should give them a considerable amount of attention as it will likely make your target jealous (but only after you've struck up a good conversation only with her)
Don't agree with everything she says. Sometimes, engaging in friendly conflict is a good thing as it makes women curious to find out more about you and your views, especially if you make sense.
If its in a club, make sure you're not drunk and don't try to get her drunk.
So yeah - dress well, look confident , don't fear rejection and be prepared to go through multiple women before finding one who resonates your interest. |
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| Omega_Blue |
| be yourself. once you try acting/being a certain way, you'll start overthinking it and then it's all over. i get the best results by treating girls in the same manner as i treat anyone else, perhaps being a bit more humorous or clever/charming but that's the only difference. i always found it odd when my friends say they can't approach girls, for me it's never been a problem of approaching, talking, or being comfortable around them, i have a harder time sealing the deal at the end of the night than anything. then again i guess you can kinda feel it out and know where you're at by the end of the evening though.. |
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| Omega_Blue |
| quote: | Originally posted by Vivid Boy
dude all i do is smile alot, laugh try not to act like a drunken retard and girls are usually drawn to me. add that to the fact i think fast and have great joke timing and im golden. I'm not the prettiest guy but i find just looking like a well put together guy and being very inviting goes a long way in this world. then again though im one of those people that makes friends instantly with people. |
this is basically it right here- being charming, funny, and interesting to talk to, without coming off as desperate, awkward, or creepy is all it takes. ie act like a normal ing human being. being incredibly attractive, or being ripped, or whatever, doesn't matter all that much imo. unless you're aiming for the stuck up super skanks.
edit- being ultra attractive or whatever mainly helps when you're a socially-inept retard and can't hold an interesting conversation. it's more of a crutch or a "handicap" than anything (and not the i-have-no-legs handicap) |
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| ErinaAndrea |
| I hate to talk with girls:rolleyes: |
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| AnotherWay83 |
its actually quite simple really, you just go up and say, "be my bitch, by my bitch, be my bitch tonight". if she refuses then you just throw some bills on her face, depending on how hot she is it could be anywhere from $200 - $400 but that will do the trick usually.
these tactics have stood the test of time for me. |
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| Zharen |
| Guess I'm the only one on the boards who really doesn't give a about meeting anyone from the opposite sex on those club nights. Cuz I'm pretty much only there for the music or for a certain producer if I do go out. |
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| Sand Leaper |
| quote: | Originally posted by Zharen
Guess I'm the only one on the boards who really doesn't give a about meeting anyone from the opposite sex on those club nights. Cuz I'm pretty much only there for the music or for a certain producer if I do go out. |
I'm in the same boat. If I want to meet women, I'll go to a bar or pub where I can sit down, have a drink and talk to them in a normal voice. Clubs are there for dancing, as far as I'm concerned, especially since it's rare for me to get the opportunity to do so to the music I love. Socializing aspects are very much deprioritized for me in these situations.
But of course, if it's a club night with, say, dancehall music, that norm can get thrown out pretty quickly... |
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| SYSTEM-J |
| quote: | Originally posted by Zharen
Guess I'm the only one on the boards who really doesn't give a about meeting anyone from the opposite sex on those club nights. Cuz I'm pretty much only there for the music or for a certain producer if I do go out. |
If it's a serious music night where I'm there for a particular DJ or sound, I won't be bothered about this, and it's very much "if something happens, it happens". However, there are lots of times I'm out and it's not a serious music night out, or the music has been , or things haven't got going yet, or whatever. |
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| meriter |
| quote: | Originally posted by Omega_Blue
act like a normal ing human being. |
okay um.. what if you are not a normal human being? |
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| Silky Johnson |
| You have to laugh at guys who put on a pedestal. Just talk to women like they're any other ing person you would talk to. It isn't rocket surgery. Unless you really have no social skills. Which is sad. |
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| WittyHandle |
Some people don't have social skills, and it's by no fault of their own. In that case, it really is sad, and not pathetic, as in the tone I took that part of your post to imply. It is a massive obstacle in life for many.
Please ignore if I misread your tone. |
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