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Talking to girls.. (pg. 9)
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| knowhope |
| Taber-ing-nacle Jay, didn't know you were that sexy. I would have given you free drugs, myself. |
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| Omega_Blue |
| quote: | Originally posted by Zharen
Well I don't do the whole on a pedestal thing. Known too many guys who treat "holla" like it's a sport. As if collecting phone numbers were like collecting rare baseball cards or something.
Either way, I do think I'm still sociable. I'm currently taking a Pharmacy Tech class here in town and I've already gotten cool with half the class. And even in my partying/rave days, I used to hang out and talk with a lot of different people and groups throughout Norcal. People always seemed to like coming to me and talking about their problems or private matters to me and I'd offer some advice here and there, or if I knew they were just trying to blow steam or simply bitch for the sake of bitching, I'd just listen. Sometimes, people like a good listener more than they like a good talker, this I've learned. However, it's also a good way to get put in the Friend Zone too, if you're trying to make a move. |
i avoid being the crying post/advice giver/whatever, and you should avoid it too. i'm not there to hear you bitch and moan about how your life sucks or how your ex was an . thats not interesting, stimulating conversation where i want to get to know you, that's "jesus stop talking or at least take off your shirt" conversation.
| quote: | Originally posted by meriter
okay um.. what if you are not a normal human being? |
that's kind of my point- you gotta realize that NOBODY is "normal." we all have our quirks, that's what makes us interesting. that's what makes your girlfriend special compared to that guy's girlfriend. it's what makes people like you over the next guy. embrace that you're not the "usual." both women AND men don't want "the usual" (unless they're going for the quick and easy bang). you shouldn't strive to be "normal," you should strive to be a ing individual.
which brings me right back to point #1- be yourself and don't apologize for it. |
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| zyklon-jay |
| I used to do more drugs than Ricardo. |
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| Taz |
| quote: | Originally posted by meriter
Talking to girls...What is the best way to approach females without coming off as creepy?
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Never never never talk to girls. Talk with girls. Talk with everybody. Get out a lot so you're used to it. Show up early, talk with whoever's there about what's up, introduce yourself to just about everyone who walks through the door; it's the polite thing to do. Not to do so is snobbish. Girls often take the snob route themselves and THEY come off as creepy, that's why you're afraid to approach them.
| quote: | | It's not worth the effort if you've got nothing to say (or nothing meaningful beyond superficial comments about her appearance). |
You're not worth her attention if you've got nothing to say. But you're alive, you life life, and you have opinions, likes and dislikes and you've seen things happen so you do have something to say. Say what's on your mind (within common etiquette). Talk about what you see around you and what it feels like. Join conversations, tell stories, the ones you tell your friends over the phone. You didn't show up to be a lone lemon - that's depressing. You came to hang with good company and lose your depression, right?
Anyway, once you're warmed up, chat up the wallflowers on whatever topic. From there ask questions about them, get to know them, let them get to know you. If you're real, you're bound to hit it off with at least one girl in the place, and when you do, say "You seem like an interesting person, we should get together..." and she'll either give you the digits (accept) or an excuse (reject, move on).
Key is, monitor how she feels. Take the necessary time to work the mood with her towards "cozy, warm and fuzzy". If you're a comfy guy, she'll want to nestle into you like a comfy couch, and then you're good. |
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| Zharen |
| quote: | Originally posted by Omega_Blue
i avoid being the crying post/advice giver/whatever, and you should avoid it too. i'm not there to hear you bitch and moan about how your life sucks or how your ex was an . thats not interesting, stimulating conversation where i want to get to know you, that's "jesus stop talking or at least take off your shirt" conversation.
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Yeah but I really didn't mind it at the time. It was funny to see the sort of gripes cracked out ravers will bring to you. It def had its moments. But yeah, nowadays I'm not trying to be that person anymore. I just want to be an like everyone else. |
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| OkiDokie |
| quote: | Originally posted by zyklon-jay
I used to do more drugs than Ricardo. |
This |
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| zyklon-jay |
| As you can see, i had fun. |
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| Silky Johnson |
| I need to know who did your eye make-up there Jay. That looks too good to have been done by anyone other than a chick. If you honestly did it, I'm impressed. |
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| Igaryok |
| quote: | Originally posted by AnotherWay83
hot chics are rare |
Guess that really depends where you live. |
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| meriter |
| I live on the south side of chicago there are more chihuahuas than hot chics. |
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| Igaryok |
| quote: | Originally posted by meriter
I live on the south side of chicago there are more chihuahuas than hot chics. |
Yeah U.S. is not exactly the best place to find hot chicks. |
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| UWM |
| quote: | Originally posted by meriter
I live on the south side of chicago there are more chihuahuas than hot chics. |
I can verify this. |
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