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How long and how often do you talk to your parents? (pg. 2)
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| PivotTechno |
| quote: | Originally posted by Banora
Haven't spoken to my mother in almost a decade, and I finally kicked my father out of my life at the end of February. :) |
Big up the estrangement posse!
Cut them out of the picture 7 years ago. |
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| Spacey Orange |
| quote: | Originally posted by Silky Johnson
I used to talk to my mom every few days on the telephone, and would visit her for an hour or two every week. Last year her health declined very rapidly and she now lives in a long term care facility - she barely talks at all, just lots of smiles and nods. So I visit her about once every week or two and we just sit. I will braid her hair or do her nails...put cream on her hands and feet, but yeah there isn't really much talking. :p |
If you dont mind mE asking, what happened to her? On the count of your Age, i imagine she's not particularly old. Sorry, i hope she'll be ok. |
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| Chimney |
Relations with my parents are extremely strain. I haven't visited my mother in two years. Father lives in the same city as me and we meet each other once every three months.
I speak once a week with my mother and a couple of times a week with my father. |
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| Silky Johnson |
| quote: | Originally posted by Spacey Orange
If you dont mind mE asking, what happened to her? On the count of your Age, i imagine she's not particularly old. Sorry, i hope she'll be ok. |
Yeah she's only 65. Nothing specific really, just years of mental illness combined with some environmental stuff + kidney failure. It just finally all caught up and I know that the part of her that kept hanging on finally gave up. She'll be fine, relatively speaking. Her needs are taken care of and her spouse spends every day with her + I visit as often as I can. She gets great care at the place she lives and goes to dialysis 3 times a week.
She will never get better or return to her former level of functioning, only worse. But she's been wanting to die for so long, been sick for so many years, I'm surprised she didn't throw in the towel sooner. |
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| Banora |
| quote: | Originally posted by PivotTechno
Big up the estrangement posse!
Cut them out of the picture 7 years ago. |
yeah! :D :D
Wish I could have cut my dad out ages ago, but due to him mooching/bumming off my grandma it was hard to do so since I saw him constantly. He pulled a gun on me and a friend when I was trying to leave after he went off on one of his more epic drunken episodes I finally decided I was done. |
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| Spacey Orange |
| quote: | Originally posted by Silky Johnson
Yeah she's only 65. Nothing specific really, just years of mental illness combined with some environmental stuff + kidney failure. It just finally all caught up and I know that the part of her that kept hanging on finally gave up. She'll be fine, relatively speaking. Her needs are taken care of and her spouse spends every day with her + I visit as often as I can. She gets great care at the place she lives and goes to dialysis 3 times a week.
She will never get better or return to her former level of functioning, only worse. But she's been wanting to die for so long, been sick for so many years, I'm surprised she didn't throw in the towel sooner. |
Sorry to hear that. Im sure it's been difficult to deal with but you seem to be ok on some level. |
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| Sushipunk |
| quote: | Originally posted by Banora
He pulled a gun on me and a friend when I was trying to leave after he went off on one of his more epic drunken episodes I finally decided I was done. |
:wtf:
On topic, I don't really get along with either of my parents. I talk to mum maybe every month or two, and dad even less. Maybe a couple of times a year? |
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| Silky Johnson |
| quote: | Originally posted by Spacey Orange
Sorry to hear that. Im sure it's been difficult to deal with but you seem to be ok on some level. |
It is what it is. People get old, they get sick, they die...that's not the part that is hard to deal with. It's knowing how sad my mother was for almost the entirety of her life, and no matter who was there for her she never felt understood. She just couldn't get what she wanted from life, and that sucks. |
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| srussell0018 |
| Interesting how so many people in the cor don't have good/don't have any relationships with their parents. Also funny how someone whose mother suffered from mental illness her whole life makes up a mental illness about someone else as the butt of a joke. |
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| Banora |
| quote: | Originally posted by Sushipunk
:wtf:
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He's a drunk, drug-addicted redneck with anger issues, I'm honestly surprised in the 26 years I've known him this didn't happen sooner. |
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| Vector A |
So your mom is Danish, then? How did she end up with a "drunk, drug-addicted redneck" American? Sounds like it could be an interesting story.
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| Banora |
| quote: | Originally posted by Vector A
So your mom is Danish, then? How did she end up with a "drunk, drug-addicted redneck" American? Sounds like it could be an interesting story.
:thepirate |
They met when he was traveling Europe, 9 months later she showed up on his doorstep with a baby (not really true, they kept in contact but from what I've been told she never told him about me until she went to visit him after I was born). They've hated each other ever since. I should also note my mom is no saint, and my dad often said the only reason someone as good looking as her even talked to him is because he 'was carrying an 8-ball of coke in his pocket at the party she was at'. They attempted to marry when I was 3 but it wasn't a legal marriage given dad was married to another woman who he randomly left in the mid-80's.
I should write a book.
ETA: I should ALSO note my mom mentioned in October of 85 she was dating a different guy at the time. I don't really a flying if I am my dad's kid or not, but I thought it was weird she mentioned it, then looked kind of concerned after she said it. I didn't really think about it until a few years later. |
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