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Coworker sexually assaulted me; boss is angry with me that it happened. (pg. 3)
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| Banora |
| quote: | Originally posted by Spacey Orange
sorry about what happened. you may have some legal remedies depending upon in which state you are.
don't think that because he didn't take it as far as he wanted to go, that you won't have some health issues down the line. may i suggest that you write everything down in case you need to document something such as retaliation in the future.
again sorry. this kind of seems to happen to some of the nicest people. |
I may have a legal edge because my boss told a coworker who is not management, was not there last night when the cops showed up, what happened. I don't know, though.
As for health issues, I doubt it. At worst I feel a little physically gross and... I dunno, ashamed? I feel like I am an idiot and shouldn't have gone upstairs and I feel frustrated because I feel like others (like my boss) feel the same.
| quote: | Originally posted by Vivid Boy
was he puerto rican? |
No. I am not sure what nationality he is, actually. He is not from the US, though, but I never have asked.
| quote: | Originally posted by Vivid Boy
she shouldnt have been wearing what she was wearing. I sorta did the same thing when jori and i met cept i missed her inner thigh with my hand and slapped her hand and she thought it was high five |
Psh, you were peeping at me from 20ft away from all times. :o |
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| Vivid Boy |
| thats because you were trying to sexually assault me. and sexual assault is not fun if we're both doing it. thats just...foolin around...eww |
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| Banora |
| quote: | Originally posted by Vivid Boy
thats because you were trying to sexually assault me. and sexual assault is not fun if we're both doing it. thats just...foolin around...eww |
Ewww consent. |
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| Joss Weatherby |
Uhhh, you can't spell consent without con.
I heard thats the opening line to every single "game" books.
I MISS ORY SO MUCH. |
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| Lira |
| quote: | Originally posted by Banora
As for health issues, I doubt it. At worst I feel a little physically gross and... I dunno, ashamed? I feel like I am an idiot and shouldn't have gone upstairs and I feel frustrated because I feel like others (like my boss) feel the same. |
Don't punish yourself for a mistake that wasn't yours. Your boss is clearly just a male chauvinist who would rather blame the victim than deal with the real issue.
You trusted this guy because, up until that point, his reputation was spotless, and you thought you weren't interested in you like that. You didn't do anything wrong. You didn't lead him on, based on what you said. And even if you had, you're responsible for what you do, not for his despicable behaviour.
You weren't an idiot. You had no reason to believe he'd do anything like that. Don't let this nonsense make you think otherwise! |
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| Lagrangian |
| If it makes you feel better, my previous boss was busted by the feds and is facing 20 years in jail for running a ponzi scheme. |
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| Banora |
| quote: | Originally posted by Lira
You weren't an idiot. You had no reason to believe he'd do anything like that. Don't let this nonsense make you think otherwise! |
From the reaction I am getting at work (including that coworker, who is a female and I elaborated on the situation) they seem to think I invited it or something. The girl even said "well, you know, he is a coworker, why even go to his apartment?". I don't know. I kind of feel stupid. Actually I feel really stupid.
What I think is weird is when he lunged on me I remember thinking that he is extremely heavy and squishy (no idea where the squishy came in). That was one of my thoughts when I was also thinking 'oh oh oh ' and NOPED the hell out of there.
| quote: | Originally posted by Lagrangian
If it makes you feel better, my previous boss was busted by the feds and is facing 20 years in jail for running a ponzi scheme. |
I would not be surprised if my manager was in on something like that. Going off of his behavior, the way he moves and talks I think he's on a -ton of coke 24-7. |
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| Joss Weatherby |
| quote: | Originally posted by Banora
From the reaction I am getting at work (including that coworker, who is a female and I elaborated on the situation) they seem to think I invited it or something. The girl even said "well, you know, he is a coworker, why even go to his apartment?". I don't know. I kind of feel stupid. Actually I feel really stupid.
What I think is weird is when he lunged on me I remember thinking that he is extremely heavy and squishy (no idea where the squishy came in). That was one of my thoughts when I was also thinking 'oh oh oh ' and NOPED the hell out of there. |
Soooooooo when did you move to India? :conf: |
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| Lira |
| quote: | Originally posted by Banora
From the reaction I am getting at work (including that coworker, who is a female and I elaborated on the situation) they seem to think I invited it or something. The girl even said "well, you know, he is a coworker, why even go to his apartment?". I don't know. I kind of feel stupid. Actually I feel really stupid. |
I couldn't disagree more. You went there for the obvious reasons: He seemed friendly and you thought he meant no harm. You went there because you had something of an informal business deal. You'd help him walk his dog, so it's no wonder you went there if that's where his dog usually was.
As for him being your co-worker, it doesn't matter if he's the freaking pope - he had no right to assault you like that whatsoever. Think about it: Just because a girl is in my flat, am I allowed to do as I please? Of course not!
Your colleagues sound like those CNN reporters who thought it was a shame those teenagers ruined their football careers because they raped an unconscious girl. They crossed the line, not her!
| quote: | Originally posted by Banora
What I think is weird is when he lunged on me I remember thinking that he is extremely heavy and squishy (no idea where the squishy came in). That was one of my thoughts when I was also thinking 'oh oh oh ' and NOPED the hell out of there. |
This was the right thing to do... though I'm also puzzled about the squishy bit. Huh? |
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| Banora |
Huh. I guess I got fired. I just read the company-wide email today and it said this:
I have witnessed the highest levels and lowest levels of ownership in the 48 hours since I have been back. Thank you to everyone who pitched in today to make it work. Honestly, I have witnessed above and beyond today that would make any father proud and I thank you! For those of you that made it difficult for us to do business today take a look in the mirror and while your at it, update your resume.
Tomorrow we are hosting an open house. My intentions are to hire 3 servers, 1 dishwasher, 1 Mon through Fri AM host/hostess, , and a part time bartender.
I was moved to the Mon-Fri am hostess. Well. . |
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| Joss Weatherby |
| Move back to Denmark hippy. |
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