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Coworker sexually assaulted me; boss is angry with me that it happened. (pg. 5)
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| FuzzQi |
| quote: | Originally posted by Ted Promo
I work for an ethics and compliance company. The best route would be to look for employment elsewhere, as roughy as it is to say. It is apparent that the culture there is not conducive to reprimanding those who commit unethical acts unless there is an unreasonable and exhaustive amount of evidence. Rather than attempting to change the culture of all the employees there it would be far easier (and probably healthier) for you to seek employment elsewhere. Provided your company has an ethics hotline, I would then file a report about the incident subsequent to your solidifying a position elsewhere. Chances are nothing will come of the report, but you will have something on record, and the employee in question will have more of an extensive record, making his employment less tenable. Unfortunately, your story is rather common. |
Holy that is the most coherent thing I've ever seen you write... I agree with you though. |
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| Ted Promo |
Haha. It happens I guess.
In reference to your supervisor, upon you securing a position elsewhere and filing a report regarding the incident, make sure to include your name. The actions you describe thus far do not technically constitute retaliation unless there is a paper trail. You must make sure you have a record of everything. If you have the capability of submitting an official report through a third party ethics hotline, maintain the case number. If you can only report the incidents internally, ask about a case number, or about securing a copy of the report. If you face further reprisal subsequent to the lodging of a formal complaint, then you can begin to proclaim you are suffering retaliation. If you make enough noise and document incidents diligently, you may be able to get both people terminated (or severely reprimanded). Although my company works primarily with Fortune 500 companies that have dedicated compliance divisions (or large Human Resource divisions that could encompass impartial associates). In your specific case it seems as though there may be favoritism between the supervisor and employee which may be impeding impartial judgment. If you work at some mom and pop place without an extensive compliance infrastructure, it may behoove you to just leave while you can, forget about it, and leave them a bad yelp review or something. |
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| srussell0018 |
| If you're actually a good employee, and have others to back you up, with what you've said so far it seems like you'd have a solid wrongful termination suit. If not, I'd go straight to the press and that owner right in the ass. How many mothers/women do you think will be going to his restaurant if they know he's firing women for saying they were sexually assaulted by another coworker. |
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| wienerschnitzel |
| Don't feel stupid.Being friends with a guy or helping them out here and there is not setting yourself up to be sexually assaulted. Because you are young and attractive others will resent you and some will try and take advantage of you. It sounds like Ted gave you some solid advice. If you want to make it more personal find this guy's ex/baby mumma's contact info and let her know what happened in his apartment while their daughter was in his custody. Also mention the police file # to let her know you're serious. She may not take it seriously or she may take it very seriously especially if she has a custody battle in progress... who knows? :gsmile: |
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| Dykes_on_Jay |
I feel for ya sweetie.
Women need to realize though. If I guy talks to you, he wants to you.No exceptions. We aren't all rapey douches though. |
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| enydo |
| Ted really knows his in this area, by the byyyyy. |
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| Vivid Boy |
| to your work environment it sounds like you guys were getting tight, he grew some feelings, finally made a move and you yelled sexual assault. He's probably making himself out as the victim. I wouldnt take down the restaurant for it, I would tell my side of the story and leave |
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| sensorium |
| quote: | Originally posted by Ted Promo
Haha. It happens I guess.
In reference to your supervisor, upon you securing a position elsewhere and filing a report regarding the incident, make sure to include your name. The actions you describe thus far do not technically constitute retaliation unless there is a paper trail. You must make sure you have a record of everything. If you have the capability of submitting an official report through a third party ethics hotline, maintain the case number. If you can only report the incidents internally, ask about a case number, or about securing a copy of the report. If you face further reprisal subsequent to the lodging of a formal complaint, then you can begin to proclaim you are suffering retaliation. If you make enough noise and document incidents diligently, you may be able to get both people terminated (or severely reprimanded). Although my company works primarily with Fortune 500 companies that have dedicated compliance divisions (or large Human Resource divisions that could encompass impartial associates). In your specific case it seems as though there may be favoritism between the supervisor and employee which may be impeding impartial judgment. If you work at some mom and pop place without an extensive compliance infrastructure, it may behoove you to just leave while you can, forget about it, and leave them a bad yelp review or something. |
or provide link to yelp so more users can write bad reviews about the molestation place.
I agree with srusell0018, go to press, bother them and make them lose customers. they more than deserve it.
your actions can save or put another girl from a similar situation at the same place. think about it. |
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| Looney4Clooney |
the level of insensitivity is kinda ed in this thread. What constitutes assault is getting physically touched in a manner you don't like. You push a cop with your finger, you will be charged for assault. Your clothes were ripped. There is your evidence. The desk clerk that called cops, there is your witness. Go see a psychiatrist and ask for some medication to cope with the event which you describe in detail and have them put it on paper. Then start seing a therapist. And once they all corroborate your story, he will be charged and perhaps won't end up in prison, he will have that on his record. And cases that are dismissed should not affect one's future outcome but it does. They won't mention it but a judge is going to see the pattern and it will influence his/her way of thinking.
The cops don't like paper work. File the charges. At least they will have to arrest him and he will miss a shift. What ever you do , do not just become another victim that just gives it a pass because everyone tells you you have no case. You have a case. You have evidence, and you have a witness.
They aren't going to have a jury. He will have a public defender so rest assured his defence won't give a and you will have the DA. They will look at the facts, and his history and probably give him community service at the very least.
And if you are going to get fired, mismanage your cashout on the biggest night of the week. That is something they can't actually prove or hold you responsible for. Your word against his. I put the thousand dollars in the drop box. I am pretty sure this place doesn't have a witness system so ya, there is your 1000 plus your severance pay for wrong ful termination. The news won't care. |
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| srussell0018 |
| ^ this for sure |
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| Looney4Clooney |
i mean vivid boy turns a thread about someone being sexually assaulted into his story about becoming a mover and shaker in the real estate biz.
Vividboy - it is sort of a general rule that when you have to explain to people why you dont' suck in a thread about someone getting sexually assaulted, you probably suck in ways even Michael Bay would have trouble illustrating with a car crash. |
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| SYSTEM-J |
| Ted's clearly right and you don't even need to frame it in terms of ethics and compliance. Even if you don't get fired, leave as quickly as you can. You claim to be sexually assaulted and your boss responds by getting extremely and unfairly angry at you. Why the would you want to continue working there? |
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