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Nice guys finish last? (pg. 5)
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| Slylee |
| this whole stereotyping thing w/ the girls and guys and what country they are from is kind of ignorant....everyone is differnt. |
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| Beat_Chemist |
| From my experience I think the reason you fare better in foreign country is that you are A. on vacation so u don't really give a B. you know you won't see these peepz again so You don't give a like when I was in spain I was parading down the street singin opera at the top of my lungs (rather poorly I can't sing) just cuz I really didn't give a . And this I don't give a attitude projected into the way I spoke with women. Usually nice guys like me are too timid to talk to women or make a move. 4 ex. my best friend went out with a nice guy on my recomendation however she dropped him the first date? Why? he would ask stupid things like can I hold ur hand. (at first she thought it was cute but) later after the date he was like can I kiss you? <-u never aske that u just do it And he was to timid afraid to offend her that he wasn't even himself. SO they never clicked in thier conversation. Nice guys have to understand this if a girls there THEY EXPECT you to do something otherwise they tend to not think your interested. Most nice guys don't understand that point. They usually fumble around. s win a lot b/c they have this I'll take what I want attitude. A good analogy is this a nice guy will wait to be waited on where s hit the buffet. Some girls will approach you but it doesn't happen too much in TX u have to do most of he work. Regionally girls differ. In tampa region I find that you have to be even more cofident. EX. a common pick up line is Can I mash your bitch? In dallas that would never fly. Often in dallas being direct or a cheesy pick up line to show u have the balls work best |
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| Beat_Chemist |
| From my experience I think the reason you fare better in foreign country is that you are A. on vacation so u don't really give a B. you know you won't see these peepz again so You don't give a like when I was in spain I was parading down the street singin opera at the top of my lungs (rather poorly I can't sing) just cuz I really didn't give a . And this I don't give a attitude projected into the way I spoke with women. Usually nice guys like me are too timid to talk to women or make a move. 4 ex. my best friend went out with a nice guy on my recomendation however she dropped him the first date? Why? he would ask stupid things like can I hold ur hand. (at first she thought it was cute but) later after the date he was like can I kiss you? <-u never aske that u just do it And he was to timid afraid to offend her that he wasn't even himself. SO they never clicked in thier conversation. Nice guys have to understand this if a girls there THEY EXPECT you to do something otherwise they tend to not think your interested. Most nice guys don't understand that point. They usually fumble around. s win a lot b/c they have this I'll take what I want attitude. A good analogy is this a nice guy will wait to be waited on where s hit the buffet. Some girls will approach you but it doesn't happen too much in TX u have to do most of he work. Regionally girls differ. In tampa region I find that you have to be even more cofident. EX. a common pick up line is Can I mash your bitch? In dallas that would never fly. Often in dallas being direct(wanna go get some coffee later) or a cheesy pick up line to show u have the balls work best. I have tried both sides of the coin just as a social experiment when I was introduced to this new girl I immediately started grabbing her ass jokin about her thong, teasing and ing up her hair and . What did she do? when I moved to tampa she wrote me a 6 page love letter. How did her friends respond they competed over my ass. prior to this experiment I was ur typically shy nice guy. Lemme tell you nice doesn't pay off. But u can be both, you can still be touchy and joke about that would normally offend a common stranger but stil be nice after all its only talk. Another good approach if ur a timid nice guy is take a busness approach to dating, this will get you a first date everysingle time that is if you know how to sell yourself. This perspective works for me when I get too ed up on weed and cna't think straight. To do so you be direct forward and u negotiate ur way into a date situation. How easy is it to get a luncheon with a busness assoc. Pretty ing easy so why not a luncheon with that girl u always wanted. There is always the rule of three in this game u take no 3 times b4 u drop it. If they reject u for a date or mkain a move 3 times most times the mean it. And for a date If i'm too ed up to think straight I treat the date like an interview this works cuz u ask the questions and yousound interested in who the girl is. But inlike a busness relation ship you have to break the touch barrier thus this approach will take you to the first date all the way to the dinner part. Cuz how many of you nice guys think if only i could get one date I could show her how wonderful I really am. gotta go to work will post again later. caio |
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| Eugene |
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he would ask stupid things like can I hold ur hand. (at first she thought it was cute but) later after the date he was like can I kiss you? <-u never aske that u just do it And he was to timid afraid to offend her that he wasn't even himself. SO they never clicked in thier conversation. Nice guys have to understand this if a girls there THEY EXPECT you to do something
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Wow that's exactly what happened to me last year! :eek:
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I have tried both sides of the coin just as a social experiment when I was introduced to this new girl I immediately started grabbing her ass jokin about her thong, teasing and ing up her hair and . What did she do? when I moved to tampa she wrote me a 6 page love letter.
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hahaha, I'll try that tonight! :happy2: thanks for the tip :stongue: |
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| shao |
| er... ok i'm sorry, but there's a difference between a nice guy and a begger. To me, asking to hold her hand/kiss is begging (and i would consider myself a nice guy, too, in case you're wondering). |
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| liquidxxd |
| it seems to be true, cuz when you are nice, people take advantage of you |
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| undertensecond |
very true.
it is good to be bad at times |
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| quddha |
| quote: | Originally posted by Beat_Chemist
I have tried both sides of the coin just as a social experiment when I was introduced to this new girl I immediately started grabbing her ass jokin about her thong, teasing and ing up her hair and . What did she do? when I moved to tampa she wrote me a 6 page love letter. |
You know why that excellent strategy worked? Because girls love to be teased.
1. It shows that you're interested. Teasing is a way of flirting.
2. It shows that you're fun and have a sense of humour.
3. It shows that you're confident, a challenge, and not a wimpy pushover. A MAN man. :P
You're a teaser, you're on the top of the social pecking order. You're rarely on the butt end of jokes. Instead, you usually dish out the witty comments. Powerful, clever and confident. What else can a girl ask for? ... money... :D |
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| Kimmi |
| quote: | Originally posted by liquidxxd
it seems to be true, cuz when you are nice, people take advantage of you |
Yeah, thats how it used to be for me. But lately I've become such a cynic that I've stayed away from people almost entirely, and that seems to have solved the problem :nervous: |
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| Eugene |
| quote: | Originally posted by quddha
You know why that excellent strategy worked? Because girls love to be teased.
1. It shows that you're interested. Teasing is a way of flirting.
2. It shows that you're fun and have a sense of humour.
3. It shows that you're confident, a challenge, and not a wimpy pushover. A MAN man. :P
You're a teaser, you're on the top of the social pecking order. You're rarely on the butt end of jokes. Instead, you usually dish out the witty comments. Powerful, clever and confident. What else can a girl ask for? ... money... :D |
hahaha!
Brilliant post, quddha! Good job :D:D:):):) |
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| davinox |
friendly teasing though...
dont wanna be a prick. |
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| Technaut |
| quote: | Originally posted by quddha
You know why that excellent strategy worked? Because girls love to be teased.
1. It shows that you're interested. Teasing is a way of flirting.
2. It shows that you're fun and have a sense of humour.
3. It shows that you're confident, a challenge, and not a wimpy pushover. A MAN man. :P
You're a teaser, you're on the top of the social pecking order. You're rarely on the butt end of jokes. Instead, you usually dish out the witty comments. Powerful, clever and confident. What else can a girl ask for? ... money... :D |
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