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Sex yet still just friends - possible?
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| Sand Leaper |
Is it possible for two friends to be sex partners yet not developing their personal relationship any further than just friendship? There are certain risks involved of course. The intimacy of it all might turn the feelings of one part around to wanting it to be more than friendship after, and then there's the usual risks that sex in general involves, which could be turn out to be very different since the people involved are just friends.
But it is doable, or will it just be a matter of time before things eventually evolve into a gf/bf relationship?
I was just pondering this the other day, so any thoughts on this matter would be welcome.
PS. Take the debate on whether sex between friends is OK or not in another thread,thanks. ;) |
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| montie |
its very possible
if both people are fully capable of understanding a difference between making love and ing. and that they can be two totaly different things |
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| Arbiter |
It's certainly possible. There is nothing inherent to sexual intercourse which makes it more significant than, for example, a handshake. However, in every modern society that I'm aware of, we are socialized to place a high degree of significance on the activity - and if one has been successfully socialized by their life experiences, then a sexual relationship will, in all probabilty, lead to neurological phenomena which manifest themselves as "feelings" of love, intimacy, attachment, etc...
So, in conclusion, in the case that both individuals are strongly independent thinkers to the point where they are able to transcend the symbolism our society places upon sexual relationships, it shouldn't be a problem at all.
However, individuals of this type are rare indeed, and if either individual fails to meet this criterion, the chances success are very low.
Best wishes,
Arbiter |
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| UglyDave |
girls bein girls they'll probably just get all attached etc :rolleyes:
possible if she's a bit of an up-for-it slapper though :) UglyDaves kinda woman :) |
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| TranceGiant |
| quote: | Originally posted by Arbiter
It's certainly possible. There is nothing inherent to sexual intercourse which makes it more significant than, for example, a handshake. However, in every modern society that I'm aware of, we are socialized to place a high degree of significance on the activity - and if one has been successfully socialized by their life experiences, then a sexual relationship will, in all probabilty, lead to neurological phenomena which manifest themselves as "feelings" of love, intimacy, attachment, etc...
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So the act of greeting equals the act of reprodction? The union of two human bodies? Ain't that a bit over-simplified? Cause then there's no inherent difference between ANY human act. Murder=sex=greeting=jogging..... |
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| Arbiter |
| quote: | Originally posted by TranceGiant
So the act of greeting equals the act of reprodction? The union of two human bodies? Ain't that a bit over-simplified? Cause then there's no inherent difference between ANY human act. Murder=sex=greeting=jogging..... |
Not exactly. I find it useful to think about it in terms of what results are necessarily produced by an act. That is, what result the act must produce in order for it to fit the definition of that act.
When you have sex with someone, you may facilitate reproduction or exchange pathogens. Likewise, when you shake someone's hand you may communicate a greeting to them, and incidentally, you may also exchange pathogens. However, these results are not inherent to the given acts of sexual intercourse and a handshake respectively.
In contrast, when you murder someone you necessarily produce the result that they are now dead. If they aren't dead, then you did not murder them by definition. Since this result isn't necessarily produced by sex, greetings, or jogging, there is an inherent difference between them.
Naturally, there are also inherent differences between a handshake and sexual intercourse, which varies according to one's particular definition of sexual intercourse (a term of often ill-defined scope). With respect to the question Sand Leaper posed, however, a handshake and sexual intercourse, while not identical activities, have equivalent significance to the question of whether or not you can carry on a normal "friendship" with the other party. This is because none of the results necessarily produced by either act interfere with your ability to maintain a traditional relationship of friendship with your friend.
Cheers,
Arbiter |
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| j_spot |
simple answer, no
as much as you want to say sex is just a physical act, its not. Sex between friends usually gets messy
very messy |
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| dbl |
it could work, but i wouldn't go for it.
2 of my closest friends was really good friends... but then suddenly they started the friendly friend .. hehe
it went all good... nothing speciall about it.
untill he started to get some stupid freaking feelings for her.. and she didn't want to be more then friends, but she didn't do much about it and it keept going.
and now they don't even talk to each other...
and this suck's... caus now they are talking bad thing's about eachother to me all the time... grrrr :whip:
atleast she want's to talk to him now... but he wount do it.. that stupid mother ******... hehehe.. nha.. he's my friend... but he have got all ed up now after this.. talking about killing himself etc..... etc.....
so friend's ing can go to hell.. hehe |
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| gwrmarines |
| LOL i seen a commercial for this of some show:whip: |
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| ahlamalek |
i really can't understand this, how can two people who are very good friends each other without any feelings for the other. Its hypocrite.
Moreover, the best couples evolved from being very good friends. |
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| Ste |
nah it cant...
...you have to ask her out in the end :stongue: ;)
j/k hun! :p |
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| Clyde77 |
| yep... and try your friend's bestfriend too. ;) |
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