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Question for girls. (pg. 4)
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| Sand Leaper |
| quote: | Originally posted by DJYaNiK
Love = Fake Emotion |
no, love = chemical reaction in the brain designed to make us reproduce. |
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| Massive84 |
| quote: | Originally posted by anuneventrade
Every guy I have ever dated has been older than me. The last one that I lived with was 7 years older than me and had his life on track. Owned his own apartment/car, had an excellent job with opportunity for growth within the company, was well educated and had a fantastic family. That to me is just sexy.
In all honesty, I do have standards. But you're lying if you say you don't.
Yes, my men have to be attractive. (Would you date a disgustingly ugly person? Of course not). If I work out and take care of my body, there is no reason why the person I'm dating shouldn't as well.
Yes, my men have to have a job. If I'm working and earning money and saving and paying bills, you do too. Learn responsibility and independence.
Yes, my men have to have a car. I'm lazy, I don't want to drive everywhere, and buses make me sick. I didn't say you had to have the best car in the world, but A car at least. How are you supposed to get to work without a car? (Granted, my last boyfriend did have a Mitsubishi Evo VIII, but that was just a plus. :D)
Yes, my men have to have an edcuation or be in the process of getting one. Knowledge is necessary to get ahead in the world, and it's damn sexy when my man is intelligent. (Last boyfriend worked for NASA)
Yes, my men have to be older. Younger = more immature, less financially stable, more reckless, generally incapable of a real relationship. Around my age is fine, but I rarely date anyone my age or younger. I think the youngest I've gone is two years older than me.
It's a definite plus if he's addicted to trance and politics :clown:
*edit* But in all honesty people, these are common standards of society, not just of women. Do you really know that many people that don't have a job? a car? an education/getting one? I don't know a single person that doesn't have any one of those. |
so that dude from NASA, you still dating him?
i guess you do, if he work at nasa, i am sure he has a car, house etc...
but if not, something have went wrong, and i thing that something is a bit more important then all those points you stated, or els your releationship woulda been perfect..right?
btw this is just a question.. |
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| Dom |
| my girlfriend is older and richer than me :rolleyes: |
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| Arbiter |
| quote: | Originally posted by Trance-Aqua
Firstly thanx to those who replied in serious manner.
But you dont really see my point, money , age education,,, etc is like a mask and are personal achievents in life, sure its a very big attraction to us and i wouldnt mind a billionare gf who was the most gorjas girl on earth, but just ask your self, what if that girl/guy you have met, were the exact match for you, you realise that you have finnaly met someone who you feel just right with, they were verry polite, had manners, made you feel like the angel in heaven each time they were just around you and that you would die if they were to ever leave you... BUT they were abit younger than you and were not financialy stable because maybe of some recent tradegy or for other unknow matter, does that mean you would spit in their face and leave ???
Anyone here understands what im getting at ?? Not saying youre all wrong but what if the alternate situation acurs like i have writen above,,, what happens when love will make more sence and will overule the material things ???? Do you simply deny the reality or what ,... |
I understand what you're getting at, but I think you're oversimplifying the sequence of events which give rise to the possibility of love. Unless you believe in love at first sight - which would seem to be a pretty shallow sort of love in any case - then before you can experience love towards someone you have to go through the process of getting to know them, which isn't going to happen overnight.
The situation you have proposed:
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girl/guy you have met, were the exact match for you, you realise that you have finnaly met someone who you feel just right with, they were verry polite, had manners, made you feel like the angel in heaven each time they were just around you and that you would die if they were to ever leave you... BUT they were abit younger than you and were not financialy stable because maybe of some recent tradegy or for other unknow matter, does that mean you would spit in their face and leave ???
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wouldn't ever happen, because you would never get to the point of "[feeling] like like the angel in heaven each time they were just around you and that you would die if they were to ever leave you" unless they had already met your criteria (whatever those criteria may be) for a potential mate.
As human beings we don't choose who we are attracted to and who we aren't. If I could choose, I would be a bisexual attracted to everyone - I might as well maximize my options, after all. But that's not realistic. Women don't control what stimulates their "attraction" either. Financial stability and perceived maturity, for most women, is a major factor in stimulating this phenomenon. It is not a choice they make - they are not consciously disqualifying these individuals on the basis that they aren't wealthy enough. Rather, they're disqualifying these individuals because they aren't attracted to them. The reason they're not attracted to them might have something to do with their lack of financial stability or age, or it could be due to other factors such as personality or physical appearance.
You can't accuse the women of being "shallow" for using this as a criterion because they don't have any control over it, just as you don't have any control over who you find attractive, nor do you have any control over the reasons why you find them attractive.
I hope I've made myself clear.
Best Wishes,
Arbiter |
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| xGirlx |
| quote: | | wouldn't ever happen, because you would never get to the point of "[feeling] like like the angel in heaven each time they were just around you and that you would die if they were to ever leave you" unless they had already met your criteria (whatever those criteria may be) for a potential mate. |
Not necessarily. I thought I found the love of my life. Was blissfully happy and would have done anything and everything for this person. Finances did not matter to me, at the time, and nothing could separate us and we were the idolized couple of everyone's fantasies. However, even with this notion that this was "the man for me" and finally the words out of my mouth that "this is the man I'm going to marry", things do change unfortunately. It's sad to say straight out that finances are what broke us up (because of course there's a lot more to the story) but it definitly played a large part. After meeting someone who for the first time made me face my future and realize that it wasn't that far off, and being old fashioned (american dream), when the finances started to dwindle and I didn't see a motivated drive in my bf to start working towards the future... it made me think twice. (And mind you, I personally am financially stable). Was this a guy who would be able to support me and my family!? Was this a guy who would have the motivation to take charge of the relationship instead of always having me do so? Someone can only do so much in the relationship and when the other half doesn't contribute as much, a tension can begin to take place. It ended up that things didn't work out. Finances and maturity (even though he was older) got the best of us.
So you can say that you feel like an angel in heaven when first meeting someone and still have them not meet your criteria. I believe everyone has more than one true love in their life. |
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| igottaknow |
| quote: | Originally posted by anuneventrade
...(Granted, my last boyfriend did have a Mitsubishi Evo VIII, but that was just a plus. :D)
...it's damn sexy when my man is intelligent. (Last boyfriend worked for NASA) |
I don't appreciate you telling ppl about our relationship ;)
for the lozers who've started a million of these 'question for the girls' threads, come up with your own title, stop piggy backing of my original genius. :rolleyes:
Whether u like it or not on average girls favor money and maturity, while guys dig looks and sex. For you young guys look on the bright side you have something to look forward too. For you young girls my numbers is (###) ###-#### :p |
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| nchs09 |
sometimes, as soon as a meet girls, they think im imature:rolleyes:
i clown around all the time, not imature, just a fun guy who enjoys to laugh and make others laugh....
and what can i say, ^^^ its a handycap! |
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| Heinz |
i like a girl who's into trance or latin music, euro girls with accents are also sexy. they got to be into politics, and follow the events of the world, something i rarely find here in america. they have to have common sense, ive met several girls, who completely lack this.
example : "yo, i went to the beach this weekend. it was awesome"
girl : "wow, i did nothing, just listen to the radio."
me : " its monday and we already got homework, WTF!"
girl : "oh well, how was your weekend?"
anuneventrade made several good points on men. her tastes are totally fine. and ligit, rational. but on the age thing, ide rather have a girl who is younger than me. but not that much younger. 2 years is my max. also 2 years older is my max. i have had college girls dig me before, no joke.
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oh, and that roach thing, that was last night. im in puerto rico for spring break, and theres lots of insects in this house. well, thats an exaggeration. this is my aunt's house. and its kind of dirty, so roaches are attracted to that. so a roach ran by my foot, i freaked out, and cryed for mommy.
dont girls like a guy who crys??:p :p |
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| Heinz |
| quote: | Originally posted by igottaknow
I don't appreciate you telling ppl about our relationship ;)
for the lozers who've started a million of these 'question for the girls' threads, come up with your own title, stop piggy backing of my original genius. :rolleyes:
Whether u like it or not on average girls favor money and maturity, while guys dig looks and sex. For you young guys look on the bright side you have something to look forward too. For you young girls my numbers is (###) ###-#### :p |
woah woah woah, you went out with anuneventrade?? how was the sex??:p :p |
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| politicsofdancin |
| quote: | Originally posted by Trance-Aqua
Then i tell her that if thats how girls work then true meaning of love is down the drain and that girls are money hungry selfish bitches, |
you are right, your friends gf is exactly that. you should aslo forwarn your friend...or maybe he is already older than her and he is some inverstment banker or something :rolleyes:
sad to say, but goldiggers are around....but you can't look at every girl population and think that way.
cheers
indy |
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| Streakfury |
OK, OK, some women like older guys, some dont. Enough of that, what about older women?? I'm 20, and I'd have no probs with dating a woman of 25-30, they know what they like. ;)
So come on lads, older women or younger??
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| DjDarling |
| I really don't think that it's a matter of just an "older and richer" guy. I think it's more along the lines of someone being at the same level of maturity as you are, so that they can get along well. Also, I like hardworking guys, so if they have money to show then they must be hardworking. But it's not about the money, I like guys who are in school working hard at it too, because I know they're going to go somewhere too. But in the case of my one friend, she loves this guy, but he's going nowhere in life and that causes conflict, great conflict. Who wants to be with a "rig pig" for the rest of their life? |
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