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| rabbitjoker |
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| DJ Ski |
From what I've read in this thread, only d!abolic and DigiNut are giving accurate advice.
What I advocate for picking up girls is confidence (by far the most important thing), Cocky and Funny (Basically arrogance that brings a laugh), and something different that will make you stick out.
An approach including these things accomplishes a lot for you. First of all, it shows them you aren't desparate. In fact its quite the opposite. Dishing out a compliment of any kind early sends the message "What can I do to please you." This is the WRONG message, because it wreaks of desparation, and sets the stage for you being whipped if you do succeed in a relationship. Cocky and Funny sends the opposite message, which shows confidence and balls. Women do not want a , they already have one of those.
| quote: | Originally posted by d!abolic
Yea, i actually do that exact same thing myself, and with rare exceptions, that's the only time women hear compliments from me. Otherwise, it goes right to their head and they just put me in the same group as every other guy out there who constantly tries to flatter their way into their pants. In fact, whenever a girl compliments me, i often jokingly accuse her of that :D Always gets a :eek: followed by :haha:.
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An exellent example of Cocky and Funny, well done.
| quote: | Originally posted by d!abolic
My first approach in a crowded place was on a bus full of people. And the girl wasn't even near me, nor was she looking at me. I just walked over to her, introduced myself, and told her that i don't plan on getting off the bus without her number. Man, i'll never forget the look on her face. She was absolutely glowing. She must have figured that if a guy would risk getting shot down in front of 50 people just for a chance to get to know her, she must be really something. It was awesome, i walked away laughing, even though she said she had a boyfriend. Do it man, you never know if that's exactly what she's hoping you'd do! |
Balls, once again well done.
| quote: | Originally posted by Tordan
Which is better:
- Ask for her number
- Give her your number
- Ask to exchange info |
Asking for her number pretty much the universal way of saying you're interested in her, but asking for her email is generally more successful because it is less intrusive. Either way, make sure its you contacting her, not the other way around. It keeps the ball in your court, and you're garaunteed to talk to her again. If you leave it up to her, it shows you are passive and you set yourself up for failure. Once you get her number/email, wait a couple days to show you aren't desparate, and to build anticipation on her part.
PM me if you want anymore advice, since I don't read the forums regularly. |
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| rabbitjoker |
Ask The Highroller about the advice I gave him. Million dollar advice, million dollar outcome...
My $0.02:
Any munchkin can get a girl - it takes a gentleman to keep a GOOD girl... |
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| DJ Ski |
| quote: | Originally posted by chanoa
unfortunately what one person considers normal may be perceived as creepy by someone else.
personally i liked stgfoos idea of talking about the packness of the subway. takes the focus off of the chick, unlike a compliment (not that chicks don't love hearing them, but after all the drunk, and outspoken men we run into, even a well-meaning compliment can put us on our guard) talking about something lighthearted, and stress-free (aka the subway, a certain poster on the subway, whatever is a safe way to enter the convo)
this is why talking about the weather, however lame, is always an easy conversation. its safe for both parties, and u sure as hell don't wanna scare her away first sentence |
I'd steer completely clear of talking about weather, school, work, and other such subjects. Talking about the weather is not going to make a memorable impression on a girl. Try to find a topic of conversation that is fun. Telling funny, interesting stories is an exellect thing to do if you can work them into the conversation. If she remembers the story, she'll remember you. |
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| psychosomatica |
| quote: | Originally posted by rabbitjoker
smack that ass. |
When have you ever known RJ to give out bad advice? :D |
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| d!abolic |
| quote: | Originally posted by DigiNut
The main point that this thread illustrates is that YOU ALL THINK TOO MUCH!! Man, your gut reaction when you see someone smiling at you SHOULD be (at least it generally is with me) to smile back at them and say hi. |
EXACTLY! You were programmed from birth with everything you need to be successfull with women! TRUST YOUR INSTINCTS. IGNORE SOCIAL NORMS.
You know, to be honest with you Starsearcher, the same thing happened to me several weeks ago. I was driving down Bay street during rush hour when i saw this girl rollerblading on the sidewalk. Man, i meet a lot of beautiful women every day, but i almost crashed my car into the light pole when i saw her. Absolute perfection man, take my word for it. But i allowed myself to do the socially acceptable thing, which was to drive by and wish i had met her in a different situation. Lemme tell you something, minutes later i realized that i put society's interests ahead of my own and got so angry at my own stupidity that i wanted to sink my teeth into the steering wheel. Mark my words - next time, i'm slamming the brakes and stopping my car, in the middle of the intersection if i have to, for as long as it takes me to walk up to her, point back at the line-up of pissed off motorists behind my car, tell her that she's a safety hazard and should put some pants on, and ask for her number. |
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| charmscars |
| quote: | Originally posted by DJ Ski
From what I've read in this thread, only d!abolic and DigiNut are giving accurate advice.
What I advocate for picking up girls is confidence (by far the most important thing), Cocky and Funny (Basically arrogance that brings a laugh), and something different that will make you stick out.
An approach including these things accomplishes a lot for you. First of all, it shows them you aren't desparate. In fact its quite the opposite. Dishing out a compliment of any kind early sends the message "What can I do to please you." This is the WRONG message, because it wreaks of desparation, and sets the stage for you being whipped if you do succeed in a relationship. Cocky and Funny sends the opposite message, which shows confidence and balls. Women do not want a , they already have one of those.
An exellent example of Cocky and Funny, well done.
Balls, once again well done.
Asking for her number pretty much the universal way of saying you're interested in her, but asking for her email is generally more successful because it is less intrusive. Either way, make sure its you contacting her, not the other way around. It keeps the ball in your court, and you're garaunteed to talk to her again. If you leave it up to her, it shows you are passive and you set yourself up for failure. Once you get her number/email, wait a couple days to show you aren't desparate, and to build anticipation on her part.
PM me if you want anymore advice, since I don't read the forums regularly. |
i disagree w/ the advice 'make sure the ball is in your court' agressive guys wanting numbers will often end up w/ fake ones. sincerity+charisma+humour is pretty mcuh what it takes IMO. there are no set rules.. just go w. the flow |
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| d!abolic |
| quote: | Originally posted by charmscars
i disagree w/ the advice 'make sure the ball is in your court' agressive guys wanting numbers will often end up w/ fake ones. sincerity+charisma+humour is pretty mcuh what it takes IMO. there are no set rules.. just go w. the flow |
If men want to keep the ball in their court when it comes to staying in touch and making plans, women have no one to blame but themselves. It's got nothing to do with aggression and everything to do with our lives being way too short to spend them listening to some girl say 'i dunno' over and over. Example:
Guy: Do you wanna get together?
Girl: Uhh.. maybe, i guess
Guy: Well, what days are you available?
Girl: I'm not sure, whenever
Guy: So what do you wanna do?
Girl: I dunno, what do you wanna do?
Guy (frustrated): We're going to play pool. I'll see you Thursday at 9.
Girl: Awesome, ok :) |
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| PartEgurl |
I have never been on a subway, so I am having trouble relating to this situation.
The trouble is, every girl is different. One may enjoy recieving a compliment from a stranger, another may think you are a freak.
I would start by having a simple conversation that you would have with anyone. Simple, but interesting. For all you know this girl could be a lesbian, or could be married. Then once you chat with her for a bit and you can tell she is somewhat interested, then compliment her. Complimenting her right off that bat might scare her away. It is a bit risky in my opinion.
If someone asks for my number I definitly say no, but offer my email address. After I chat with them on msn or through email for a while, I decide if they are phone worthy.
I am curious to know why some of you guys think you should never take advice from a girl? |
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| 404 Science |
| I wish I had something to add to this, but I find myself in the same situation all the time. Example: went to see incubus tonight and saw so many cute girls, some glances and some smiles, but I didnt go for it all too many times... my buddy sees a pack of girls and just walks up to them with his ticket and says, "do you guys know where gate 107 is?" (as we are standing in front of the gate) He got talking with them for about 10 minutes until they ran into some other friends. It didnt go anywhere but it was practice for him and a lost opportunity for me. practice makes perfect i guess... |
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| djdustx |
My opinion...
Just go up to her...introduced urself...try not to say um or hmm...cuz u look stupid and it makes ur size shrink 2 inches...and for me to loose that is too much :stongue: ask her for a chance to maybe get together in an open place...obviously
And dont sweat it bro...women think us guys r ed up anywayz...worst comes to worst u pat urself on the back and say i did it.
I ran into this situation with a girl i had a crush on...But things werent meant to be because i lost a chance to get a good job...and felt depressed for the next day which when this all occured.
Well for those who dont know...im italian...and i didnt shave that day and well...i have to shave everyday to look decent...and i wasnt lookin decent...didnt shave..wearin same clothes as before...a white long-sleeve shirt with a tomato sauce stain that was pure noticeable, jeans that had a pasta string dried into the crouch area...wasnt lookin to good...but i went for it anywayz...and i got rejected :D..but i did it none the less
Dunno what to say bro...i mean we've all been there
So i guess just keep confident because u'll forget about it in a week
So hopefully u got good suggestions bro...and not to worry about it.
One thing i notice...they size u up pretty quick...i mean to get a womans eye...teeth got to be white or egg shell color/clothes look clean with some fashion sense...or at least enough to not make them think ur moms dress u...and enough money in ur pocket to get around and not look like ur on ur parents allowence
So Good Luck Bro
Sebastiano
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| Desert_Storm |
| i can only add this... don't hit the wall face-front if ur not sure u can break it... try to go around it with a nice conversation... then BAM! ask for an e-mail address... |
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