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Oldest TA virgin? (pg. 17)
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| Michael19 |
| quote: | Originally posted by Orbax
hey dont mess up my thread :p
Spec, youre adorable, but stop baiting, its too obvious. |
yet all still fall for it |
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| torontotrance |
| quote: | Originally posted by trancebrat
My unsolicited two cents.
I respect those of you that are waiting to have sex for whatever reason. If you are doing it for religious reasons then that is something that I won't address because that decision should be respected. Those that don't really have a reason there are some things that you should know that most people just never talk about. It is possible that you and your partner may end up not being compatible in the bedroom. I don't care what anyone tells you...if you are not compatible your relationship is headed for trouble. I have dated people where I thought that things were good and had a lot of potential, but when it came down to it the sex was just horrible. You may think that you will just "work" on it and things will be all better. It's just not that easy. Once you have sex you will understand what I am talking about. For me it wasn't an option because after a few times of "trying" I just completely lost interest. You may think that sounds shallow and maybe to a degree it is. You have to remember this though...when you get married that is the person that you are going to spend the rest of your life with. That means that is the only person that you will have sex with for the rest of your life. Let go of the idea that "but I love her so I will love making love to her". Love does not make you compatible. Why do you think so many couples dwindle down to only having sex a few times a year? They just didn't click. I told my parents when I was younger that I could not imagine not knowing what I was getting myself into with someone. I want to be happy in all aspects of the relationship...including sex. |
I've heard that argument, it's nice but I'll follow God's rules, he knows more than anyone and when the Bible was written, he had something unique in store for his followers. |
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| trancebrat |
| quote: | Originally posted by Orbax
hey dont mess up my thread :p
Spec, youre adorable, but stop baiting, its too obvious. |
You know that I respect your decision to wait. I don't drink and you don't have sex. :p |
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| spec |
| quote: | Originally posted by Orbax
hey dont mess up my thread :p
Spec, youre adorable, but stop baiting, its too obvious. |
Piss off, I'm trying to fix the circuitry on some backward brains here. |
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| idoru |
| quote: | Originally posted by trancebrat
My unsolicited two cents.
I respect those of you that are waiting to have sex for whatever reason. If you are doing it for religious reasons then that is something that I won't address because that decision should be respected. Those that don't really have a reason there are some things that you should know that most people just never talk about. It is possible that you and your partner may end up not being compatible in the bedroom. I don't care what anyone tells you...if you are not compatible your relationship is headed for trouble. I have dated people where I thought that things were good and had a lot of potential, but when it came down to it the sex was just horrible. You may think that you will just "work" on it and things will be all better. It's just not that easy. Once you have sex you will understand what I am talking about. For me it wasn't an option because after a few times of "trying" I just completely lost interest. You may think that sounds shallow and maybe to a degree it is. You have to remember this though...when you get married that is the person that you are going to spend the rest of your life with. That means that is the only person that you will have sex with for the rest of your life. Let go of the idea that "but I love her so I will love making love to her". Love does not make you compatible. Why do you think so many couples dwindle down to only having sex a few times a year? They just didn't click. I told my parents when I was younger that I could not imagine not knowing what I was getting myself into with someone. I want to be happy in all aspects of the relationship...including sex. |
Good points. But I think that marriage can exist without sex if sex isn't a big deal to them going into it. |
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| idoru |
| quote: | Originally posted by spec
Piss off, I'm trying to fix the circuitry on some backward brains here. |
I like my brain backward, and I always will. Thanks for trying, though. |
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| Orbax |
| quote: | Originally posted by Michael19
yet all still fall for it |
helllooo ignore? hehe. ahhh well. whaddya gonna do.
Personally I dont think sex is a big deal. Just like alcohol, drugs, and the plethora of other things that have a puritanical stigma attached to them. I think there is a time and a place, and when those two requirements are mean, bling. So far I havent met a *hot* girl who only wants sex with me. Yeah, I couldve lost my virginity to a witch (im dead serious, we kind of made out once) but im pretty glad I didnt, even though it wouldve been freaky and a good story to tell.
and im all about stories.
Again, whaddya gonna do? I need more hotties. Nothing worse than having a girl sit on your lap when youre playing games and you push her off because the game is cooler than the idea of her naked in your hands.
Maybe im just a jerk?
bah :D |
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| Seventil |
| quote: | Originally posted by trancebrat
I want to be happy in all aspects of the relationship...including sex. |
Amber, you were right on target with a lot of stuff you said...
However, there is one extremely important factor you didn't mention.
Two people who base their relationship on love for each other - but more importantly - love for God - will be happy and intimate beyond anything a non-God fearing couple could ever imagine. |
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| JayD |
Sigh.
Why the hell does a good conversation have to turn into an argument because of one person? I agree.. It's different stating your opinion than just going out and attacking other people.
JaY |
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| Vlad |
| tta, I dont even know why you even bother, just ignore ignorant people. I totally understand and respect why your saving yourself. Im not exactly saving myself for marriage, but I am saving for the right person - as I have said. I just figure, if Im gonna do it, I want to do it with the right person for the right reasons [this varies from person to person]. |
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| trancebrat |
| quote: | Originally posted by Seventil
Amber, you were right on target with a lot of stuff you said...
However, there is one extremely important factor you didn't mention.
Two people who base their relationship on love for each other - but more importantly - love for God - will be happy and intimate beyond anything a non-God fearing couple could ever imagine. |
I understand where you are coming from, Daniel, and I respect your statement. ;) |
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| spec |
| quote: | Originally posted by Vlad
tta, I dont even know why you even bother, just ignore ignorant people. I totally understand and respect why your saving yourself. Im not exactly saving myself for marriage, but I am saving for the right person - as I have said. I just figure, if Im gonna do it, I want to do it with the right person for the right reasons [this varies from person to person]. |
But when you get the right person its much better to know what you are doing. |
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