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| Slylee |
Ok I’d like to think of myself as pretty on the ball…I mean, 90% of the time, I can pick up on unspoken words or motives in situations or “read people” if you will. But I’m not one of those chicks who thinks she’s knows everything…I have misread people and situations plenty of times, so I know that I’m not right ALL the time. But I dunno, I feel really strongly about my instincts and I trust my own judgement a lot.
Anyway, since the majority of the members on here are guys, I have a question for you.
Are you usually full of when acting “sensitive” or “interested” in what a female says? Let’s say a chick you’re seeing/dating or just a female friend in general. Is it true that MOST of you are usually just interested in sex and you just go through the motions to get laid?
This doesn’t necessarily mean that ALL your moves have that motive behind it. But generally speaking, are most of you that cliché’ guy using stupid lines/tricks to make us think, “aww he has a sensitive side, he really listens to me and cares about what I’m going through”
And I’m not talking about some bimbo you picked up at a club…obviously the motive in that situation is to hit it and split it...lol.
I’m talking about like a cool chick who you are dating and interested in. In the back of your mind, is the goal to pretty much bang her, and then take it from there?
Or...
Are you not completely driven by your penis? I mean do you generally enjoy a female’s company and listen to her and hey, if u guys screw, that’d be cool too…I mean if things are going well, it's a given that you will eventually. |
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| DOOMBOT |
I am completely honest with my girlfriend. Wouldn't be seeing her if I felt the need to lie to her. Would pretty much defeat the purpose of being in a serious relationship with someone, for me atleast.
When I was out just trying to pick up girls for fun? Yeah, I was a bullter. Thing is, I would only bull to girls I knew I didn't want to see again or just wanted to keep it a "thing". As for the girl I am dating now, I knew I wanted to continue seeing her so from the very start I was completely honest with her.
To be honest though, this question will go either way. It is good for discussion but I wouldn't base anything off of the answers you get in here. Most of my friends are bullters in serious relationships. |
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| Slylee |
i wasn't asking if u LIE to your girlfriend...that's a totally different subject.
i'm talking about when ur dating around and u find a chick that's pretty cool...is your main focus getting her in bed first, or getting to know her first? |
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| kutvolkots |
| I don't date, I pay fathers to sell me their daughters. |
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| Floorfiller |
well first off i think you'll get a lot of lying in here...:stongue:
but if i'm dating a girl...i really am into her. it's really not just some act to get p00n and split...and any of my friends that are girls that i haven't dated or wish to date will tell you that i'm like that anyway. i usually try very hard to show that person that i really care about them and spend as much time with them as possible...
and yeah i like sex, but at the same time i like all the other stuff too... |
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| dj tek |
| yeah i mean if its a girl i find attractive and if its the getting to know stage, im gonna try to pay attention to what she has to say, maybe give her a little more positive feedback and what not, with everyone you meet, you know if theres somewhat of a chemistry or not pretty eary on.. and if i dont see that, or if its a chic i have nothing in common AT ALL, no matter how 'hot' you might be, i cant play that fake game... its like, i get turned off by it that her face starts looking ugly... oooohh.. scary.... |
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| DOOMBOT |
| Sorry, I honestly skimmed your thread. Depends on how I feel during the day. Sometimes sure, sex is all that is on your mind and other times not. I mean, this girl I definitely wanted to get in bed. She is hot. But I didnt rush it or anything cuz I wanted the relationship to last. I think this is something that a girl should be able to pick up on pretty easily though if she is with the guy enough. |
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| Swamper |
| The second one.. but it's not phrased properly.. If I'm into her enough to want to date her then sex is not far behind.. however.. the difference of course being - after the sex - you *STILL* want to talk to her / see her again. |
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| Slylee |
Ok I dunno if I’m making myself clear or whatever…sorry if I’m not.
I don’t mean like do u try to bang a girl and then leave. I’m just trying to find out how your motives are prioritized.
Do u really care about getting to know a girl first if she seems cool, and your interest in her is genuine? or is your interest in her exaggerated because u wanna get her in the sack as soon as possible.
and it would be silly to lie...it's an internet forum...please be honest guys:p |
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| NiteMer |
| quote: | Originally posted by Slylee
Ok I’d like to think of myself as pretty on the ball…I mean, 90% of the time, I can pick up on unspoken words or motives in situations or “read people” if you will. But I’m not one of those chicks who thinks she’s knows everything…I have misread people and situations plenty of times, so I know that I’m not right ALL the time. But I dunno, I feel really strongly about my instincts and I trust my own judgement a lot.
Anyway, since the majority of the members on here are guys, I have a question for you.
Are you usually full of when acting “sensitive” or “interested” in what a female says? Let’s say a chick you’re seeing/dating or just a female friend in general. Is it true that MOST of you are usually just interested in sex and you just go through the motions to get laid?
This doesn’t necessarily mean that ALL your moves have that motive behind it. But generally speaking, are most of you that cliché’ guy using stupid lines/tricks to make us think, “aww he has a sensitive side, he really listens to me and cares about what I’m going through”
And I’m not talking about some bimbo you picked up at a club…obviously the motive in that situation is to hit it and split it...lol.
I’m talking about like a cool chick who you are dating and interested in. In the back of your mind, is the goal to pretty much bang her, and then take it from there?
Or...
Are you not completely driven by your penis? I mean do you generally enjoy a female’s company and listen to her and hey, if u guys screw, that’d be cool too…I mean if things are going well, it's a given that you will eventually. |
I think it's a bit of both. I don't put on a show to get laid, and I've waited, while dating girls, before too. On the other hand, sex is fun, and I've been in situations where I can admit I've taken advantage of situations. As you mentioned about yourself, I believe I have a pretty good understanding of women's body language and signs and I have used that before, but I don't know that it's wrong. If I really like a girl, the sex is probably more secondary and more of a bonus than my main goal. There is something cool about the anticipation too. I will admit that I do things that are thoughtful to impress women, but it's not to get into their pants per se.
And Jason's lying. He plays all the women. :p |
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| Slylee |
i'm just asking cuz i've had this convo before w/ the boyfriend and he swears that ALL guys are dogs (like him, hahah) and that the motive is to bang as quickly as possible..and then hey, if she's still cool and u guys end up together, then yay!
i've insisted that there are actually guys out there who don't always think with their penis and have genuinely liked me without that mentality, "she's hot, i wanna bang her". |
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| NiteMer |
| quote: | Originally posted by Slylee
Ok I dunno if I’m making myself clear or whatever…sorry if I’m not.
I don’t mean like do u try to bang a girl and then leave. I’m just trying to find out how your motives are prioritized.
Do u really care about getting to know a girl first if she seems cool, and your interest in her is genuine? or is your interest in her exaggerated because u wanna get her in the sack as soon as possible.
and it would be silly to lie...it's an internet forum...please be honest guys:p |
You have to keep in mind that it depends on the girl. If I'm really interested then I almost want to wait for sex, but it also depends on the situation. If things get hot and heavy, I'm not likely to be able to control myself, but if she wants to wait, I'll respect it. |
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