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good looks & great personality a nono? (pg. 5)
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| Floorfiller |
| quote: | Originally posted by Slylee
jason don't even TELL me u don't think ur good looking.:rolleyes:
dont be stupid. the first time i saw your picture i was like woah...a lot hotter than i had expected, that's for sure. :p
i mean really...put things in perspective...u could be a midget with a mullet!
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well seriously...i'm not trying to draw a lot of attention or anything, but we all have issues with the way we look...i've always had a lot of issues with that and confidence problems because of it...its something i'm always working on. i mean, just like we talked about working out jamie...until i get there...i'll probably always be concious of that kinda stuff and worry about what people's perceptions of me are...just the way i am... |
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| Kaidreas |
| quote: | Originally posted by Floorfiller
i think the key to the equation is modesty.
to be honest i hear that i'm attractive a lot from lots of girls, but i'm so messed up and have such issues with my appearance that i'm self-concious and reserved...
if you find a chick like that you're set :stongue: :stongue:
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I have the same problems... wanna hang out? |
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| Mr. Pink |
| quote: | Originally posted by Floorfiller
well seriously...i'm not trying to draw a lot of attention or anything, but we all have issues with the way we look...i've always had a lot of issues with that and confidence problems because of it...its something i'm always working on. i mean, just like we talked about working out jamie...until i get there...i'll probably always be concious of that kinda stuff...just the way i am... |
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i have certain issues as well, as i am sure many people do.
hitting puberty at age 10 and getting laughed at when going to swim in the pool during gym class cuz i had hair under my armpit....
...that sucked :( |
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| FallingMoon |
I think we all have issues with ourselves...I know I have many and my confidence isn't exactly great. I obsess a lot about the way I look and it's not even for attention as a lot of people love to say. Some people genuinely have low self-esteem.
It sucks. :sadgreen: |
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| NiteMer |
| quote: | Originally posted by Floorfiller
note to world: Erik is still a dork :stongue: :p |
So true, but girls like dorks. As long as you're not too much of a dork. How are you gonna comment on dorkiness with me. You're at least neck in neck in the race. :p :haha:
Jason is right though, about everyone being self-concious and questioning themselves. I was very insecure growing up and never got it when girls liked me. I think back and it's pretty pathetic, because I could have scored some serious women back then, but didn't take the opportunities. No matter how secure I get, I still have my insecurities and that's pretty normal. I wouldn't want to be so cocky that I didn't. |
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| NiteMer |
| I will say that I've gotten to a point where I'm pretty comfortable with myself though. Not all women are going to be attracted to me, but I believe the majority are, and, if not, I don't worry about it. There isn't a person on the earth that is universally good looking, because it's all subjective. Everyone has different taste and I find it's not worth worrying about whether or not people like you. This works on the friendship level too. I'm not going to change myself to look cool in front of someone, because I think they won't like my personality. If you don't like me, I don't care, because I have enough friends and I can only be me. You know what I mean? |
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| DJ-Kreing^^ |
| People keep complimenting me about my looks but it never effects the way I see myself…I mean, I know im pretty good looking, my self esteem is alright…but I can never get rid of me being shy. I'm always having a hard time hitting on chicks since im afraid of rejection even though it prolly cost me to loose the chance of meeting cool girls…unless im on alcohol or drugs…then I pretty much don’t give a damn about anything :eyespop: |
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| NiteMer |
| quote: | Originally posted by DJ-Kreing^^
People keep complimenting me about my looks but it never effects the way I see myself…I mean, I know im pretty good looking, my self esteem is alright…but I can never get rid of me being shy. I'm always having a hard time hitting on chicks since im afraid of rejection even though it prolly cost me to loose the chance of meeting cool girls…unless im on alcohol or drugs…then I pretty much don’t give a damn about anything :eyespop: |
I can relate to that. I just prefer to let girls approach me, or to be introduced by someone (which works best for me). I'm not the guy that walks over like, "Hey baby, how's it going?" Just isn't my style. |
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| Floorfiller |
well i know that most people are insecure about SOMETHING...i'm just saying that i think for a lot of people it goes beyond that...its not healthy per se...but i think it does. i would say the majority of my life i have been like that and its something that i don't like and that i try and make progess towards.
i just tend to think that the way you view yourself effects to a great extent the personality that you form. i mean girls that are overly confident or guys for that matter...are bitches and s. people that are too self-concious are not dateable because they have a whole other set of issues...its all about trying to be in the middle...having enough confidence about yourself, yet not being full of yourself to the extent that you're a cocky bitch or ...
and i look at my own history with women and this is the honest truth...before my last girlfriend i didn't approach girls, they always approached me and i was like "wow someone likes me" so i'd go out with them and we'd date until they realized that i had a lot of issues and then they'd break up with me. i like to think i'm not like that anymore or working towards being better, but that's the way i was. and i think the fact that i was has a lot to do with the reasons why i really am nice to girls and all of that crap haha :p...
so i kinda feel like if you can find someone who was once like that, but grown as a person...they are going to have a great personality and be hot...
anyway, that was waaay too serious...
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| UWM |
| quote: | Originally posted by NiteMer
I can relate to that. I just prefer to let girls approach me, or to be introduced by someone (which works best for me). I'm not the guy that walks over like, "Hey baby, how's it going?" Just isn't my style. |
Exactly the way I am. |
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| FallingMoon |
| ^^ Guys like that suck...they get no attention from me. :rolleyes: |
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| lücid |
| quote: | Originally posted by NiteMer
I can relate to that. I just prefer to let girls approach me, or to be introduced by someone (which works best for me). I'm not the guy that walks over like, "Hey baby, how's it going?" Just isn't my style. |
hey baby, how's it going? :gsmile: |
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