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good looks & great personality a nono? (pg. 6)
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| Mr. Pink |
Im confident for the most part...
But im shy with women too. I wont approach them unless the situation is right, and I wont even approach them on the basis of "oh i think yer hot and want you"
it has to be a FRIENDLY environment where i feel totally comfortable.
I usually meet girls by just talking in a group and ill crack jokes or whatever. And maybe ill end up talking to that one person and things just happen.
My confidence lies within the natural flow of conversation and my ability to keep that going.
im not the "im hot and im going to strut my stuff" kinda guy.
so not macho like that lol |
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| NiteMer |
| quote: | Originally posted by Floorfiller
well i know that most people are insecure about SOMETHING...i'm just saying that i think for a lot of people it goes beyond that...its not healthy per se...but i think it does. i would say the majority of my life i have been like that and its something that i don't like and that i try and make progess towards.
i just tend to think that the way you view yourself effects to a great extent the personality that you form. i mean girls that are overly confident or guys for that matter...are bitches and s. people that are too self-concious are not dateable because they have a whole other set of issues...its all about trying to be in the middle...having enough confidence about yourself, yet not being full of yourself to the extent that you're a cocky bitch or ...
and i look at my own history with women and this is the honest truth...before my last girlfriend i didn't approach girls, they always approached me and i was like "wow someone likes me" so i'd go out with them and we'd date until they realized that i had a lot of issues and then they'd break up with me. i like to think i'm not like that anymore or working towards being better, but that's the way i was. and i think the fact that i was has a lot to do with the reasons why i really am nice to girls and all of that crap haha :p...
so i kinda feel like if you can find someone who was once like that, but grown as a person...they are going to have a great personality and be hot...
anyway, that was waaay too serious...
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You could be a little more though. :p
It is a fine line. You want to be cocky enough that girls are interested, but not so that they think you're a jerk. It's also different with different girls, so you have to feel them out. I would never think that I'm an , because I'm a nice guy, but I'll act like an , a little bit, when I need to.
Hey, Myra. ;) :p :haha: |
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| Slylee |
| welp... ALLS I KNOW IS I ROCK!:toothless |
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| DC76 |
| quote: | Originally posted by UWM
Exactly the way I am. |
Same here.
An aside here, I always seem to get the attention of the ones that are too young for me. And it feels awkward as blazes. :stongue: |
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| NiteMer |
| quote: | Originally posted by DC76
Same here.
An aside here, I always seem to get the attention of the ones that are too young for me. And it feels awkward as blazes. :stongue: |
I can relate to that too. Especially when I dj younger parties. I have 15-18 year olds oogling me and I feel completely uncomfortable.
Unless they're hot. :toothless :p :stongue: |
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| DC76 |
| quote: | Originally posted by NiteMer
I can relate to that too. Especially when I dj younger parties. I have 15-18 year olds oogling me and I feel completely uncomfortable.
Unless they're hot. :toothless :p :stongue: |
:haha:
I feel uncomfortable even if they're hot. But that's because of what happened in my Grade 12 year... stupid Grade 8s and 9s :rolleyes: Ironically, four years later, I'm being hit on by girls as young as fourteen. And I'm twenty-bloody-two! :haha: There's one in particular that is going to be a knockout when she's my current age... and I'm 28 :p At that point, maybe I'll give her some consideration, but not now.
If she ain't at least a uni student, she ain't for me. |
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| Slylee |
| quote: | Originally posted by DC76
Same here.
An aside here, I always seem to get the attention of the ones that are too young for me. And it feels awkward as blazes. :stongue: |
ha...i always get the attention of the older guys...sucks. |
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| NiteMer |
| quote: | Originally posted by Slylee
ha...i always get the attention of the older guys...sucks. |
Except when it's Rob and I. :stongue: |
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| DC76 |
| quote: | Originally posted by Slylee
ha...i always get the attention of the older guys...sucks. |
I've had a couple of older women make eyes at me, but one was a whore (quite literally) so that scared me off real quick.
A couple of my friends from church thought I was 25 when my birthday rolled around a month ago, though, so if older women come after me, that's probably why :haha: Coz they think I'm older than I really am. |
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| Slylee |
hahah :p
i swear it's always like the 30+ ones who go ga ga over me and act like i'm friggin pam anderson or something...hahaha either that, or little high school boys at my gym...one extreme to the next all the time, even when it's out of my control...lol |
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| DC76 |
| Beats being branded as a sexual predator. Which happened to me in Grade 11 and 12, because some Grade 8-9 stooge in whom I had no interest whatsoever thought I was stalking her. |
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| Slylee |
| :stongue: that musta been TY! |
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