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Cheating (pg. 3)
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| ahway26 |
| Dont waste your time on a piece of sand and give up on the whole beach.(some kind of chinese saying^^) peace~ |
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| ZzZ The Goddess |
| quote: | Originally posted by ahway26
Dont waste your time on a piece of sand and give up on the whole beach.(some kind of chinese saying^^) peace~ |
I thought it was supposed to be dont bring sand to the beach? :conf: |
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| ahway26 |
| lol..i have no clue, i guess its saying You got a whole beach there..dont stress over one tiny peice of sand^^ |
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| ahway26 |
| sand=your ex..... beach= GIRLS! |
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| Moral Hazard |
| quote: | Originally posted by ZzZ The Goddess
Also if you had a girlfriend that cheated on you probably wouldnt want to marry her after that anyway right? |
I don't know... it all depends on circumstance. If I had this d00d's girlfriend I think I would stick around (cause she seems like a real party) but there would be no exclusivity and I would try to leave my emotions at the door. I certainly wouldn't think of it as a relationship with any merit other then sex. The girl would seem to be a whore.... which is a'ight if all you want is someone to have recreational sex with but not ideal if you're looking for love. |
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| Groundhog Boy |
| quote: | Originally posted by ZzZ The Goddess
Right same with me as I am married as well. I agree with you. I would try to work it out with my hubby however they are NOT married, its his girlfriend not his wife.
Also if you had a girlfriend that cheated on you probably wouldnt want to marry her after that anyway right? |
You've got to be kidding me. A legal contract is the basis for you to determine whether to continue being with someone after they've cheated on you. Who cares if he's married or not?
It all depends on the emotional bond, and marriage has nothing to do with that as we all know people who have been together for a few years that are closer than most married couples. |
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| lücid |
| quote: | Originally posted by Moral Hazard
I must disagree with this as an objective statement. While I agree that given the information we've been provided herein in this case the relationship should be terminated, however, not all situations are the same. I can say with a high degree of certainty that if my wife were to cheat on me once I would not end the marriage. If she were to cheat multiple times over a protracted period then yes it would be over but over one instance it would not. One must weigh the gravety of the offence with the worth of the relationship prior to making a decision.... cheating = over is not always the best policy. |
under what circumstances would you accept it? i mean, i agree that a man and woman who are married have more at stake than an couple of 18 year old college kids. but i've cheated and i've been cheated on, and regaining the trust after that is a sticky situation. in my experience, a relationship is never as good after you find out that someone cheated on you, no matter how hard you try to patch things up. and how can you be sure that it won't happen again? i hate to say "once a cheater, always a cheater"... but when you up the trust and communication in a relationship, it's pretty much over in my eyes. |
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| ChemEnhanced |
| if she didn't give you pooper sex then who care...go find someone who will give you pooper sex. |
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| Boomer187 |
| open relationship? |
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| lücid |
| quote: | Originally posted by Groundhog Boy
You've got to be kidding me. A legal contract is the basis for you to determine whether to continue being with someone after they've cheated on you. Who cares if he's married or not?
It all depends on the emotional bond, and marriage has nothing to do with that as we all know people who have been together for a few years that are closer than most married couples. |
agreed... i have a close male friend who always tells me "i'll stop cheating on her once we get married", as if getting married will make them more "in love" or something. i always tell him he's full of and that he shouldn't even consider marrying someone if he cheats on her.
marriage is just a piece of paper that proves you're legally married. it's not representative of the love and bond between 2 people. if you're with someone you love, you should respect the relationship the same way whether you're married or not.
and a big thumbs down to the people who stay together just because dealing with someone who cheated on you is easier than getting a divorce. |
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| Moral Hazard |
| quote: | Originally posted by lücid
under what circumstances would you accept it? i mean, i agree that a man and woman who are married have more at stake than an couple of 18 year old college kids. but i've cheated and i've been cheated on, and regaining the trust after that is a sticky situation. in my experience, a relationship is never as good after you find out that someone cheated on you, no matter how hard you try to patch things up. and how can you be sure that it won't happen again? i hate to say "once a cheater, always a cheater"... but when you up the trust and communication in a relationship, it's pretty much over in my eyes. |
If it were a one off instance I would likely let it go. I say this because I know my wife very well and cheating would be completely uncharacteristic of her. I would of course need to explore why it is she cheated so that we may correct the problem.
You cannot be sure it won't happen again, however, the question is whether or not you are willing to take that gamble. The love between my wife and myself is strong enough and important enough for me that I would definately try to work through the problems, the trust issues, and take the chance that I may get hurt in the future rather then throw away everything we had and could have in the future. I suppose it is just a question of what the relationship means to you and your faith in the other person. |
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| Moral Hazard |
| quote: | Originally posted by lücid
i have a close male friend who always tells me "i'll stop cheating on her once we get married" |
Chemy..... sound familure??? |
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