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Cheating (pg. 7)
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| StanVoid |
i'm really sorry to hear your story bro, it's truly horrible. The best thing you can do now is just lose all contact with her, because she is not worth a single bit of it. And yeah, the fact that you bought her gifts while she was with someone else -- well that will piss just about anybody off, but like this happens sometimes.
Best of luck in your emotional dealing with this, it'll be tough but you'll get through it.
Stan. |
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| Groundhog Boy |
| quote: | Originally posted by Tranceporter99
actually it was her birthday the week she was going around with that guy. I bought her $160 worth of presents and called her to see where she was so i could give them to her. she was at her friends boyfriends house and she would call me later, she sounded irratated. so i just dropped them by her friends car and she called me later to thank me. turns out she was hooking up with the guy when i dropped them by. id rather her use the presents than not, but it gets to me that she has the nerve to use them (a j-crew sweater, a coach wallette, and perfume) everyday when I bought them while she was cheating on me, lieing to me, and leading me on. |
I'm telling you from my own similar experience, you need to get away from this girl. I tried to stay with my ex when she did similar stuff (I was living with her family while she was cheating on me, so it was even worse). In the end, nothing's going to bring her back to you (nor would you want her back anymore), and the only thing that staying in touch with her is going to accomplish is jading you even more, which will assist in ruining future relationships for you. She sucks. It's too bad that people like her exist, and that like my ex, she'll go through this without any repercussion, only inflicting damage on you. I suggest taking some time off, hooking up with a few random girls to get some self-esteem back (not to mention having fun), and moving on. |
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| Cal |
| Well, at least now you know that getting all clingy and needy with a girl makes her stop liking you. |
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| Mr. Pink |
oh man
dont be a
ditch the bitch
nuff said |
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| Arbiter |
| I didn't read that big ugly block of text, but I can tell you that if you're not cheating, then you aren't trying. |
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| lücid |
| quote: | Originally posted by squirrelly
You just said you've cheated before, and yet you're willing to say "once a cheater always a cheater"? So since you've cheated before you've got to be cheating on the boyfriend you have now? |
nope. every relationship is different. if i cheat on someone, it means i'm not happy with them. it doesn't mean that i cheat on every person i date.
with that said, i am very happy with my current boyfriend and the thought of cheating on him makes me sick.
also, in my post i did say "i hate to say 'once a cheater always a cheater'" because i really hate that saying. but the point i was trying to prove is that when you cheat on someone, the trust is gone, and you're always going to have the thought in the back of your mind that they cheated on you. |
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| Tranceporter99 |
| quote: | Originally posted by Cal
Well, at least now you know that getting all clingy and needy with a girl makes her stop liking you. |
why would you say that?
i mean, obviously that statement is true. vice-versa for guys as well. but i just dont know why you would say that in my current situation. |
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| willson |
| quote: | Originally posted by Tranceporter99
So, my girlfriend and I had been dating for 8 months. My first girlfriend etc.... |
Pretty much same thing happened with me and my ex,although she didn't give head and kiss.
It got to the point where I found everythign out,and because I was a stupid mofo I kept going back until her mum (we were close as we knew each other well) told me to finish it for my own good,at which point I did.
Now,I am happy.
End of, leave her,and you'll be happy long run,yes it sucks but apparently she likes it that way ;) |
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| Streakfury |
Dear God, you bought her presents? It was slightly hard following what you've written, but I hope for your sake that you didn't know she was cheating on you when you bought them for her. I'd be so pissed if that happened to me. Well, if you get the chance, pour the perfume you bought her down the sink and piss in the bottle.
Seriously though, you need to forget about her. It can be hard to just accept that you're not with someone you cared about for so long any more, but the sooner you realise that there are so many slutty bitches out there the better.
All you can do is learn from your experiences. Maybe she felt like she couldn't open up to you enough to tell you that she had lost interest in you. Sure, she sounds like a bit of a slut anyway, but in the end, you learnt something from it.
I'm sure you'll bounce back OK. Have a beer on me.  |
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| Cal |
| quote: | Originally posted by Tranceporter99
why would you say that?
i mean, obviously that statement is true. vice-versa for guys as well. but i just dont know why you would say that in my current situation. |
Why?
A lot of guys tend to get really emotional when a girl leaves then, especially if its their first one, like in your case. I don't know you, but from your post that's what it sounds like to me.
A far better approach is to look at your eyes in a mirror and say to yourself: "It's your fault she left you. You made mistakes in the way you dealt with her and you paid for it. Your behavior made her stop liking you. YOU made her cheat."
You need to accept that. And then you need to sit down and think about what exacty you did to drive her away, and make sure that you NEVER do that in your next relationship.
Looking at dealing with girls as a learning experience, as acquiring a skill, is really the best way to deal with relationships/dating. |
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| squirrelly |
| quote: | Originally posted by Cal
Why?
A lot of guys tend to get really emotional when a girl leaves then, especially if its their first one, like in your case. I don't know you, but from your post that's what it sounds like to me.
A far better approach is to look at your eyes in a mirror and say to yourself: "It's your fault she left you. You made mistakes in the way you dealt with her and you paid for it. Your behavior made her stop liking you. YOU made her cheat."
You need to accept that. And then you need to sit down and think about what exacty you did to drive her away, and make sure that you NEVER do that in your next relationship.
Looking at dealing with girls as a learning experience, as acquiring a skill, is really the best way to deal with relationships/dating. |
That's the most ed up advice I've ever seen given. How do YOU know it was his fault? Chances are it wasn't. You don't know his story, and you don't know the entire situation, so to automatically assume that this fellow is in the position that everything is his fault, is retarded (for lack of better words). So if you're a perfect boyfriend and you treat someone like a queen and she cheats on you, it's your fault? You make no sense. |
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