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I'm a pro loser. (pg. 7)
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| prolikewhoa |
| quote: | Originally posted by Turbonium
Ok, so I'm studying at the library in a cubicle, and this super cute girl who I've seen (noticed) in the library before sits at a cubicle near me (one over, and behind). She is seriously cute and I would ask her out... if I knew how. I'm a moron with this . But I had very very slight sense that she may kinda like me too, judging from previous and unnecessary eye contact.
So anyway, I stayed to study for maybe 2 hours more than I would have had the girl not been there, since I thought "maybe something will happen" (yes I'm ing lonely/pathetic). But I was actually hardcore studying, so it wasn't time wasted.
You know how they say "you never know"? Well, GUESS WHAT HAPPENED!!!!!!
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NOTHING!!! Yea, I'm a ing loser.
A bit before she left, I asked her for a calculator (I actually needed one), but it was so awkward and spontaneous, I think she was like "wtf". Wasn't rude or anything, but I think I freaked her out. I mean, I don't even know her or anything.
me: "Excuse me, do you have a calculator I can borrow?"
(man, I felt like grade 4)
her: "A what? oh... a calculator? No, sorry."
(meanwhile I'm doing a gesture with my hand, like it's a calculator, treating her like she's a moron and like I'm a mime)
me: "It's ok, thanks."
her: "..."
. I think I just ruined any chances I might have had in the future on striking up some conversation that can actually LAST and lead to something, like asking her out. All for a stupid calculator. Shouldn't have used it as an excuse to talk. I should have waited for some other day where I'd get a better chance/situation.
I am a moron.
btw she's in fourth year I'm pretty sure, judging by the book she was reading. I'm third year. That can't be a good thing either. |
wow. okay sweetie. you are really over-analyzing this .
she probably didn't think you were weird, she just didn't hear you right. don't be so damn hard on yourself. even pretty girls don't bite, and the ones that do are usually spoiled little bitches anyway.
girls are into confidence, and they like attention, so just work up your courage and go talk to her, ask her out for something small, like coffee after y'all are done studying or something. it's not gonna scare her, there are usually coffee shops in the library anyway.
chances are, she'll give you a shot. WORSE CASE? she says no, and you're back to where you are now, except you're not all ing stressed out. |
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| Deeedeee |
| quote: | Originally posted by Boomer187
dont send teh calculator! |
LMAO |
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| XaNaX |
The problem that most guys have is that you go into it with the wrong mindset. Nobody likes being rejected so you see a hot girl and you sit there like "damn should I go ask her out or not. I don't want to look like a tool if she shoots me down" and get all worked up over it cuz if she rejects you then its like some big blow against your manhood or something.
So whats the solution? Don't ing ask her to call you or ask her out on a date. Just go up an say something like "Want to take a study break and go get a coffee?" or ask her something about the book she is reading or class she is studying for. If it leads nowhere then who cares, you just move on to the next girl. If she is interested she will make sure it goes somewhere at that point now that you have started the conversation. Just don't it up by talking about calculators on your way to get coffee. |
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| Spirit5 |
| I know how you feel. It's hard for me to talk to girls it seems like, unless they say something to me first. Occasionally I get the guts to go up to a girl and talk. Sometimes I get too nervous and I always feel like she'll have a boyfriend, and my chances with her are zilch. I mean i've had plenty of girls in the past as friends, but hardly any girlfriends. I've always felt it would be nice to at least have one, steady girlfriend for once. My biggest problem is finding ways to meet the type of girl i'm looking for. There's hardly anything to do at my school, as far as social groups where I can meet people. Other than a few times in my classes where we do group work, there's not much time to talk. Guess I just have to wait till I graduate and move on to a university. I'm in a community college right now, one more semester left. |
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| Ego-Braniac |
| quote: | Originally posted by Deeedeee
Ew disgusting. I can't believe you let me InTARflirt with that scum :wtf: |
Me neither. |
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| pseudonym_2 |
what a loser.
i don't feel so bad anymore. |
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| pseudonym_2 |
all harshness aside. simply ask her out to something simple: coffee, a walk, offer help, adderall, ...
be a bit of a chauvanist. what's they worst? she's gonna say no. then at least you know rather than thinking about what could have been. and that feeling of not knowing is a downward spiral.
starting conversation? it's a tough one, i suck at it as well. one of my friends (let's call him James) has a thing that seems to work. he'll go up and say something completely random like, i dunno, "is your calculator made of jello?" she'll be confused for a moment but you now have her full attention. say the first thing that comes to your mind - it doesn't have to meaningful. we always try to say something smart and meaningful and that's where we fail - we think too much. |
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| lucas ss |
Situation 3 - Girl has detected you and shows signs of aggression
If you have followed the advice listed above, hopefully you have a bit of distance between the girl and yourself. You'll need to
• Assess the situation. Are you dealing with a black girl or a whitey? Are there cubs involved? Are there climbable trees nearby (and do you have sufficient time to climb them)?
• Do Not Run. You can't outrun a girl so don't even try. Despite rumours to the contrary, black and whitey girls can outrun a human on ANY terrain, uphill or down. People will tell you that you should run downhill when chased by a whitey. This is simply a myth - don't try it!
• Try to retreat slowly. Back up slowly and try to put more space between you and the girl. Talk calmly so that it can identify you as human, and slowly back up. Keep your backpack on as it can provide protection if necessary. Don't make direct eye contact, but keep a close look at the girl as you back away.
• Climb a tree if available. If you have enough time, and the girl continues to move closer, take advantage of a tall tree to climb. Remember, black girls are strong climbers as well. Whities have also climbed short distances up trees after people. You want to get at least 10 m (33 feet) high to reduce the chance of being pulled out of the tree. Even though some girls can come up the tree after you, the hope is that they will feel less threatened, and thus less likely to chase you up the tree.
• If the girl charges you. Girls will often bluff charge before attacking. This is designed to allow enemies to back down before the girl needs to actually make contact. It evolved as a way to prevent encounters with enemies and it may provide you with an opportunity to back away.
• Use your pepper spray. This is a last resort. Pepper spray is only good at very close range (5 m or 15 ft). Wind will reduce this effective range even farther (and may blow the spray back into your face). If the girl approaches within this range, point the spray at its eyes and discharge the contents. Hopefully, this will either disorient the girl to allow you to escape, or at the very least deter it from attacking. Once you have partially discharged a canister of girl spray it should be discarded. While the spray may deter attacks, the smell of pepper can act as an attractor.
• If a black girl (or any girl that is stalking you) makes contact. If the attack escalates and a black girl (or any girl that appears to have been stalking you) physically contacts you, fight back with anything that is available to you. Black girls tend to be more timid than whities and fighting back may scare the girl off. In addition, if a girl is stalking you than you are in a predatory situation and fighting back is your only option. This also applies to any attack at night as these may also be considered predatory in nature.
• If a whitey makes contact. As above, if you believe the girl to be stalking you, fight back with everything you have. In general though, playing dead in a daytime whitey encounter tends to reduce the level of injury sustained by most attack victims. Many whitey attacks are defensive in nature, and playing dead may show the girl that you are not a threat. Keep your backpack on as it will provide added protection. The best position is to lie on your side in a fetal position. Bring your legs up to your chest and bury your head into your legs. Wrap your arms around your legs and hold on tight. You may also lie on your stomach, backpack on, and place your hands behind your neck to protect that vulnerable area. Do not play dead until the last moment. Staying on your feet may allow you to dodge, or divert an attack.
• After the attack. Once the attack has ended, remain patient. After a few minutes, try to determine if the girl is still in the area. If the girl has moved on, you should make your way towards assistance as quickly as possible. |
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| Slylee |
| quote: | Originally posted by reketor
"Say baby, how bout you, me, and this calculator go out for some steak dinner? You don't mind her tagging along, do you TI-92?"
*silence*
"Well, he's a bit shy right now, he doesn't really open up until you learn how to use his curve fitting function. So what do you say? You. Me. My calculator. Steak. Fat people. And maybe more later on? TI-92 said we could use his apartment." |
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| Slylee |
| I just don’t understand what the big friggin deal is about approaching people and not feeling confident about it. I’m not saying that I don’t have my own insecurities and stuff, but it’s a friggin stranger! You don’t even know them, you just find them attractive and want to get to know them. Just get some damn cajones and go talk to a girl. If she shoots you down, it. NEXT! Each time you approach a girl and/or get rejected, it just builds character. I mean seriously…what have you got to lose? |
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| Psy-T |
| come on dont hesitate, hesitate and show me your affection :tongue3 |
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| all-nite-freak |
| it figures a tranny lover likes tom novy |
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