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Online dating (pg. 17)
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| spitty |
| quote: | Originally posted by fayraree
Long story sweets. Be sure to ask next time we meet! Bottom line is, no matter how much you get to know someone online and over the phone, the person can completely do a 180 when the hits the fan. |
doesn't just apply to online or phone people. |
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| Spin Laden |
good point. For all these fairly new romances that are only a few months old, you don't know what the other person's (or yours for that matter) character is when times get tough. That's when you know whether or not he or she is the one.
- Dr Phil-th. |
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| Orko |
| quote: | Originally posted by The Highroller
It's the exact opposite really. I used to be on a website called MMTO, whose main purpose it was to pick up. This is what I used it for originally, but I started to get really bored and annoyed with profile hunting (I later started using it just for the forums). I found most of the people on that site projected an image of what they wish they were, but in real life were usually really shy and nothing like what they made themselves seem to be. It is a lot easier to socialize and make yourself seem like a confident person online since a lot of people feel a lot less akward when communicating online.
Secondly, I find that these online dating profile sites really inflates girls' egos. Because of the artificial confidence I just mentioned, suddenly every guy who is too nervous to talk to girls in person is messaging every single girl he thinks is hot. You then have girls getting tons of messages everyday, which boosts her ego like crazy. Sorry, but I don't feel the need to compete with 50 losers to get a girl's attention.
Also, even if you do end up finding a girl who's intersting, I find the whole online courting thing to be a bit lame and something that I'm not really interested learning how to do. "Hi babie u look sexi, and ur so funny haha wanna go for dinner?" :rolleyes: |
As a male, this post really does make a lot of sense.
Now to get around that whole awkward introduction, and courting, an overhaul would be needed. Sites, from what I have seen, primarily match people by age, location, and picture profiles, but none of these things really tell you much about the person.
Are there sites out there that actually match you based on interests, motives, hobbies, or any of the other characteristics that make you a person? |
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| Endlesswave |
| quote: | Originally posted by Porky
lies!!!
we were laughing with smiles going around the last time we had a conversation! you're a funny guy man!
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lol @ lies. It depends man, if I hit up a situation where I'm not completely comfortable, it's awkward. TA events, events when I'm with a bunch of friends etc are different. (This is excluding vacations because usually I'm automatically comfortable enough). When things aren't like that then it's just awkward. I dunno. |
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| Spin Laden |
| quote: | Originally posted by Orko
As a male, this post really does make a lot of sense.
Now to get around that whole awkward introduction, and courting, an overhaul would be needed. Sites, from what I have seen, primarily match people by age, location, and picture profiles, but none of these things really tell you much about the person.
Are there sites out there that actually match you based on interests, motives, hobbies, or any of the other characteristics that make you a person? |
www.tranceaddict.com :tongue3 |
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| Endlesswave |
LOL @ TA. A lot of people (some of us oldschoolers) on here know eachother really really well, others are just people we party with. Others are in between. TA is all over the place. |
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| EvilTree |
| lol. someone should start a poll: did you meet your significant other through TA :p |
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| Spin Laden |
| if ever you see a totally new TA posting all sorts of pics in the pic thread, and with a pic of herself in her avatar, she's on the hunt ;) |
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| Endlesswave |
| quote: | Originally posted by Spin Laden
if ever you see a totally new TA posting all sorts of pics in the pic thread, and with a pic of herself in her avatar, she's on the hunt ;) |
lol not necessarily, they could just LOVE themselves to death. |
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| DigiNut |
| quote: | Originally posted by The Highroller
Secondly, I find that these online dating profile sites really inflates girls' egos. Because of the artificial confidence I just mentioned, suddenly every guy who is too nervous to talk to girls in person is messaging every single girl he thinks is hot. |
Keep in mind that some of them do it purely for the ego boost. It's not an incidental side-effect, it's their primary motivation.
There's also an insidious addictive effect, because no matter how much attention somebody gets online, it's still not worth as much as 5 minutes of face-to-face. Since people perceive that they're fulfilling a need when they really aren't, it turns into a virtual crack habit very fast and they'll make all sorts of excuses for it (I'm just on for a few minutes, it's been rotten weather lately, I'm just finding people to hook up with offline, I'm just tired, and so on and so forth...)
I really feel sorry for a lot of those girls because what they're doing isn't sustainable. Eventually the fragile ego they build up will get shattered and they'll end up in the same place they were before, with the notable exception of having wasted several months doing nothing. |
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| Spin Laden |
| online dating is just another medium for which to meet ppl. As mentioned before, once you meet up face to face the same courting rules still apply. |
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| Orko |
| quote: | Originally posted by DigiNut
Keep in mind that some of them do it purely for the ego boost. It's not an incidental side-effect, it's their primary motivation.
There's also an insidious addictive effect, because no matter how much attention somebody gets online, it's still not worth as much as 5 minutes of face-to-face. Since people perceive that they're fulfilling a need when they really aren't, it turns into a virtual crack habit very fast and they'll make all sorts of excuses for it (I'm just on for a few minutes, it's been rotten weather lately, I'm just finding people to hook up with offline, I'm just tired, and so on and so forth...)
I really feel sorry for a lot of those girls because what they're doing isn't sustainable. Eventually the fragile ego they build up will get shattered and they'll end up in the same place they were before, with the notable exception of having wasted several months doing nothing. |
Could this logic not be applied to the majority of social networking sites? |
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