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Women who hit their kids in public...hot or not? (pg. 8)
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| pkcRAISTLIN |
| quote: | Originally posted by Frenchie
The people who agree with this whole,"slapping to be a good parent" thing, were you brought up in an unstable broken home at all? |
nope. pares still together more than 30 years of marriage, no domestic violence whatsoever, all children with college degrees, all well-adjusted normal people. probably the main reason i agree with a bit of violence is because i saw the benefit i gained from it. oh and because i hate children. |
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| Slylee |
| quote: | Originally posted by Frenchie
and same to you, trying NOT to hit them. I've been looking after kids since I was 11. No they were not mine but I never ever felt the need to have to raise my hand to them. I've gotten upset, sure, but nothing like, "GET.OVER.HERE NOW. *SMACK*".
Abuse is abuse, I'm sorry. |
yea i did a LOT of babysitting during high school and i you not, some of the kids i watched listened to me more than their parents. you guys are underestimating the power of talking to a kid, using a stern voice, following through with threats, etc...
i babysat my ex boss' 6 year old twin boys and they are ing MONSTERS. one of them kept throwing a pillow at the other one while we were watching a movie and i gave him 2 warnings. still didn't listen and i finally said, "one more time and you're going to your room for the night". of course he tested me and i sent him straight to bed and i took the remote control from his bedroom so he couldn't watch tv in there either. i also checked up on him a couple of times and said, "this is what happens when you throw things at people. it's unacceptable" he cried and whined for the rest of the night until my boss came home lol
i babysat them again after that, and i think he acted up once until i reminded him of the last time i watched them. he was fine the rest of the night. he hates me. lol |
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| Omega_M |
| quote: | Originally posted by Frenchie
The simplest, " No, you cannot have that video game" or, " No, you can't go to Haliey's house today" can teach the the values of respect, patiences and not being a bratty kid. See, most terrible kids we hear about are the spiled Hiltonesk kids who's parents would rather go out and cheat on the wife than teach their little ones how to be a great kid. I was spoild 'till no tomorrow and I think I'm excellent, The family that Jamie talked about is the perfect example as well.
The people who agree with this whole,"slapping to be a good parent" thing, were you brought up in an unstable broken home at all? |
you seem to think that everything is connected. Abusive parents, broken home, beat up children... place for the kids to be. It is not like that.
And no, I've been brought up in a very stable home.
My parents are married for more than 30 years, and my grandparents from both sides lived to see their respective 50th wedding anniversary.
Everybody is educated and we have lived a very normal, stable and happy life. |
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| Marc Summers |
damn nobody liked my genesis video
it's totally related |
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| Frenchie |
| quote: | Originally posted by pkcRAISTLIN
nope. pares still together more than 30 years of marriage, no domestic violence whatsoever, all children with college degrees, all well-adjusted normal people. probably the main reason i agree with a bit of violence is because i saw the benefit i gained from it. oh and because i hate children. |
See, I do understand this POV. I have a few close friends whose story is the same.
I think I mainly disagree with parents who fail to communicate or fail to TRY and do so, so they resort to just slapping the child around like it's a in rag doll or a cabbage patch kid and the kid will just sit there and not think anything of it. |
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| all-nite-freak |
i love how the whites are like oh no, and the non whites are for the beating.
sly i love how the proof is in the pudding is 2 people you know.
lol |
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| Frenchie |
| quote: | Originally posted by Omega_M
you seem to think that everything is connected. Abusive parents, broken home, beat up children... place for the kids to be. It is not like that.
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That is all connected though. Just because it didn't happen to you doesn't mean that it's not connected. It is, and very strongly.
| quote: | Originally posted by Omega_M
My parents are married for more than 30 years, and my grandparents from both sides lived to see their respective 50th wedding anniversary. |
Good for them.:) |
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| Slylee |
| quote: | Originally posted by all-nite-freak
i love how the whites are like oh no, and the non whites are for the beating.
sly i love how the proof is in the pudding is 2 people you know.
lol |
i love how u didn't mention (or possibly even read) the line i posted after those examples:p |
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| all-nite-freak |
| no because what you usually say is too blond to get through without thinking you should have been beaten more.:p |
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| NeoPhono |
Back to an earlier reply (I'm too lazy to quote...maybe I need a spanking), a spank can be "rational." What's irrational is thinking that for every kid and for every instance, simply talking to them, or trying to remove a privilege is going to have an impact. Even more irrational is continuing to try "time outs" and "heart to hearts" with kids as their behavior spirals out of control.
I have a younger cousin who is a perfect example. His parents have decided to take a "hands off" approach and only use tactics such as taking certain things away or trying to treat him like an adult. Now he's in junior high and he's a complete mess. He says what he wants, does what he wants, and has no respect for authorities or others in general. That kid is a poster child for what can happen when parents don't realize what kind of child they're dealing with and treating them appropriately. For every kid that turned out alright without being spanked I can show you at least another (if not more) that turned out poorly.
And in my world a spank used sparingly and appropriately is not child abuse. Just like when I used to get in fights with my brothers it wasn't domestic violence or every time I got in a shouting match with my parents was is verbal abuse. It's called being a kid, doing things on impulse and without thinking, and having parents realize that sometimes a quick, efficient and lasting punishment can be useful. |
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| Omega_M |
| As far as hitting them is concerned, it is difficult to compare babysitting someone else's children and growing up yours. Nobody in their right mind will hit other's children. They will get involved into too much if the children ever complain to their parents. Now raising your own kids ? that's where you have complete control. Besides, the bonding between you and your child is different from that between you and someone else's child. |
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| Frenchie |
| quote: | Originally posted by Omega_M
As far as hitting them is concerned, it is difficult to compare babysitting someone else's children and growing up yours. Nobody in their right mind will hit other's children. They will get involved into too much if the children ever complain to their parents. Now raising your own kids ? that's where you have complete control. Besides, the bonding between you and your child is different from that between you and someone else's child. |
We're not trying to say that it compares but we still know how it is to be around bratty smart ass kids. I can't ever see myself laying my hands on a kid unless it's to pick them up, spin them around and kiss them out of love. spanking, is not out of love, but out of a mindless attempt to keep the inline. I'm being a cunt atm, and i don't care. I'm sorry if I'm offending anyone, no not sorry more like ," yes yes I know I shouldn't be" |
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