I find that physical contact a.K.a (hug) while meeting or greeting friends is my way telling them that Im happy to see them or that I appreciate them.....There is nothing more to it in my eyes nor do I do it for long enough to make the other person feel that they are harassed...My physical contact with most people is usually like a hug that last 2 or 3 seconds max..........Not like those long ones where the person mostly the girl thinking that you feeling her boobies.
Those who ask for it they arent included because thats some next level physical contact.;)
Darkarbiter
So does casual spooning still make you a whore?
Arbiter
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Originally posted by Akridrot
- I don't like being hugged or touched by my mother, sister or any other family members. Nobody. I always push them away. Always. Not even my little baby cousin, even though he's like 3 or 4 (don't know) and always calls my name when I pass him.
- When female acquaintances try to hug me, I never open my arms, I just stay still until they stop. Expression is still: =|
- Even girls I like don't elicit much reaction when they hug me. Weird thing is, when they're really emotional (happy or sad) that makes me not like it. It has to be nonchalant for me to even tolerate it. Sometimes I wonder if it's not the girl I like, but just her looks.
That sounds like my brother. The rest either doesn't or I would not know.
Personally I went without any physical contact other than the odd work-related handshake for almost two years and it bothered me a bit at times, but I certainly didn't feel like I was missing out on a "need." Of course being surrounded exclusively by people I hated probably overshadowed the ancillary effect of not having much physical contact with anyone.
RapidFire
its that feeling of acceptance.
gehzumteufel
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Originally posted by Arbiter
Of course being surrounded exclusively by people I hated probably overshadowed the ancillary effect of not having much physical contact with anyone.
This would be the largest purveyor of why you wouldn't care about physical contact with them. You choose not to associate or interact with people you are not forced, nor required to do so with.
Akridot: Is this a fair representation of your family? From your post it sure seems like it.
mezzir
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Originally posted by gehzumteufel
This would be the largest purveyor of why you wouldn't care about physical contact with them. You choose not to associate or interact with people you are not forced, nor required to do so with.
Akridot: Is this a fair representation of your family? From your post it sure seems like it.
OMFG!
the lil blue guy in the bottom of the picture!
a while ago my friend was in town and we were chillin at his mom's place, anyways we were in the kitchen, both really ing tired from work and just spacing out. I look over and there's a fridge magnet, its a tall rectangle with an oval cut out of it, so you can put it over a picture of someone. the magnet was from wholefoods or something, and it said 'i'm organically grown!' and it had some picture of one of the kids of the house in it. for no apparent reason i walked over to his computer, and google image searched 'robot' and found a picture of a robot that looked just like that, looking straight forwards. i printed it out, and put it in the frame. i know its not that funny, but it still cracks me up to this day
Akridrot
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Originally posted by gehzumteufel
This would be the largest purveyor of why you wouldn't care about physical contact with them. You choose not to associate or interact with people you are not forced, nor required to do so with.
Akridot: Is this a fair representation of your family? From your post it sure seems like it.
I never said that they were like me, no one in my family or circle of 'friends' is like me. That image really doesn't make any sense right now. I don't see them as robots either, if that's what you're getting at.
gehzumteufel
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Originally posted by Akridrot
I never said that they were like me, no one in my family or circle of 'friends' is like me. That image really doesn't make any sense right now. I don't see them as robots either, if that's what you're getting at.
I am not saying you ever said or implied they were like that. I was merely asking a question based on your response to the op's question. In light of this new information though, I really wonder what transpired for you to have evolved into this personality that has an ocd-like hate for touch in almost any way, shape, or form.
Akridrot
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Originally posted by gehzumteufel
I am not saying you ever said or implied they were like that. I was merely asking a question based on your response to the op's question. In light of this new information though, I really wonder what transpired for you to have evolved into this personality that has an ocd-like hate for touch in almost any way, shape, or form.
So do I. I think about my past a lot, and I have a few good theories, but there's no way to be sure which are correct, since I'm no professional. What I've posted only scratches the surface, but that's as far as I'll go (with anyone, I guess).
gehzumteufel
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Originally posted by Akridrot
So do I. I think about my past a lot, and I have a few good theories, but there's no way to be sure which are correct, since I'm no professional. What I've posted only scratches the surface, but that's as far as I'll go (with anyone, I guess).
Interesting. :)
Lomeli
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Originally posted by Akridrot
Physical contact? I guess I'm weird when it comes to physical contact. Very weird. Is there anyone else out there who's similar to me when it comes to being touched? I'll post a few key points
This is me most of the time: =|
- I don't like being hugged or touched by my mother, sister or any other family members. Nobody. I always push them away. Always. Not even my little baby cousin, even though he's like 3 or 4 (don't know) and always calls my name when I pass him.
- When female acquaintances try to hug me, I never open my arms, I just stay still until they stop. Expression is still: =|
- Even girls I like don't elicit much reaction when they hug me. Weird thing is, when they're really emotional (happy or sad) that makes me not like it. It has to be nonchalant for me to even tolerate it. Sometimes I wonder if it's not the girl I like, but just her looks.
- My guy friends usually nod when I pass by, but I hate shaking hands or doing that fist thing or patting shoulders. I just don't like it and I would rather just say hi or bye.
- I don't like hugging up during sex, just penetration (doggy style) is all I want. My expression is still: =| (Yes, I have actually had sex, which is quite surprising.)
- After sex, I HATE being touched. I hate cuddling, kissing, or anything after I orgasm. I am absolutely serious when I say that I just want to leave and never see her again until I want sex.
- When people touch my hands during training, there's always a strange sexual connotation to it in my mind.
- I am extremely stoic when it comes to fighting. People have punched me dead in the face with not a single flinch from me. I don't even have that stone-faced angry look, I'm just like a statue. I don't feel much unless you hit the right spots (like my trainer did when showing me how to knee people. ouch.)
My mother told me repeatedly that I never liked to be breastfed or held as a child, that I always turned away. She told me she just gave up and fed me from the bottle or left me in my crib.
When I was young, I didn't playfight much. Didn't hug much either. Nobody really got physical with me except for real fighting, and sex (when I got older).
Lomeli
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Originally posted by Akridrot
I think about my past a lot
That seems to be a problem that a lot of people have. You need to let go of excess baggage.
