Originally posted by Lomeli
That seems to be a problem that a lot of people have. You need to let go of excess baggage.
You're mistaken here. Thinking about the past is not holding onto excess baggage. Allowing the past to rule your life is. Using the past as a way to learn from your mistakes, understand what you did and why, and just bettering yourself from your decisions is good.
Lomeli
I assumed he was dwelling on something from his past, that's why I brought it up.
aNYthing
I have my moments - I think it has to do with self esteem. I am not big on being cuddled, but I do enjoy physical contact with others. I also have this thing - I can't stand when something is blocking my hearing. Any contact if my ears are as much as touched I try to ensure my hearing is unobstructed. I also don't like when someone touches my hair - must be from days when I used to gel my hair all the time. Having someone touch my hair either made me feel like my hairdo was beign messed up or someone was gonna have sticky hands (which immediately made me feel like it were my own hands that were sticky). I guess I'm a bit OCD that way...
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Originally posted by Arbiter
Of course being surrounded exclusively by people I hated probably overshadowed the ancillary effect of not having much physical contact with anyone.
wait, does that actually mean that there are people you DON'T hate? :D
gehzumteufel
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Originally posted by Lomeli
I assumed he was dwelling on something from his past, that's why I brought it up.
my bad. :p
Fledz
I love physical contact, especially being from a culture where it's encouraged.
It's great heading out and getting a kiss and/or a hug from a girl or just a simple handshake from a guy. It just gives you a sense of belonging to something and gives you the feeling that you're not alone. Nothing worse and more awkward for me than seeing a group of people where everyone kind of just does that awkward hi and clumsy wave because they are afraid of expressing themselves a bit. Hence why I like the Euro and South American cultures a lot more as they are more open to it and it's great.
Affection is awesome when it's wanted.
spiflicated
touching is great unless you're the head of state
tubularbills
HUGE Need....and when it is satisfied, its such a wonderful feeling. there's nothing quite like just feeling someone close to you...whether it be sitting next to each other on the couch, totally non-sexual; or cuddling afterwards (THAT'S RIGHT I CUDDLE AFTERWARDS YOU).
its just a nice feeling to feel someone so close...feeling them breathe, their heartbeat, all that good stuff.
yeah, its nice:gsmile:
Fledz
I approve of cuddling too
Oh ....I can't believe I just said that...
.. YOU! :mad:
tubularbills
wanna mancuddle fledz? don't worry its not gay or anything. its just satisfying a physical need!
Fledz
Oh yea sure man, in a totally non-gay man loving kind of way. As long as I get to be on top....
You're coming over here though. I'm not wasting money on yet another plane ticket.
Meat187
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You know it's easy being someone you feel close to when you feel close to someone who's so close.
Lira
Although I'm a really friendly person, and live in a culture where touching is strongly encouraged, I'm not like that at all. I think got used to hugging people when I greet them just because some female friends were deeply offended when I didn't do it, but I'm much more comfortable just nodding :p
