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| Spacey Orange |
| you're friend's a stupid en bitch. i hate her. |
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| malek |
Why is there 9 pages for this?
Its a no brainer, just don't go and ignore her until they say sorry for this idiocy.
Send the gift via a proxy to add to the insult of not going. |
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| malek |
| quote: | Originally posted by Theresa
I disagree.
When you are having a small and intimate wedding with your closest friends and family, extra people you don't really know don't make the cut.
Period.
A wedding is often considered a celebration of the joining of 2 people. This can be a very intimate thing for people, and they may choose to share this experience with a select group. This usually doesn't include strangers, or acquaintances.
Had she been married to the guy, I could see the reason for the fuss. But she isn't. |
are you out of your mind?:rolleyes: |
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| Theresa |
| quote: | Originally posted by malek
are you out of your mind?:rolleyes: |
Nope.
And I am also not an over-privileged brat who came from a rich family and thinks that everyone should drop 20 g's on a wedding.
*Not saying anyone else here is.* |
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| malek |
| quote: | Originally posted by Theresa
Nope.
And I am also not an over-privileged brat who came from a rich family and thinks that everyone should drop 20 g's on a wedding.
*Not saying anyone else here is.* |
small mindness:rolleyes:, i take my own wedding as an example, my parents didn't pay a penny, we paid for it the wife and myself. Nothing crazy fancy...
but, 20g is nothing when you have 175 invited, you know, family and friends, numbers add up quickly.
If you're cheap with your guests, they'll be cheap in return, that wasn't our case and most of the expenses were paid by gifts ($) people brought us. If you think about it, people brought 100$ on average, thats 17,500$ right there.
Party was great, everyone was invited and enjoying themselves, and the best was that at the end of the day, it didn't cost us that much ;) |
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| Sadface |
| quote: | Originally posted by malek
small mindness:rolleyes:, i take my own wedding as an example, my parents didn't pay a penny, we paid for it the wife and myself. Nothing crazy fancy...
but, 20g is nothing when you have 175 invited, you know, family and friends, numbers add up quickly.
If you're cheap with your guests, they'll be cheap in return, that wasn't our case and most of the expenses were paid by gifts ($) people brought us. If you think about it, people brought 100$ on average, thats 17,500$ right there.
Party was great, everyone was invited and enjoying themselves, and the best was that at the end of the day, it didn't cost us that much ;) |
Maybe, but you can't exactly budget for the gifts you hope to receive, and 20g's is a load of money to put down.
I can definitely understand the reasons for going small with a wedding, so in a normal circumstance I can see why they'd try to cut back on the +1's, but I have to say it seems like the OP's friends are being douches. |
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| Theresa |
| quote: | Originally posted by malek
small mindness:rolleyes:, i take my own wedding as an example, my parents didn't pay a penny, we paid for it the wife and myself. Nothing crazy fancy...
but, 20g is nothing when you have 175 invited, you know, family and friends, numbers add up quickly.
If you're cheap with your guests, they'll be cheap in return, that wasn't our case and most of the expenses were paid by gifts ($) people brought us. If you think about it, people brought 100$ on average, thats 17,500$ right there.
Party was great, everyone was invited and enjoying themselves, and the best was that at the end of the day, it didn't cost us that much ;) |
Maybe you can justify dropping 20 g's for a one day event... I can't. 20 grand doesn't come around easily, and it can be put toward things that are going to last a lifetime. Not to mention, my wedding isn't going to be an excuse for people to eat and drink for free, it is going to be what it should be - a celebration with my closest friends and family.
The expectation that someone "should" have an expensive wedding irks me. Not everyone has tonnes of cash to throw around, and not everyone would like to spend that much money on a one day even when the money could be better spent elsewhere.
I would still like to know whether or not the BF was formally invited, or if his invitation was assumed. That really changes the whole situation one way or the other. |
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| Frenchie |
It's possible to put a wedding together for less than 20 grand?
Ya, that sucks Sara. I think it was a shady move. It shouldn't be that the BF was invited or not. Guest should always be able to bring a guest. |
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| quote: | Originally posted by Vivid Boy
30 bucks for him to eat at his wedding???? dude what a in gnock, I'm sure your bf would bearing a boosta full of the juicea. in italian a boosta is the lil envelope filled with money you give as a gift to every wedding.
babe, I say them and their wedding. Be like "Its quite possible I may not marry this guy, However, I back up every one of my friends in at every possible situation. Frankly, I thought you were the same." |
Eric here summed it up perfectly. Just them both. They're not worth your time if that's how they act.
| quote: | Originally posted by malek
Why is there 9 pages for this?
Its a no brainer, just don't go and ignore her until they say sorry for this idiocy.
Send the gift via a proxy to add to the insult of not going. |
Make sure the gift is a piece of dog turd though. |
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| malek |
| quote: | Originally posted by Sadface
Maybe, but you can't exactly budget for the gifts you hope to receive, and 20g's is a load of money to put down.
I can definitely understand the reasons for going small with a wedding, so in a normal circumstance I can see why they'd try to cut back on the +1's, but I have to say it seems like the OP's friends are being douches. |
You don't drop 20g+ ball at once, its usually over 6-9 months, most of it is paid after the wedding!
Photographers, flowers, dress, cake, video, limo, ... are paid a part before the wedding and the rest after the wedding.
It was very manageable and easier than you can imagine. |
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| malek |
| quote: | Originally posted by Theresa
Maybe you can justify dropping 20 g's for a one day event... I can't. 20 grand doesn't come around easily, and it can be put toward things that are going to last a lifetime. Not to mention, my wedding isn't going to be an excuse for people to eat and drink for free, it is going to be what it should be - a celebration with my closest friends and family.
The expectation that someone "should" have an expensive wedding irks me. Not everyone has tonnes of cash to throw around, and not everyone would like to spend that much money on a one day even when the money could be better spent elsewhere.
I would still like to know whether or not the BF was formally invited, or if his invitation was assumed. That really changes the whole situation one way or the other. |
Free?? Its not free, since you invite close people only, friends and family should be considerate enough to cover their food and drinks, you can't go to a good restaurant without dropping 50-75$ per person with drinks anymore. Anyone with a good judgment and "savoir vivre" knows that.
It's a God damn Wedding, not a run of the mill party, a once in a lifetime event that people close enough to you should be proud of celebrating.
After all, its not only a wedding, its honoring people around you with an event you can be proud of.
I sense a lack of good manners/white trashness on this board, pity. |
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