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| LatinLover |
| Are they divorce yet? |
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| Yohan |
| quote: | Originally posted by squirrelly
No no, I should think about it that way. EVERYONE sees that she's angry I'm happy (since for years I was UNhappy in a bad relationship). She flat out told me "I know I'm supposed to be your best friend, but I will NEVER be happy for you just because you're happy yourself". Even my mother can tell she's trying to do ANY little thing to try and bring a riff between us.
And he doesn't really care that he became UNinvited, because he can't stand the girl. Says she's so negative she makes it hard to like her. But that, is not the point. When we've already gotten the invitations with our names on it, to then turn around and say "oh nevermind, the groom decided nay." is ridiculous. |
how the hell this chick end up being your 'best friend' in the first place?
if I were you, I'd kick her in the throat with a 6 inch stiletto and flush her down the nearest toilet over this sort of insult. |
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| Yohan |
| quote: | Originally posted by Theresa
To be fair, if it is a small wedding, and they are clearly on a tight budget, they have to draw the line somewhere.
I mean, if they made an exception to everyone who was coming to bring the person they have been seeing for a while, then it would no longer be a small wedding.
Obviously neither one of them is very close to your BF, so he is an easy guest to cut from the list when they are trying to shorten it. Some people just don't have the money to have extravagant weddings, and some just want it to be something they share with the people they know, not the people they know and they people they know, you know? LOL!
I think you're taking it too personally, but then again, I wasn't there so I didn't pick up the vibes and I don't know any of the other circumstances surrounding the situation. However, if I were having a small wedding, and my friend was only seeing someone for a short amount of time... and when it came to shortening the list, he would probably be an easy one for me to scratch off.
My own cousin did it to me last year. He was getting married and I was invited. I asked if I could bring the guy I had been with for 2 years and he told me straight up that they simply couldn't afford it.
Nothing to get upset over. |
| quote: | Originally posted by malek
It's a God damn Wedding, not a run of the mill party, a once in a lifetime event that people close enough to you should be proud of celebrating.
After all, its not only a wedding, its honoring people around you with an event you can be proud of.
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And I used to think all guests are allowed to bring a +1. Some sort of etiquette or something.
Isn't weddings one of those occasions where you're NOT allowed to be a cheapskate? FFS. Esp over measly 30 bucks? (and yet people will ring up their credit card to the max with like their 50th pair of shoes)
Who gives a if you know the person your guest is bringing. |
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| Theresa |
| quote: | Originally posted by Yohan
And I used to think all guests are allowed to bring a +1. Some sort of etiquette or something.
Isn't weddings one of those occasions where you're NOT allowed to be a cheapskate? FFS. Esp over measly 30 bucks? (and yet people will ring up their credit card to the max with like their 50th pair of shoes)
Who gives a if you know the person your guest is bringing. |
Wow... didn't expect that from you Yohan. LoL!
Is there anyone here with some fricken sanity!??!
Twenty thousand on a wedding?!??! *le sigh*
Ok, the people who are saying you would drop that much on a wedding, are you getting financial help (are parents pitching in too?), or is it all coming out of your pocket?
I would much rather spend $5000 on a wedding and put the other 15 toward a house, or a car, or a long trip, or toward paying off school loans.... SOMETHING more valuable, something I could show for it (aside from some pictures and video), something that will help the quality of my life in the future with my new husband.
Being able to invite 150 people (most of whom I don't care about, nor know,) is not important to me. Closest friends and family is more intimate and special IMO.
ONE DAY EVENT!! A day that you're all stressed out, you're tired and probably for the most part too distracted with all the little things to really enjoy it... And you're going to drop 20 G's all in one shot on it?
People are friggen nuts. |
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| trunks1022 |
| quote: | Originally posted by Theresa
Wow... didn't expect that from you Yohan. LoL!
Is there anyone here with some fricken sanity!??!
Twenty thousand on a wedding?!??! *le sigh*
Ok, the people who are saying you would drop that much on a wedding, are you getting financial help (are parents pitching in too?), or is it all coming out of your pocket?
I would much rather spend $5000 on a wedding and put the other 15 toward a house, or a car, or a long trip, or toward paying off school loans.... SOMETHING more valuable, something I could show for it (aside from some pictures and video), something that will help the quality of my life in the future with my new husband.
Being able to invite 150 people (most of whom I don't care about, nor know,) is not important to me. Closest friends and family is more intimate and special IMO.
ONE DAY EVENT!! A day that you're all stressed out, you're tired and probably for the most part too distracted with all the little things to really enjoy it... And you're going to drop 20 G's all in one shot on it?
People are friggen nuts. |
20K doesn't sound too bad. and yes it'd be worth it. |
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| Yohan |
| quote: | Originally posted by Theresa
Wow... didn't expect that from you Yohan. LoL!
Is there anyone here with some fricken sanity!??!
Twenty thousand on a wedding?!??! *le sigh*
Ok, the people who are saying you would drop that much on a wedding, are you getting financial help (are parents pitching in too?), or is it all coming out of your pocket?
I would much rather spend $5000 on a wedding and put the other 15 toward a house, or a car, or a long trip, or toward paying off school loans.... SOMETHING more valuable, something I could show for it (aside from some pictures and video), something that will help the quality of my life in the future with my new husband.
Being able to invite 150 people (most of whom I don't care about, nor know,) is not important to me. Closest friends and family is more intimate and special IMO.
ONE DAY EVENT!! A day that you're all stressed out, you're tired and probably for the most part too distracted with all the little things to really enjoy it... And you're going to drop 20 G's all in one shot on it?
People are friggen nuts. |
1. I wouldn't spend 20k on wedding itself...
2. I probably wouldn't invite a lot of people, but the people I do invite do get an option to bring someone with them. It's just etiquette.
3. Sometimes the bride and the groom doesn't even get to pick their invitees... Crazy parents and grandparents lol
4. The wedding is a social function... And it's not all about you and your bride (or groom)... It's a social function, and it has been ever since Ogg Ogg and Ooola decided to formalize their frisky business.
edit: You allow that +1 per guest because sometimes all your guests don't know each other. One person may not know anyone else at all. So instead of being a stranger to everyone (and you certainly won't be able to keep that loner guest entertained all the time) the +1 means that person has someone else to talk to |
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| OrZonE |
| quote: | Originally posted by Theresa
ONE DAY EVENT!!...And you're going to drop 20 G's all in one shot on it? |
You seem dense. malek just explained to you perfectly why an expensive wedding doesn't turn out to be as expensive as you think. His 20K wedding cost him 2.5K...right? |
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| Theresa |
| quote: | Originally posted by OrZonE
You seem dense. malek just explained to you perfectly why an expensive wedding doesn't turn out to be as expensive as you think. His 20K wedding cost him 2.5K...right? |
It isn't the same, and I don't think it really works out. Getting 4 toasters that I wont get to use anyway doesn't really go against the money spent on the wedding.
And really, not everyone spends $150 on your gift. Not to mention, with a lot of +1's the gifts are joint, so you have 2 heads with one gift.
You can't really hope that your gift value is going to make the wedding financially worth it. Besides, why spend the money on a massive wedding in hopes to get gifts when I could go and use the money to buy what I like to begin with, and not end up with 4 toasters?
His 20K wedding cost him 20K, and he got maybe 10K worth of out of it... a big portion of it I am willing to bet he doesn't use, or like. |
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| elFreak |
| Theresa, do you live under an overpass? |
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| malek |
no, my wedding cost more than 20g, closer to 30g. I cheaped out on some things that I now regret like the flowers for example...
And like i said, we got almost 18g in cash that was used to pay what was left to pay.
Honnestly, what I paid from my pocket mostly went on the honeymoon vacations, photographer, her dress and some other little things.
The reception itself was largely paid by the gifts and then some.
And people only brought money, no toasters ;) |
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| elFreak |
| yeah but you married a hot chick malek...if they are ugly it should be chucky cheese. |
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| Ian |
| quote: | Originally posted by malek
And people only brought money, no toasters ;) |
that's mint. I'm gonna get married if that happens :D |
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