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Am I unreasonably jealous? (pg. 10)
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| Cpt.Cocaine |
| A paper-thin excuse like that just says you're nosy and a bad liar. :conf: |
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| samochod |
| Pretty much comes down to trust. Is your SO trust worthy? Do you have a good relationship? If the answer is yes then you have nothing to worry about. Sure when a guys see a hot mama, all he wants is bang, bang, bang but what does that matter? We don't act on every little impulse we have. If the women doesn't initiate and says no to anything inappropriate then nothing is going to happen no matter what a guy thinks. |
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| kr00t0n |
| quote: | Originally posted by Omega_Blue
^5, you just don't do that to your significant other. |
Bull, most of my close friends are female, my best friend of 11 years is too, for me not to spend time with them without my gf in tow seems ridiculous. Trust where trust is due, no?
Just because most people can't have platonic relationships with people of the opposite sex doesn't mean no people can. :p |
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| squirrelly |
| quote: | Originally posted by kr00t0n
Bull, most of my close friends are female, my best friend of 11 years is too, for me not to spend time with them without my gf in tow seems ridiculous. Trust where trust is due, no?
Just because most people can't have platonic relationships with people of the opposite sex doesn't mean no people can. :p |
I think the difference they're talking about is long friendships (like yours) vs making a brand new friend that's a girl and spending tons of time with her.
and I think we've repeated that point like 3406348641 times.
p.s. that was my friend who found that in her husbands email, and we were on the phone and I didn't know what to say to her. On the same hand though - my boyfriend and I both have each others email addresses and passwords and have nothing to hide. I think if your SO gives you the password and says "hey, use my email", no one should have a right to reprimand you for that. Privacy is privacy, and we never use each others email unless we need to - for instance, if he forgot to send out an email to a client he'll say "hey, can you log into my email, check to see if any client's emailed me, and respond to them?" If I do that and come across a strange email, did I do anything wrong? No - he told me to.
I told her if she trusted him 100% to just delete the email and forget about it - because women do a LOT of things to try and come between people's relationships, and if she has no reason to doubt him, then she is really just letting that other girl win. |
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| kr00t0n |
| quote: | Originally posted by squirrelly
I think the difference they're talking about is long friendships (like yours) vs making a brand new friend that's a girl and spending tons of time with her.
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So if I'm in a relationship, I'm not allowed to make any additional female friends? :stongue:
But I can make any extra male friends I wish?
What an odd way to view relationships, imo. |
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| squirrelly |
| quote: | Originally posted by kr00t0n
So if I'm in a relationship, I'm not allowed to make any additional female friends? :stongue:
But I can make any extra male friends I wish?
What an odd way to view relationships, imo. |
Good God, you're a ing moron. What the point that's trying to be made is, when you're in a relationship, you don't make brand new girl-friends, start blowing off your SO, and going out to dinner and going to movies with the new one rather than the girlfriend.
It's about respect. Making new friends is fine, but blowing off your SO to constantly hang out with new girl - not so much.
Honestly, I think you're the last person to really know about relationships since yours are A) always a disaster B) always "OMG OMG OMG I'M IN LOVE WE'RE GETTING MARRIED ASAP and then C) suddenly break up. Soooooo, you're really the last person to be giving advice since you can't seem to maintain a successful relationship, dontchya think? |
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| ChemEnhanced |
| quote: | Originally posted by Akridrot
Short and simple: I don't want my girlfriend to have any male friends who aren't relatives or who she hasn't known for YEARS and treats like family.
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short and simple: yes |
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| kr00t0n |
| quote: | Originally posted by squirrelly
Honestly, I think you're the last person to really know about relationships since yours are A) always a disaster B) always "OMG OMG OMG I'M IN LOVE WE'RE GETTING MARRIED ASAP and then C) suddenly break up. Soooooo, you're really the last person to be giving advice since you can't seem to maintain a successful relationship, dontchya think? |
How that happening once = always a disaster exactly?
Keep in mind that every single relationship any of us get in to will end, apart from one (if you are lucky) ;)
Anyhoo, constant blowing off is rather different to what kermit originally implied, even constant blowing off of your SO for a long-term friend of the same gender is not on. |
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| squirrelly |
| quote: | Originally posted by kr00t0n
How that happening once = always a disaster exactly?
Keep in mind that every single relationship any of us get in to will end, apart from one (if you are lucky) ;)
Anyhoo, constant blowing off is rather different to what kermit originally implied, even constant blowing off of your SO for a long-term friend of the same gender is not on. |
Yes, they WILL end, but I'm talking about having successful long-term relationships. Most people, prior to meeting that ONE, have a series of longer-termed relationships. And you, as most of us in COR have come to find out, meet someone, fall head over heels and talk about how you're gonna be together forever, and then it all comes to a screeching halt. Maybe if you took more time to find out if you were compatible prior to jumping in feet first, you wouldn't have that problem.
And personally, I am not going to go to dinner with a guy I just met while I have a boyfriend. That's usually called a "date". I have a boyfriend to have dinner with, thanks! |
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| Danny Ocean |
| quote: | Originally posted by squirrelly
Yes, they WILL end, but I'm talking about having successful long-term relationships. Most people, prior to meeting that ONE, have a series of longer-termed relationships. And you, as most of us in COR have come to find out, meet someone, fall head over heels and talk about how you're gonna be together forever, and then it all comes to a screeching halt. Maybe if you took more time to find out if you were compatible prior to jumping in feet first, you wouldn't have that problem.
And personally, I am not going to go to dinner with a guy I just met while I have a boyfriend. That's usually called a "date". I have a boyfriend to have dinner with, thanks! |
your antics and your mothering boyfriend. |
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| kr00t0n |
| quote: | Originally posted by squirrelly
Yes, they WILL end, but I'm talking about having successful long-term relationships. Most people, prior to meeting that ONE, have a series of longer-termed relationships. And you, as most of us in COR have come to find out, meet someone, fall head over heels and talk about how you're gonna be together forever, and then it all comes to a screeching halt. Maybe if you took more time to find out if you were compatible prior to jumping in feet first, you wouldn't have that problem.
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Funnily enough, that's, again, only happened once, the jumping the gun thing. What defines a successful long-term thing any way? The longest relationship I've had also was the least legit owing to circumstances.
Besides, a number of short-long-term (medium term?) relationships do far better for finding out about one's self and how different relationships can be than a single very long term one.
Every relationship is a learning curve, and I did get into the game much later than most, meaning I have to play catch-up with drama that most people got out of the way in high school / Uni :p
It's more a case of internet 'anonymity' and wanting to shout about stuff (good or bad) to tonnes of people who actually don't give a damn. I've learnt from that, I'm done with relationships borne from internet forums, 3 strikes and it was time for something different, lol. |
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| squirrelly |
| Hah, now THAT is a true fact. Dating someone on a forum you're on = FTL. Too many people in your shiznit at ALL times and triple the regular relationship drama! |
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