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Am I unreasonably jealous? (pg. 5)
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| smellyblack |
| hint: they guys she has known for years are most likely the ones she has already ed. |
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| squirrelly |
Think of your relationship as the purchase of a used truck. You bought the truck, and you don't really know how many (or who) owners it previously had, and you're ok with that. Now, say you go to the store. A previous owner might look at the truck, walk up to it, try to look in the windows.... but they can't actually get in the truck and drive it away, because it's not theirs anymore. Get it?
I have a best guy friend and he's probably the only guy I'll hang out with one on one, but my hubby and him have met, and they became friends, too! So it works out nicely. |
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| Meat187 |
| quote: | Originally posted by squirrelly
Think of your relationship as the purchase of a used truck. You bought the truck, and you don't really know how many (or who) owners it previously had, and you're ok with that. Now, say you go to the store. A previous owner might look at the truck, walk up to it, try to look in the windows.... but they can't actually get in the truck and drive it away, because it's not theirs anymore. Get it?
I have a best guy friend and he's probably the only guy I'll hang out with one on one, but my hubby and him have met, and they became friends, too! So it works out nicely. |
Women should never use a technical comparison. Ever.
The point is that a truck is unlikely to open the doors for its former owner, inviting him to take a ride. Unless you wear a chastity belt there's a fundamental difference here. |
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| The17sss |
| quote: | Originally posted by Frenchie
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Ummm, no. Making friends, regardless of what sex they are, is making friends. If you're really offended that a grown woman is making friends with the opposite sex then you, sir, have a problem. Ditching you every chance for that new male friends may not be THAT appropriate but If she wants to hang out with a male friend there really is no problem with that. If you really think it's "it's blatantly disrespectful" and " a sign of immaturity" then maybe you're the immature one. , a friend is a friend. You're totally insecure if you wont let it happen. |
Ummmm.. yes. What are you talking about? I never said anyone isn't allowed to make friends, and I certainly didn't say making friends with members of the opposite sex is offensive. Not "THAT" appropriate for a girl to ditch her boyfriend every chance she gets for a new male friend? LOL! How about, not even remotely close to appropriate?
If you have a long term boyfriend and you are ok with him meeting new girls all the time and going out with them 1 on 1 while you sit at home and call that "maturity", then you live in fantasy land. Some of us happen to be a little more realistic to peoples' motives.
A "friend" is not "just a friend". You are smoking crack if you believe that. You must not realize that (single) guys do not become "new friends" with females, regardless of their relationship status, just to be friends with no intentions/hopes of getting some if the opportunity presents itself. And that's what most single guys do... sure, they'll be friends if that's what you'll give them, but believe me they're just waiting/hoping for their window of opportunity. That's why I always laugh when girls act surprised when that "guy friend" finally pours out his feelings or makes his move. Girls should be surprised when it DOESN'T happen. So, yes I would not have a girlfriend that would go out with new guys 1 on 1 all the time because that means she is either naive, and therefore not mature enough for a real relationship, or she's just disrerspectful and needs the attention. |
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| Frenchie |
Friends aren't just friends? :stongue:
I hang out with guys 1 on 1 who have girlfriends and are in a fantastic relationship. I don't understand and probably never will how you can't think a friend can be "just a friend". You pretty much just said it was offensive that making friends with the opposite sex by saying she's not allowed to hang out with them 1 on 1 or when she wants to. What's the point of a friend if you can't hang out? Yeah, I agree that it's not appropriate to hang out constantly but to hang out when she wants to should be fine. Immature people hang out with the opposite sex with hopes that they'll get some. Grown folk can hang out as mature adults and have a mature conversation knowing that that will be the extent of it. It's not that hard to comprehend or to do. You're probably only looking at it from a male point of view so it's understandable you think friends can't be friends because the guy probably expects something. It's not that she isn't mature enough for a relationship..she just wants to hang out with a guy buddy. Yes, some guys just want to be buddies, yet again..not that hard to grasp. |
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| smellyblack |
17 you are so defensive of your woman lol.
in the long run that always blows up imo. If people are going to you over , they will you over no matter what you do. I "let" my gf do whatever she wants, because in the long run if she turns out to be deceptive you just move on and try to find someone who isn't. |
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| lücid |
| girls and guys can truly only be friends when they are either a) both happily taken or b) if there is no physical attraction. |
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| smellyblack |
| quote: | Originally posted by lücid
girls and guys can truly only be friends when they are either a) both happily taken or b) if there is no physical attraction. |
i somewhat agree, even though there is really no sense in trying to control so's. |
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| Frenchie |
| Obsessive people with no trust. |
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| lücid |
| quote: | Originally posted by smellyblack
i somewhat agree, even though there is really no sense in trying to control so's. |
i agree, unless you're dating a dog or a robot. |
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| smellyblack |
| robot vaginas always leave my penis looking like ground beef:( |
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| montana |
this has already been said but
yes. |
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